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I can't figure out my DS's new therapist. She seems knowledgeable but not very friendly towards us. Not hostile, just clinical. However, she was warm and friendly towards DS and it is <i>his</i> therapist. So do I need to like her or just be happy that DS seems fine with her?<br><br>
We've only been three times so it might be a matter of warming up to her. Or I am spoiled by his OT who is just wonderful to him and to us.
 

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I've encountered a few therapists like this. In fact, one that turned out to give me some of the best information and really "got" dd best is one that I really just didn't like. She doesn't do treatment with her because we're hoping to get what we can through school first, but if we decide to add therapy, we'll be going to this therapist. Hopefully, I'd warm up to her in time. But, my comfort isn't what I'm most concerned with.<br><br>
I think what really matters is 1. How your ds responds. 2. How well she adapts to his needs. 3. Her level of knowledge and creativity to work that knowledge to your ds's needs. 4. How well the therapy seems to work. And then, 5. how well she responds to your questions.<br><br>
I'll admit it is more fun when you have a therapist who feels like a friend or a little bit of your own therapist, but this might not be the therapist that your dc needs at the time. I also wonder why certain people become therapists. Often they have a touch of a need themselves or have a dc who needed therapy, so they might have a few social difficulties themselves that make them not as friendly, but very effective at dealing with children who need the therapy.
 

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Thank you so much for your perspective! You've made me feel better about it.
 

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You know, the therapist that *I* like the most is our Mark's ot. The therapist *he* works best with is his play therapist who I felt was not going to be a good fit at all. So yeah, as long as the kid and the therapist work well together AND you're comfortable with the direction that they're going AND you can communicate with her when necessary, yeah, it's ok that you might not "click" with her personally.
 

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No, but I think <i>he</i> needs to like her. I like ds's ST, but the important thing is that he likes her--if he didn't, we would leave.
 

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Keep in mind that sometimes, people choose to work with children because that's who they can relate to the best <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Maybe in time, she'll warm up to you. I've had that happen with a doctor just recently. First visit, was NOT impressed at all, even though he seemed competant. Second visit was better. Then found out someone I know takes her child to him and they love him. She said it takes a few visits for him to warm up. Well, we went this last time, he was super friendly and easy to work with!
 
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