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Well, I never thought I would be posting in this forum, but here I am and Im full of questions so I hope someone might be able to help me.<br><br>
I should be 12 weeks pregnant tomorrow, but found out last Thursday that the baby stopped growing around 9 weeks 1 day. I had went in to the ER for spotting after my midwife wasnt able to find the babys heartbeat at my 10.5 week appt. The OB that came in to see me said that waiting about 2 more weeks for a natural miscarraige would probably be safe but after that I should have a D&C to prevent infection. So according to his timeline I should have that procedure done by the end of next week. Can anyone tell me how long it usually takes for an infection to set in and one would even develop? If I decide not to have a D&C how long is it okay to wait and what would the long term repercussions be if I did get an infection?<br><br>
I know from reading the archives that several of you have waited weeks for a miscarriage to complete itself - does anyone know what the average length of time to have to wait for this is?<br><br>
I guess that analyzing everything is helping me deal with this right now so if anyone has any info or websites to send me I would really appreciate it.
 

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I am so very sorry you are going through this. I went through the same at just about the same time frame. I was told it could take weeks but about 3 days later I started m/c and the cramps/heavy bleeding was over in a day. I didnt want a d&c so I just checked my blood levels every 4 days I think to make sure there was no left over tissue. I didnt have any other problems(physically) from the m/c. Hugs!
 

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I am so sorry for your loss. It can take weeks for m/c to occur. There have been a variety of different experiences with this among posters here but no one will judge you if you choose the D&C. You have already been dealt a harsh blow, no one will blame you if you do not wait it out.<br><br>
Generally the infection risks of natural miscarriage and D&C are about the same. The difference is with a D&C you have the added risks of a surgical procedure (though it is considered minor surgery) and anesthesia (though you can choose to forgo anesthesia) Natural miscarriage is considered safer by many OBGYNs but it is more prolonged and can be painful. The advantage with a D&C is that it can be over with quickly and you know when it is going to happen.<br><br>
The larger risk with a natural miscarriage is hemorrhaging but D&C risks can include uterine preforation and scarring.<br><br>
I would wait it out a bit. But watch for signs of fever if your Dr is concerned about infection as that is one of the signs. Usually though if your cervix is still closed waiting is fine. If your cervix is opened and you are bleeding (more than spotting) but not passing any tissue then that can be cause for concern.<br><br>
I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is incredibly hard and I hope this goes easy for you, you have already been through enough.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I am really sorry about your loss. After two healthy, uneventful pregnancies, I never thought I would be posting here either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I had 3 u/s over a period of about 5 weeks. While the baby had grown between the first and second u/s, we never saw a heartbeat. At the third u/s, I was supposed to have been 12 weeks along and the baby measured only six weeks.<br><br>
Intuitively, I knew after my first appt that something was terribly wrong. I opted for a d&c. It was too hard emotionally for me to wait any longer for a natural m/c. The previous month had been filled with so much anxiety and helplessness; I needed to take back some measure of control.<br><br>
I was a little crampy and had a little spotting after my surgery. I was at about 90% a week later, and the spotting ended after about 3 weeks. (I think most folks stop spotting sooner, though.) The emotional healing...well, that will take some time. I still don't really talk about it IRL because I start crying whenever I do.<br><br>
I'm getting wordy (maybe I should talk more IRL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ). Listen to your body. If you start feeling out of sorts, feverish, achy, etc, call your dr. Best of luck to you and hugs, too.
 
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