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It started around 10:30pm last night, 7wk DS started getting Really cranky. DH came home from work and I was so happy because usually he knows what to do. But DS would not settle down for him either. He wasn't crying he was just *anxious* about something. We tried everything we could think of to calm him down. I thought that maybe he was overstimulated because my SIL and her 3yr old son is staying with us.<br><br>
Let me digress a moment. I was so glad when she announced she was coming to *help* but her son is one of the most meanest and spoiled child I have ever met. He is extremely attractive and I'll bet he gets away with a lot because of his looks. He is also intensely jealous of my son. I do understand he himself is a baby but some of the things that my SIL let him get away with is unbelievable. He forbade her to not *hold* the baby. He said to her "you are mommy, she is his mommy, so give the baby back to her and let me sit in your lap" She did. I mean, I know her own child comes first, but if this is the way it is going to be then go home! Now here is what really scares me, this is how jealous her son is. Last night, SIL and I were in the kitchen cleaning up making formula bottles. I had put DS in my bedroom so that could keep him in view. I just happen to see a little human being scurry into my bedroom (where it was dark) and closed the door. I went in right behind him. He was standing over my son with a basketball in his hand. He had this guilty look on his face and I told him (in a nice voice) "come out and let DS sleep okay?" SIL had this worried look on her face and said "he went in there to beat up the baby" I thought she was joking but she did not smile. (They have got to go)!There are more issues but I won't linger because they leave on Wednesday.<br><br>
Back to the story. DS was crankly ALL NIGHT LONG and DH and I were just passing him back and forth trying to figure out what was wrong with him. We were so sleep deprived. I was even angry at DS. But then I immediately felt guilty about being angry at a defenseless baby and I cried.<br><br>
Finally around 7am this morning, he kept scrunching up his little legs and bending over. So I picked him up and put him on my chest and then I heard it. He let out the biggest BM. (sorry if tmi). And he finally fell asleep. It turned out he was extremely gassy. I felt so bad for him.<br><br>
So, my question to you is, does your little one seem like something is wrong in the middle of the night and you are frustrated because you don't know what is wrong and you are exhausted from trying to find out. Does it get better than this? DH and I have not had any sleep. Please share with me your experience(s).
 

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Oh dear! Yes, there will be sleepless nights. And it will be frustrating. But it will not usually be that bad. The two worst nights I have had were under someone elses roof. (Cause? I don't know.. maybe!) But on top of being frustrated and exhausted the whole time we were fretting about creating an army of sleep deprived hosts who would kill us or run us off before dawn! It will get better. You will sleep again. And your sister will leave soon. One tip I would share is try stepping outside. If the poor baby is in physical pain (which I am guessing yours was, poor darling!) it might not help, but if it is just general whimpery, baby is out of sorts kind of thing... a stroll outside can work like magic, especially in the evening.
 

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My first and only baby is now 7 months. Seven weeks was still very fussy time for him! We did a few things: my dh danced with him to mellow music with the lights down low. He used the football hold, aka the arm drape. I rocked him. I nursed him a LOT. I did a lot of singing and rhythmic patting. I found old folk songs worked well. ("Down by the Riverside")He calmed down when we held him, when I spoke or sang to him (mommy's voice) when dh rocked him. We also used the special holds in the Sears book, the ones that put slight pressure on the abdomen. It's on <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T051200.asp#T051201" target="_blank">this page</a> --scroll down to the words "Colic Carries". These holds help even if the baby isn't having a tummy problem. Dr. Sears is the only childrearing advisor who gives such a specific list of what to do when you have a fussy baby! Very helpful. Some of the things we were doing anyway but it was great to see that we were normal! A really little baby often doesn't like a stroller or a carriage, so carry him in your arms or use a sling a lot during the day to mellow him out.<br><br>
It's not weird for a child, even one who never gets his way, to be jealous of a younger baby that his mom is interested in. toddlers have no impulse control so they have to be supervised in a situation like the one you describe. He's not mean, he's three. Later he may come to have a nice relationship with his little cousin. She is very right to give you back the baby when he gets jealous. That's what you are going to do for your little guy when he is three. The mom of a toddler is not the ideal helper for a new mom!<br><br>
We got a childless friend to come sleep on our couch so I would have someone around to support me when the baby woke up in the night. We didn't actually wind up needing her, but she was very nice to have there!
 

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hang in there.<br>
it gets better -- i can say that and dd is a terrible sleeper....but here's the deal -- you get to know your kid better. So next time your kid is inconsolable...you might think "hey last time s/he did this it meant s/he needed to poop." and then try things to help relax those muscles. better example is to burp....<br><br>
as far as nephew goes -- i agree with above poster -- kid needs supervision and also needs to feel #1 with his mom. hard to manage both when she is helping you.
 
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