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I've been a long time lurker but after yesterday I felt I needed to get on board so I could get some input. I had dd (not yet two) out in the yard playing and a posse of neighborhood boys (five of them, ages 3-10) came racing up my driveway and into my yard. Now I'm not too fond of these boys because they throw rocks, hit each other to the point of injury and play with projectile toys. So I started up with the NO, NO, NO, you boys need to leave now. I told them this was not a community play area. Well they left but two minutes later they came racing back up, onto the porch, into the garage. I threw them off out again and this time escorted them to the edge of the property. Lo and behold there's my neighbor (three houses down) telling the boys it's okay to play in my yard. I'll cut the story short and just say that I went ballistic. Now here's where I'm conflicted. I use GD for my babe and I believe it'd be wonderful if everyone treated their kids that way - but isnt' there a difference when you have to act toward (or react to) somebody else's kids? Because my dd's safety was involved, I didn't feel it was golden rule time. I gave the neighbor a verbal lashing in front of his kids. At first he tried to change the subject, then he apologized but I kept at him. I berated him awfully in front of his kids. I felt that if his kids could see that their Dad 'was in trouble' maybe they'd realize that he's not the definitive authority on where it's okay to play. I know it won't work but I'm not sure how else to treat the situation short of laying down a field of mines at the edge of my property. I guess I was looking for feedback on discipline when it's not your kid but your kid's safety is involved (is it no holds barred time?). Obviously talking to the parents is an approach that will have to be supplemented with some sort of interaction with these kids when they invade again. But what to do? I guess we could move. Oh well, any thoughts, no thoughts, I feel better just for venting.