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my dad passed over a year ago...he was my biggest fan<br><br>
the sun rose and set on me...not to mention the outlandish joy my son brought my dad...<br><br>
that said...my dad regularly told me just how proud he was of me...my mom although completely loving...has always been the parent who pushed me to be better, to strive for more and to be completely independent...<br><br>
so really my dad would lavish me with love and support...<br><br>
I so miss being told just how wonderful I am...and my husband doing so just does not do it...<br><br>
I guess I just miss my dad<br>
-L
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry for your loss. How lucky you are to have had such a wonderful father.
 

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oh sweetheart <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> i can't help but tear up over here. i too, lost my dad. it's been two months but it feels like forever.<br>
my dad was my biggest fan too. he always told me how proud he was of me, in fact those were his last 'face to face' words to me (other than saying goodbye from the car). he glanced over at my baby girl and then at me and said "you've done so well darling.. i'm so proud of you."<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
i understand what you mean when you say your dh just doesn't do it. even though i love my dh to bits, i feel the same way. i guess nothing can replace the arms and words of a father. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i'm so sorry for your loss.. your dad sounds like a wonderful man.<br><br>
thinking of you today, and sending lots of healing hugs.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/candle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Candle">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Dads are something else aren't they? I miss mine so much too and know that he would be really supportive and encouraging right now when we are struggling to make our business work and most people think we are crazy.<br><br>
My dd says that he is in the moon and on clear nights I make sure I look for him there and it makes me smile to feel that he is shining down on us.
 

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I am so with you....I think we talked about our similiar stories a couple months ago.<br><br>
My dad has been gone for 7 1/2 months and I still miss him more then anything. I just today called my mom to tell her that ds had a fever and jabber and I hung up and wished I could call back and have my dad answer.<br><br>
I was his only daughter and a huge daddy's girl and he was there for me ALL the time.<br><br>
I am missing my dad everyday too......and the more times that goes by, the more real it feels, so it really isn't getting easier. I think it will someday though, I hope.
 

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I have no words really other than I'm so sorry you all have gone through this.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I could have written your post.<br><br>
My dad was always the one who didnt judge, encouraged, supported with no strings, etc. He was always there when my mother got to be too much negativity. He LOVED my sons and couldnt wait to watch them grow up. (He gave us some land right next door and was going to build our house so we could be close by)<br><br>
I was the daddys girl too, my dad was my hero and I was told that he felt the same about me too. A couple of days after he died, my aunt (Whom he went up and had dinner with every Sunday) said he was always saying how proud he was of my sister and I. Incidentaly, he never came out and told us that though. I was bittersweet to hear after he was gone.<br><br>
Its been 16 months since he died and I still have a gaping hole and miss him so much. I think its a little easier for me though, cause we actually have him at our house in a spot of honor (He was cremated) and I find some comfort having him close anyway.
 

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Wow...so many mamas with such similar posts, that's wonderful.<br><br>
I lost my Dad 2.5 years ago, very unexpectedly. I harboured a ton of guilt about the situation, thinking I could have done more. I could have cried and begged him to go to a "real" hospital and see what was wrong. I KNEW something was wrong. I felt it in my heart, my mind and my soul. It was awful. I even told several friends that I felt my Dad was going to die over the weekend....he did. A massive heart attack. He never knew what hit him, according to my Mom.<br><br>
They were vacationing in Florida at the time, preparing to hunker down for a BIG hurricane. Then Mom was stuck for 3 days, all alone....dealing with the loss of the man she had been married to for 33 years.<br><br>
As an only child...I was the apple of his eye. I attribute so much of my happiness and success to him. He taught me never to settle.<br><br>
I did find great relief with grief counseling. My therapist gave me specific things to read, work on and do...to speed the healing process. I now understand the bond I had with him didn't allow me to treat him like a child. I suggested he go to a hospital, he didn't. That was the best I could do, from a distance.<br><br>
My single greatest regret was waiting to have our DD until after he passed. He would have loved her so much and vice-versa.<br><br>
Now I'm crying....But, she has brought so much joy to my Mom.<br><br>
Thanks for reading...
 

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I am also so sorry. My dad died almost five months ago, I always wanted to hear him say that he was proud of me, but never did. I think he was, based on what he said to others, but what I would have given to hear it come from him. I am resolved to tell others often, especially my children and nieces and nephews. I want to be sure there is no mistaking how I feel about them, oh so proud... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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