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My son will be 2 in February.<br><br>
It's getting really irksome-feeling to nurse him. Cringing, sometimes. It's like he's nursing differently. This "yucky feeling" has been going on for several months.<br><br>
In response, I've been using some gentle-weaning techniques. I want to let him self-wean, and I know that isn't the same as gentle weaning. Basically, I haven't been offering. If he wants to nurse during the day, sitting up, I let him as long as he wants. But at night or naps, I've been asking if he can wait till morning, or asking him to unlatch after 5 minutes (or 10, or whatever). If he still wants to nurse, I let him, but it has really cut down his night nursings. He actually fell asleep last night without nursing, and he's slept through the night about 1/3 of this past month. He's never slept through the night before. Oh, and we co-sleep.<br><br>
So. Please tell me to get over it, he's only going to be a baby once, and the benefits of bonding with mommy outweighs my own private squeamishness. I've only got one friend who is still nursing her same age baby. My sister nursed her baby till 2, but because my son LOOKS big, she actually asked me over thanksgiving if he weren't getting kinda old to nurse! The person I thought I had 100% support from. My husband is supportive no matter what I do, as long as I don't let the baby cry (he is a good guy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> )<br><br>
Is it normal to feel so squeamish? Does it pass? Is it all in my head? ARGH!
 

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I know when my period returned (at 26 months pp), I had those squeamish feelings for a few days around that time of the month. The good news is they went away when my hormones got regulated again! Another thought - could his latch have changed? It sounds like you're doing what you need to do to protect your sanity and preserve your bf relationship! Hang in there!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm having trouble with hormones making me sensitive and so about 2 weeks out of the month lately I've been sore with no real way to remedy it. I do get out to the end of my rope sometimes. Last night just when I had decided that 12 minutes was not long enough between nursings and I was going to try something else if he woke up ONE MORE TIME, he finally settled and slept a good stretch so I got a break.<br><br>
Havent' had the squeamishness just the soreness...but I'm doing the same thing, telling myself that I don't have to jump on any extreme solution, I just need to take care of myself to blow off that stress and do what I need to in order to keep going... I don't want to make any changes ds can't readily accept, that is my only self-imposed guideline. One change I'd like to make right now is get his free hand off my other breast. Man is that driving me nuts. I feel like hyperventilating when he does it.<br><br>
My ds is nowhere near forgetting to ask, he actually wakes up asking. Literally. I am handing him off to dh, whenever I get my hackles up, and taking a break.<br><br><br>
I guess that is not really any help to you other than to let you know some of us are going thru those mental/hormonal type of stresses with bf too...
 

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Thanks, girls. It's good to hear I'm not alone right now. I know it's totally normal, but sometimes you just need to hear it.
 

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I also had these feelings when dd was about 2 1/2 and I was almost avoiding nursing but now we have moved past that and as it has decreased in frequency it is much easier to enjoy again. YOu might want to check out the books "How Weaning Happens" and "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" -- I really enjoyed them as my dd got to the stage where I wasn't nursing a baby anymore.
 

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Putting limits on nursing could be causing your toddler to nurse differently. Your reluctance to nurse could be affecting your breastfeeding hormones and that affects you and your toddler. Children benefit from hormones they ingest in the milk. You could try forgetting the gentle weaning and limits and nurse more. You may find that once you put weaning out of your mind that you enjoy nursing more and you won't have those anxious feelings.<br><br>
Children who are able to nurse beyond 3 years are very lucky. They may not have to have braces because they have nursed until all their baby teeth have come in. Human milk changes to meet the child's needs. The child may have fewer illnesses, milder symptoms, and get well quicker. The worldwide average age of weaning is over 4 years.
 

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I had next to no support to nurse till my son turned 2, I have NO support (other than my husband) to nurse beyond that.<br><br>
It's great to be encouraged to keep thinking in the long term. Thanks especially to the last poster. I needed that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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