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Just to give you a brief history, we have had 4 miscarriages. first pregnancy was tubal(had it removed, damage to right tube),2nd pregnancy had morning sickness thru 7th month(lost43 lbs) gained 47 in last 2 months went 10 days over due date had c section ~ had beautiful baby boy, Went on depo shot after my son was born(stopped after 3 shots). (was scared to get pg again) have had 3miscarriages and werent "ttc". Havent had a regular period since son was born.<br><br>
My husband is happy with having 1 child, i want ATLEAST 1 more, he said we can try but he is afraid of me having more health issues. i am alittle nervous myself and i wonder if we should try.<br><br>
Now my questions:<br>
am i being selfish in wanting more(knowing that he is happy with the one)?<br>
are there vitamins(ETC) that i can get otc instead of taking meds from dr?<br>
how do i BD without having expectations?<br><br>
i am already stressing over this and havent started trying!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br>
any advice???<br><br>
please be patient with me right now, i feel like i am going in circles!
 

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At this point, I think you should concentrate on nourishing your body. Drink red raspberry leaf tea to strengthen your uterine system, take a B-vitamin complex and/or vitex to help your hormone levels, get exercise, etc. Concentrate on being healthy, first. Read through this forum for some other ideas on regulating and improving your cycle.<br><br>
The fact that you have irregular periods and 3 miscarriages says to me that you're ovulating sporadically and have a short luteal phase. It's quite possible that this comes from the depo, I've read a couple of stories here and there that would indicate that depo can mess up your body's cycles for years after stopping use.<br><br>
Remember, you *will* be able to have another healthy child, you just need to allow yourself and your body the chance to be ready.
 

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You've been through so much, my heart really goes out to you. I think it is beautiful that despite everything you've had to endure that you'd still like to have another child.<br><br>
I agree that taking good care of yourself should be the number one priority if you decide to ttc again. Your DH may desire another child, but he's afraid to say "lets have another" when he feels your life may be literally put in danger by his decision. It sounds like he may want you to make the decision and he'll support you either way?<br><br>
Would the prospect of adoption be at all appealing? So you could have a child without the health risks of pregnancy? (I know it isn't for everyone, so I hope this suggestion isn't a disheartening one! Please forgive me if it was an inapproriate suggestion for your situation.)<br><br>
If your heart tells you to try for another child, I'd say go for it. You are obviously a strong woman and I am sure you and your husband will be ready to face whatever life has in store for you.<br><br>
God bless!!
 
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