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I'm in a bind. DH and I are having a financial crisis, and I am having to go back to part-time work sooner than I wanted. I start the last week of June, which means I start in one month. I will be out of the house for three days a week, five hours at a time; the kids will stay with DH during those times. This is the same schedule I followed when I had only DD1.<br><br>
Anyway, the problem I have is my DS. The only way he knows how to fall asleep is nursing; he won't go to sleep for anybody but me, and only on the boob, although occasionally he will drop off in the car but then you can't move him. I don't know how I'm going to be able to leave him. My mom suggested I just go out for a few hours with my other two, just try it and let DH and DS hammer it out together, and poor DS cried for an hour on DH's shoulder before he finally fell asleep. Poor DH was almost crying himself it broke his heart so badly, and I can't put them through that on a regular basis. I just can't.<br><br>
So what I'm looking for is suggestions and ideas for how to very gently teach DS to fall asleep in some other way besides the boob. I have a month to teach him. My other two are no big deal. DD1 can go to sleep on her own, and DD2 will sleep for DH if he rocks her and gives her a pacifier to suck. But DS won't take a pacifier for anything; if it hasn't got skin on it and milk inside of it he's not having it. DH can get him to take a bottle if he's really hungry, but he doesn't like it enough to fall asleep while doing it. He won't even suck on a pinkie finger.<br><br>
I can appreciate that the correct answer here might be, "don't go back to work at all," but really that is not an option for me. I know he's too little to be left, but I have no choice here.<br><br>
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I don't know if this will help, but maybe you could nurse him until he got sleepy and then before he falls asleep, put him in bed. And then if he fusses, repeat. Maybe eventually, he'll learn not to fall asleep at the breast. Or maybe try other things that make him sleepy, like walking around with him, or music, or a noisemaker. Good luck!<br><br>
I was pretty lucky because my daughter decided early that nursing didn't really make her that sleepy. So her bed/naptime routine at 2 1/2 months now is hold her and sway for a little while until she's sucking her thumb and resting her head on my shoulder, then I put her down and gently hold her head down while patting her butt or back, and then she falls asleep. So, my husband is almost as adept as me now at getting her to sleep. Of course, all this is contingent upon catching her when she's sleepy. I have to watch her pretty carefully--a yawn isn't always the surefire sign.
 

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Do you have a swing? Mine would fall asleep in the swing. SOmetimes they would fuss, but then I would turn on fun music and dance in front of the swing. The babes were so busy watching the fun, that they forgot to be upset about going to sleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br>
I wouldn't worry about him crying to sleep with Dad, though. He isn't being left alone to cry out of fear. He is just frustrated. He will learn the new routine in a few days and it will be fine. Really, it will. Sometimes we have to trust that our kids are smart enough to figure it out.
 
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