Never heard of a 2+ yr old asking to nurse, it's the mom keeping it going

My MIL kind of goes with whatever I have decided to do and she tries to support me, but I think she forgets what she says because she sure does contradict herself alot. A while ago we were talking about bf'ing beyond one and she said it was discusting and her sister did it...and on...and on. Then this past weekend I told her I was trying to bf again and will most likely continue well past one, she thought it was great. I know how she really feels and I know she'll be discussing with others, but as long as she does'nt discuss it with me then I'm ok with that. I think everyone should be supportive wether it's just to be nice or how they really feel.

Velcro... are you sure we aren't sisters??? Because your mother sounds exactly like mine (see my post... vent/b*tch about family)

I'm learning that they can't change their views and that's fine. She can complain till she is blue in the face, fact is... I'm nursing my DD till she doesn't want it anymore!

I often wonder if I'm met with so much resistence because she is riddled with guilt for not BFing me... who knows.

I feel your pain!!!

You can tell her my 3 1/2 year old still asks to bf.

What the heck do "real" underwear have to do with it??

A lot of people think it's "gross" to bf at ANY age. I guess we should all just ff then, huh, since that's the society we live in? :

Lots of hugs to velcromom!
Please just tell her that it is no longer up for discussion!
One of my sisters and I have went rounds and rounds with this. After many tears on my part I finally told her that. I know how she feels about it but it's my babies and our family life and if she can't be supportive then she is to just stay out of it.period. She has tried bring it up lightly with jokes here and there with my new babe. Usually all it takes is a look from me and she stops, If she doesn't I leave the room or politaly get off the phone with her asap. I will agrue or defiend my nursing my babes, or any other of my 'strange' parenting ways with my family any more.
You know what you are doing is right for you and your dc!

Thank you all, it's so nice to be able to talk with moms who know just what I am going through.

Mum 2 4, I love the roller skate story! You're right, it's impossible to coerce a child of any age to nurse, I wonder what in the world people are imagining we do to "make" them keep on nursing?!

I just hate the "this is our society" comment, our society here in America seems to really like drugs and violence and fatty foods, so by that 'logic' I guess I shouldn't be telling my kids not to smoke, drink, get high, or fight or eat frenchfries for breakfast, either!

Then there's the "Other kids will make fun of him at preschool" comment, which my mom says she has seen happen to a friends' children who nursed past 3. I just told her kids at that age will find something to tease each other about no matter what, and it's not a valid excuse to wean.

But in the end, I agree that it's time to make this a closed subject between her and I, as much as possible. I dread visiting her during the next year or two, she has also said that if ds is still nursing,"I just hope you do it in private". :

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I hear ya. Total ignorance. Like the "if they can ask for it they're too old." Well, technically a newborn asks for nursing by licking it's lips. Stupid ppl! *grr*

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OOOo! I like that term! LOL

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Yeah, b/c that's what should dictate our parenting? It's sad that anybody would even suggest that.

I'll invite her to my house. My two year old asks all the time.

And what's with the underwear comment? My food and comfort preferences don't change based on what's covering my tush. Hmmm, today I've got Victoria's Secret low-riders, guess I'll have chocolate cappucinno. The granny undies, though-- those are strictly a smoothie item.

Rachel:

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I can't get that picture out of my head!
so today I'm wearing Jockey bikinis, perhaps Gatorade?

I always loved the comback that goes

"yes my ds is Weaning right now!"

You see this "weaning" is of course child led weaning so you're not lying

And by the time she's heard this for the next yr or so she'll get bored asking and he can continue to "wean" himself for the next 2 yrs without headache from her! LOL!

I had a friend who thought she was so smart to try and get me to wean my dd, she ended up not staying my firend for much longer as I was getting really perterbed at the whole thing. I think she was just fed a lot of misinformation about how children should wean if they want to learn independance etc, etc, etc.

My dd went on to nurse until 5

She is at 7 (going on 17!) the MOST outgoing and independant little lady around!