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<a href="http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html" target="_blank">http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html</a><br><br>
Woman Says Store Told Her To Stop Breastfeeding<br>
Manager Suggests Woman Go To Restroom<br><br>
POSTED: 5:00 pm EST December 14, 2004<br><br>
MANCHESTER, N.H. -- A Goffstown, N.H., woman said her family had to cut a shopping trip short because she was told to stop breastfeeding her baby.<br><br>
See link above for full news item, and video clip.<br><br>
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Oh, isn't that nice of them, they offer restrooms with babycare stations to ensure privacy. I am sure you can feed your baby a bottle anywhere in the store without being "hovered" over!<br><br>
I lived in NH for 10 years, never heard of this. JC Penneys will be hearing from me. Do you have their contact info handy?<br><br>
Who want to nurse in a bathroom, yuck!
 

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I wonder how many of Penney's employees take their lunches in the restrooms.<br>
Must have privacy to eat after all.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> Wow! I am livid!!! I live 15 minutes from there! I have probably breastfed in that store. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: More comfortable in the bathroom my eye...Someone tell me why nurse-ins are not highly recommended? I really want to march over there with a few friends tomorrow!<br><br>
ETA: That whole apology thing is a crock! It would be different if the mama simply looked uncomfortable on the floor and the clerk was actually being considerate, but hovering over her and repeating the same thing over and over. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"> Ugh! My blood is boiling!
 

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"... is now attempting to reach the customer to apologize for the misunderstanding."<br>
Misunderstanding my ASS. They knew exactly what they were doing when they asked her to stop. I hate when companies apologize unger the disguise of a simple "misunderstanding". It'll be a day in hell if anyone ever asks <i>me</i> to stop breastfeeding my dd.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"... is now attempting to reach the customer to apologize for the misunderstanding."<br>
Misunderstanding my ASS. They knew exactly what they were doing when they asked her to stop. I hate when companies apologize unger the disguise of a simple "misunderstanding". It'll be a day in hell if anyone ever asks <i>me</i> to stop breastfeeding my dd.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> Oh I wish it would have been me!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat">
 

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I hate that "restrooms available for your privacy" bullcrap. If she wanted privacy, she wouldn't have sat in the middle of the store nursing her baby. The restrooms are for JC Penney's comfort, not her's.
 

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In a statement, JCPenney said, "While customers may nurse their children anywhere in our store, <span style="color:#FF0000;">we do provide restrooms with baby care stations to ensure privacy.</span> ... Our store management wanted the customer to be aware of other options and is now attempting to reach the customer to apologize for the misunderstanding."<br><br>
Really? They provide restrooms for the convenience and privacy of breastfeeding mothers? Gee, I thought they were for peeing, pooping and handwashing. And I bet all those JC pennys employees have been misusing the "restrooms" all this time!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Really? They provide restrooms for the convenience and privacy of breastfeeding mothers? Gee, I thought they were for peeing, pooping and handwashing. And I bet all those JC pennys employees have been misusing the "restrooms" all this time!</div>
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Hahaha.. I'm going to use that sometime on someone, I swear I will.
 

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Just a few days ago, I nursed my DD on the floor at JcPenney in the children's clothing section. Luckily nobody said anything. I got a few strange stares, though. (DD had a meltdown. The portrait studio is right next to the baby dept., and the waiting room is full of toys and children. Good planning on the store layout, huh? I wonder how many toddler meltdowns occur there each day.)<br><br>
Why anyone expects babies to eat in a bathroom is beyond me. The "baby care station" in our Penney's consists of a metal folding chair and changing table right near the doorway. Like any baby is going to be able to concentrate on nursing with people going in and out, and toilets flushing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Really.<br><br>
I nursed in the bathroom at Kauffman's (the bathroom there has a separate area with a nice couch and lounge chairs) and I got more negative attention and dirty looks there than any other place. There were moms shielding their kids' faces, disapproving little old ladies, etc.
 

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Thanks for the heads up. I sent the following letter:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I was very disturbed to read the following article today:<br><a href="http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html" target="_blank">http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html</a><br><br>
According to this article, a JC Penney employee harassed a customer who was nursing in the store. Not only is this unsupportive of parents, it's illegal in New Hampshire (and in the state I live, Washington).<br><br>
Besides being loyal JC Penney shoppers, my family has enjoyed using your photo studio for the past six years since the birth of my first child. I have nursed both my daughter and my son in JC Penneys in Oregon (Eugene Mall & Washington Square in Beaverton, Oregon and Washington (Bellevue Town Center) with no problems.<br><br>
Please reassure me that JC Penney supports nursing mothers and their families! I would like to know that JC Penney takes this issue seriously and will appologize to the mother (Jennifer Fox from Goffstown, N.H.) and make clear their non discrimination policy to all employees.<br><br>
Thank you for your attention to my concerns.<br><br>
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If this is not settled adequately, I guess I'll have another store to add to my boycott list <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><br><br>
I encourage everyone to write to JC Penney:<br><a href="https://www4.jcpenney.com/jcp/frm_customerservice.aspx?VID=&Email=&Referer=http%3A%2F%2Fwww4.jcpenney.com%2Fjcp%2FCustomerService.aspx&Subject=Customer+Service" target="_blank">https://www4.jcpenney.com/jcp/frm_cu...stomer+Service</a><br><br>
Let them know it's not just one or two "extreme" moms--- there are millions out there who *expect* nursing women to be treated with respect and dignity... and that does *not* include encouraging them to feed their children in a restroom!
 

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I am saddened by how often this happens.<br><br>
On a side note, I am so tired of the obligitory "Fox said she was being discreet"<br>
who gives a flying fig! She has every right to nurse her baby in any fashion that works.
 

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I would like to thank all of you for your support. I was fearful that I would get a few "Well, you shouldn't have been doing that" comments. I just hope that we can erase this discrimination and help other mothers feel comfortable enough to bf in public, as they should.<br><br>
Thank you & I promise to update on the issue!!<br><br>
Jenn<br>
BF'g mama to Tori <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for the link to JCP. Here's my letter:<br><br>
To Whom it May Concern:<br><br>
I was very upset to read the following article: <a href="http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html" target="_blank">http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html</a><br><br>
According to Ms. Fox's statement, the store manager hovered over her until she stopped feeding her child. This is discriminatory and upsetting. At what point did JC Penney decide to support the distinctly western idea that breastfeeding a child is so disgusting it should be done in a restroom? Do you also encourage your employees to eat their lunches in the restrooms? Do you suggest to bottlefeeding mothers that perhaps they would be more comfortable feeding their children in a dirty restroom? I hardly think so. Breastfeeding a child is hardly akin to elimination and should not be done in the same room!<br><br>
Furthermore, your patronizing statement that your "store management wanted the customer to be aware of other options" makes me even more upset. Let's not trivialize what really happened. Your manager didn't like Ms. Fox feeding her child in the store. It had nothing to do with making Ms. Fox more comfortable and everything to do with making your manager more comfortable. To try to claim otherwise is an insult to the intelligence of everyone who reads that statement. If Ms. Fox would have been more comfortable feeding her child in the place a child is most likely to contract rotavirus (a public restroom), I'm sure she would already have chosen to do so.<br><br>
Your employees need education on breastfeeding laws and the public needs you to stop covering for them when they make these horrible mistakes in judgment
 

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I am getting so tired of hearing the same old lie: "it was all just a misunderstanding, the mother was just being informed of her options." Just once I'd like someone to admit that they were WRONG. Plus it's insulting to the mother to suggest that she can't tell the difference between those two different kinds of remarks.<br><br>
It's especially ridiculous for JC Penney, of all stores, to expect us to buy that lie, when they feel it's necessary to show a woman bottle-feeding a baby while wearing a nursing top that they sell in their catalog.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">On a side note, I am so tired of the obligitory "Fox said she was being discreet"<br>
who gives a flying fig! She has every right to nurse her baby in any fashion that works.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> Thank you for saying that! The implication is that an act of breastfeeding in public wouldn't be ok if it weren't discreet, and that it would be reasonable to confront a woman who isn't discreet.
 

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My letter-<br><br>
To whom it may concern:<br>
I was very disturbed to read a news item concerning one of your stores in New Hampshire -<br><br><a href="http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html" target="_blank">http://www.thewmurchannel.com/news/3997083/detail.html</a><br><br>
"MANCHESTER, N.H. - (Jennifer) Fox said she had just started to breastfeed her 11-month-old daughter in a corner of the men's section when a store clerk complained.<br>
'"Apparently, the clerk was offended by my breastfeeding her, so he called the store manager over and asked me to stop feeding her," Fox said. "She kept repeating that I'd be more comfortable in the bathroom and was hovering over me until I took my daughter off and stopped."'<br>
If this mother had felt uncomfortable feeding her daughter, she would have sought out the restroom herself. Restrooms are not sanitary places to feed an infant, and I would have been very offended if a JC Penny employee had said this to me. I enjoy shopping frequently at your stores. Surely this was a case of a single employee trying to impose her feelings about breastfeeding on a mother, and not the official policy of JC Penny?<br>
This employee's actions were not only rude, but also illegal under New Hampshire state law:<br><br>
"N.H. Rev.Stat. Ann. §132:10-d )<br>
New Hampshire House Bill # 441, 1999<br><br>
Breastfeeding.<br>
Breastfeeding a child does not constitute an act of indecent exposure and to restrict or limit the right of a mother to breastfeed her child is discriminatory."<br><br>
Please tell me that a public apology was or is being made by JC Penny and that some sort of action was taken against the manager who approached her. Mabye some sensitivity training or classes covering how to support breastfeeding mothers?<br><br>
Thank you for your reply. Sincerely,<br>
Brandi P*****
 

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Actually, my observation is that it's usually men. And in my own personal experience, it was a male store manager who approached me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would like to thank all of you for your support. I was fearful that I would get a few "Well, you shouldn't have been doing that" comments. I just hope that we can erase this discrimination and help other mothers feel comfortable enough to bf in public, as they should.<br><br>
Thank you & I promise to update on the issue!!<br><br>
Jenn<br>
BF'g mama to Tori <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Welcome, Jenn!! You'll find lots of support here- it's a great place!<br>
Looking forward to an update-<br>
Annette
 
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