- Ask her to come over and cuddle with you when you don't have the baby AND when you do have the baby (you can all cuddle together). This will help her know she's not being left out.
- Let her hold the baby whenever she wants to. Don't act overly worried about the way she's doing it. Tell her what a great big sister she is and let her know how nicely she's holding the baby and that the baby likes it.
- Have her help you a lot. Have her grab diapers, burp rags & baby blankets for you. She will really enjoy being involved and it makes them feel good & proud to be a part of taking care of the baby. It gives them more chances to interact in a positive way with the baby. Even helping with rubbing in lotion. Whatever. They feel important when they are doing something for the baby and it helps them bond and makes them feel good about the baby.
- This may sound silly - but I swear it's in the books too! :LOL I'm not just a
- This may sound weird but I also think it's good to let them be protective of the baby and the baby's things when people come over, especially kids. I think it's part of them accepting the baby as a part of the family and a part of their life. I can't really explain it. This is just what I've observed from my children. If they don't want to share the baby or the baby's toys or swing or whatever with other kids, don't make them. I'm talking for the first month or so. I see them wanting to protect and be possesive of the baby and the baby's things as a good sign and I noticed it as a sort of process of accepting the baby into the home and into the family.
Sorry this has turned out to be so long. I just wanted to offer as much as I could because there haven't been any other replies. I know some of these things sound a little strange but I promise they work because my dc#1 never had any problems when my dc#2 was born and my dc#2 never had any problems when my dc#3 was born. So, they really will help, crazy sounding or not.