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My 11 mo old ds has just recently become constantly upset. A few weeks ago he was sick with Roseola and understandably his crying became more expressive and constant. (Prior to his illness I would have classified him as a happy, rarely crying child.)<br><br>
Another key factor is a new routine - once he recovered from his illness, he started going to a new nanny. I have tried to stay with him at his new place as much as I can, but I have very few hours of leave left so am starting to worry about what I can do to make him happy there. (Heck, I can't seem to make him happy anywhere for that matter.)<br><br>
He is upset, and understandably so. But he cries if I pick him up, if I put him down, if I don't give him a particular toy, if I give him a toy. He is just plain upset. The only time he is content is when we are outside together. (So I go outside with him as much as I can.)<br><br>
But I need advice for what I can do to make this all easier on him. Today he is with his old nanny to see how that goes.<br><br>
I am worried the illness and now the new routine will change him into a fretful, unhappy child. How can I help him? Last night when he started crying in his sleep I vowed to quit my job and stay with him, but once the sun came up and logic returned I realized I can't do that unless I find a cardboard box big enough for the both of us... Sigh...<br><br>
Any suggestions?
 

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That must be so hard for both of you... I'm sure he is just insecure with the change, he will need time to adjust and become comfortable. I wouldn't attribute the behavior to the roseola, once it passes babies are usually healthy and back to themselves again. I am not sure what to suggest other than time and making sure that your time with him is consistent and that he is being well cared for and loved when you leave him. If it is not an option for you to stay home, try not to beat yourself up about it. If you are comfortable with who you are leaving him with, then he will become comfortable with it eventually too. Try and be patient and hang in there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks for your words of support Sarbear! I appreciate it!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Could also be that there are developmental things going on (there's always one of those, isn't there?), teething, and definitely the change in routine will upset a babe.<br><br>
I think you're doing the right thing by spending more time and especially time outside if that works.<br><br>
From what I can tell, that is the age of big shifts in behavior because the babe isn't so much of a babe anymore but a little bit more of a toddler. So the newfound independence with walking can make them a little insecure. Have you considered introducing a transitional object? There was a thread here recently mentioning that APd kids often get transitional objects as toddlers and not so much as babies.<br><br>
You're great momma looking out for him like this. It shows how much you care that you're looking into this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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