I'd make an effort for awhile and see how it goes. Sometimes it can be really draining when your parenting styles are soooo different. Other times you can find a friendship where you didn't imagine you could. I have plenty of non-AP friends, simply b/c there aren't that many around here. I either give my opinion or change the subject and try to not stress about how *my* child is acting since I feel the need to be the AP/GD poster-child parent at times like that.