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So here's the back ground. This semester DH goes to school from 8a - noon and 5:30p - 9p, so I do almost all the kid stuff by myself.<br><br>
I decided to take all the advice here and get myself some designer maternity jeans, Mavi brand from EBay. Washed today with 4 other pairs of kid jeans. The kid jeans had red lip stick, and red nail polish in the pocket (taken from my mom's halloween costume) so once everything was put into the dryer the red spilled onto everything. When I pulled everything out of the dryer, it looked like a dead body had been in there, red everywhere. On my jeans, on the kids jeans, on everything. I cried immediately. Called my mom asked what to do. Said fill washer, add 1 cup bleach and wash again because the jeans couldn't get worse. Well I sent DH a text asking for bleach, vinegar, and nail polish remover. To do the bleach & vinegar together and use the remover on my dryer. of course he called to ask why i needed this concoction. I explain what happened, he says the girls are getting spanked when they get home. I explain that it was an accident and while I agree a punishment needs to be, not a spanking, it was not intentional. He's screaming at me on the phone, were his clothes in there and ruined too. I say to chill out, his clothes weren't in there, he stops yelling. Comes home, still yelling. I ask him to make me lunch for me because B had been crying all day and wanted to be held. He then yelled again because he'd been in class all day and was hungry (it's 11:30). I say fine, don't do it, I'll do it myself, I'm yelling back by this point. He makes my sandwich anyway (grill cheese with ham (supposed to be) but he burns it and leaves off the ham. I threw it away because I couldn't stomach the idea of burnt. He calls Bank of A to talk about the stimulus rate reduction their doing and if we qualify. He's on the phone and on hold for an hour and 45 minutes. B had a Dr appt at 3:30 and DH says he's going to the gym can I be home in time for the kids to get off the bus. I suggest he take B in, but since I'm home with him all day right now that I need to do it since I know what's going on. I get home kids get home DH is sitting on the couch. I ask about dinner, he says he has to leave for school. B is crying, K needs homework help, H is crying because she has to do all the kitchen work (dishes, wipe table, vacuum after dinner) as her punishment for the stuff listed above. DH tells me he doesn't have time to help, and he wacks K on the shoulder with tongs on his way out to turn on the grill for me. K cries then, I freak out because he did this, he yells again. WTF is going on. He does zero to help me today, he gets tons of self time, and then he whacks a kid with tongs because he's going to slow on homework.<br><br>
Now DH is normally wonderful and helpful and loving, but he's been a huge horses ass today and yelling at me for things unknown all day long and I've been so sad all day long. He left for school mad and I was mad/sad because he didn't understand why he can't just whack kids with kitchen utensils.<br><br>
Oh, I tried the drano test today, I used 3 different kinds, 1 generic brand powder, 1 drano gel, 1 generic liquid, all turned green or brown, but since every web site says something different about that, who knows which one is right.<br><br>
Oh, the bleach and remover took all the stains out of my designer jeans so their fine, and I only had to throw away 1 kid jean, 1 kid shirt, and an outfit of B's. Oh their jackets from last season were in there so I could wash and sell them, guess I can't sell them now, they are both terribly ruined. Thanks for listening mamas!!!
 

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Oh Tenk I'm so sorry. Reading your dilema made me wanna cry. I'm sorry you dh is stressed and you have little to no help. I was married once to and know how tough it can get at times. No advice just hugs and feel free to vent, we are here for you. And I'm SOOOOO glad your jeans were saved. The thought of those getting ruined made me wanna cry. I wish there was something I could do to help. Another poster in another ddc said it perfectly, I wish there were a real life mdc community where we all were to help each other out.
 

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I'm sorry it was a rough day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Wow, what a day. It almost sounds like DH has something else going wrong at school or something and you got the brunt of it. Yuck.
 

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Well I slept great last night and DH even got up and hugged me and said I love you. Since I went to bed without him last night that part wasn't an option. He seemed back to his old self. I don't know what the deal was.<br><br>
Thanks for listening and for the support, I could've smacked him last night.
 
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