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I am trying to get an idea of where I fall on the lazy mother scale or if I am at par w/other new 1st time moms. What does a 24 hour block look like for all you 1st time moms who are currently at home taking care of the baby? Please be honest on how the computer/TV fits into your schedule...and showers, brushing teeth, eating, and sleeping.<br><br>
My DS is 9w old and we don't get out much during the week b/c it is freezing cold in NY and I've had so many BF problems that it has been too much to tackle that in public. I admit I am a TV junkie yet I don't plan on my son watching TV...I'm a teacher so reading and other learning based activities are my goal/hope. But right now I feel like I don't do anything productive.<br><br>
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My DS eats around midnight after which I finally go to sleep. He wakes around 3ish and eats again. He wakes again around 6ish and eats and DH takes him in the bathroom afterwards as he gets ready for work so I can sleep. 8am DS is back in bed w/me and we sleep until 10ish. We wake up, he eats and we play for a bit, maybe 20 min and he is sleepy again so we sit in the rocker and cuddle together until he is asleep. He then goes on napping sprees for 15 min intervals on most days, on a good day he will sleep through w/o waking until his next feeding around 1ish. He eats, we play again, try some tummy time and then it is back to the rocker for the next nap. On somedays we will go right to the BR and we will both nap together until around 4ish, other days I use this time to eat, shower, or brush teeth...sometimes I even get all three in. If we don't nap together his naps aren't long and he does the whole waking every 15 mins or so. He eats again around 4ish, we sit and chat and rock away until he sleeps. He eats again around 7ish and will then play with DH since he is home from work. He then naps again. Sometimes to wake again around 10ish but more recently he sleeps until 11-midnight to eat and start the whole cycle again.<br><br>
I do watch TV alot during the day and chat on the computer. I'm so tired btwn feeding/getting DS to sleep that sitting around on the couch and watching A Baby Story and other TLC shows is relaxing. I certainly don't choose TV/computer over son, when he is awake he has my attention. I know things will be different once spring is here b/c we will be outside and can go for walks and stuff. And hopefully this weeks visit to a BF guru will cure all my BF problems freeing up my mental energy and giving the get up and go I need. But for now I have cabin fever...<br><br>
So am I the new mommy-loser-of-the-year and all you other new moms are doing great creative things and I need to get my @ss in gear or am I par for the course here...
 

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Par for the course. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Sounds like a sometimes somewhat typical day for me *now*, and my son just turned 10 months! We still have days where we lounge around the house. Being a full-time parent is quite tiring, I think these chill out days are quite necessary to maintain emotional/physical health.<br><br>
Don't worry about living up to some standard. Just do what feels right and good to you. Guilt is a (new, especially) mother's worst enemy.<br><br>
Relax and enjoy your baby, and the sleep and time to yourself you are able to squeeze in. Things will get more interesting as your child ages, and you'll suddenly find yourself running around more and more, and loving it!
 

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You just made me feel better. Darren's 11 days old, but I feel like I've accomplished nothing. I do usually get a shower in, but that's about all I get done during the day. Well, that and praying that he'll go to sleep so I can accomplish something (for which I feel guilty for thinking). I'm so exhausted most of the time, I'm lucky if I get to eat.
 

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my baby is 6 weeks old. Im able to take a shower everyday...granted not when I WANT.... usually at about 1:00 I go in when she just falls asleep. Im able to play the computer but often have to step away to do diapers or if shes awake we will do floor time, hang out, walk around the house, or just stare at each other and talk. We cuddle and spend most of our time at the computer since shes not doing to much just yet. I try to take her for a walk outside around the block every few days.... Im able to feed myself but only quick to make meals since she usually needs me. Im able to do a few loads of laundry( only because the laundry is on the second floor by all the bedrooms, doubt i could do it otherwise)<br><br>
thats all... I dont clean or anything.<br><br>
edited to add.... we sleep until 12..usually get to bed at 2-3, she will wake once during the night, hubby wakes at 8 to go to work and will change her diaper then give her back to me,i feed her and we continue to sleep.
 

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I think I would have gone nuts in the first couple weeks without the DVD box set of Alias. Don't worry about it.<br><br>
I don't have any answers, but we decided to wait until Libby was aware of her environment to stop watching TV in front of her. Two weeks ago there was a big increase in her interaction with us, so I decided it was time. We've had a bit of backsliding but I'm committed to a TV-free baby, so I'm going to make it happen.<br><br>
We still use the computer a lot in front of her (mostly while she's either nursing or sleeping in our arms) but I'm taking it one battle at a time.
 

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I find that if I throw the quilt over the bed so that the bed is "made" I feel like i acomplished cleaning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> it makes me feel good to see that quilt covering the bed and is quick to do
 

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sounds like my day. DS is going about 4 hours in the night sleeping, but not really sleeping during the day. i don't want him to watch tv, but i am also a junkie, so sometimes i do watch a lot more than i want him to. but i'm exhausted and sometimes it's the only "rest" i get. if i can't sleep, i can at least veg for awhile. and when i've read all the posts on MDC, what else can i do?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
edited to add: for me it has been the DVDs of The O.C. and The Sopranos. but yes, dvds are great.<br><br>
also, i don't clean much either. i do dishes, i clean up from when i "cook" something and i make the bed. some laundry, but that's about it!
 

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Thanks ladies for the comraderie...<br><br>
I don't know why but you are right CJ...there is this standard I feel I'm supposed to be meeting but when I'm tired sometimes I just want to watch a little Oprah...and I do feel guilty that I'm not creating something to do that is educational for my little one for when he wakes up next...<br><br>
On a positive note, I did turn off the TV and played some classical music...not so much as a musical education thing but something that will help him sleep someplace other than my arm...I am desperate for a napping block that doesn't involve me...today we tried every place in my house...our bed which is where he sleeps at night...I got a 10 min break...we tried the cradle (which traditionally is the laundry basket since DS doesn't sleep in it...I got a nice 25 min break but then the phone rang...we tried his crib which he has never slept in and that only lasted the time it took me to put him down and walk out the room...we tried the bouncy seat my sis loaned me, but that only works if I get up every 8 min and press the vibrating button...we are currently trying the swing which he usually doesn't like...its been 6 min...<br><br>
He doesn't like the Baby Bjorn or rather I don't b/c his little face gets sandwiched in my cleavage<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and I loaned my maya wrap to my SIL so that is out until I get it back...<br><br>
DH has a meeting after work tonight and tomorrow which means he isn't home until 10ish...these are going to be 2 very long days w/o anyone to offer me a break...I just called my sis hopefully she can come over tomorrow for a bit of time...I don't know how single moms do it...10 min and counting...I'm going to go eat something quiet...no wrappers no microwave...hmm I guess fruit it is
 

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Wow a ton of people posted while I was typing...<br><br>
I am normally a neat freak...very OCD...but the most I get done now is laundry b/c I do it at night when everyone is sleeping since I'm a night owl and can't go to bed before 11 or I don't sleep thru the night<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Sat DH let me sleep in and when I woke he cleaned the entire house, dusted, vaccuumed, and even scrubbed the tub b/c I had been saying I was dying to take a bath since I hadn't since my 3rd trimester...he said he'd do it again in 4 weeks...<br><br>
As for TV, I can give up daytime TV there is nothing I am attached to...it just there is nothing else to do right now...but I love my nighttime shows...Grey's Anatomy, Big Love, Sopranos, Lost...those will be missed...
 

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Relax mama! At this age, just looking around is educational.<br><br>
You can make yourself a sling by folding and knotting a bedsheet, if that helps. It won't be as tight as the Maya Wrap to support the head, so you can put a folded blanket or diaper in there for extra support.
 

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That's about what my routine was with my first dd. Don't worry about it at this age, you'll make up for it with baby #2 when you absolutely no time for yourself.
 
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