thanks for that kellyk.
generally I (especially these days) try to stay away from all subjects related to ff'ing. I am happy to talk about bf'ing politely, but when it starts to get off topic i back away.
I don't comment on the mums who ff, and I pretty much do my best to ignore it.
when new mums come and inevitably ff, I say nothing to them either.
it is a lesson I learnt here at mdc, that as much as you might want to, there's no point in saying anything after the fact, it's not the time. It makes sense to me.
It is hard though because it seems that no matter where i go, even in a shopping centre if a woman near me has a baby and see's me breastfeeding they feel they MUST tell me why they aren't. even if I don't know how they feed.
I just nod as polite as I can and grit my teeth. you know what, I don't want to know and I didn't ask!! don't tell me!
my partner hears all about it when he gets home and I don't think he believed it half the time, until it happened out of the blue a few times when he was actually with me.
A few weeks ago though at my group, I asked a girl with a 5-week-old, who swore black and blue that she sooooo wished she were bf'ing, but her milk just dried up from stress after a week, if she had thought about re-lactating.
Her story quick as a flash turned from so wanting to, to "well, actually no I didn't really like it that much anyway and I don't really want to do that".)
yes. that is more like it in the circle i travel in
I struggle with the best way to be a lactivist. I have come to the conclusion for the time being that I will do my best to support those mums-to-be who express an interest in bf'ing, and those new mums who are trying. forget the rest.
it weighs you down after a while. at least it does to me anyway.