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Hey everyone, I've been lurking around here for a while and finally decided to join in. I really need some thoughts.<br><br>
I have an almost 2.5 yo DD and a 5.5 month old DS. On both Friday and yesterday, DD BIT DS. She didn't break the skin but I have never been soooo angry with her. I couldn't beleive how strong my urge was to hit her. I don't want to do that though. I don't want to hurt her just to try to get her not to hurt DS. What should I do? Please help. TIA
 

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First of all I just want to say <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you. You're in a tough situation. Biting is probably the most difficult for the mother of the biter. Now, your next step is to figure out her reasons for biting. How verbal is you 2.5 yo? I have a dd about the same age and we recently had a biting incident at playgroup. The target was the same little boy all three times. I finally figured out that the little boy wasn't listening to her when she used her words so she resorted to violence instead of coming to me. I guess she was afraid I wouldn't take her side. I made a pact with myself to advocate for her more and we haven't had a problem since. Your situation may have different roots, and I know when your baby is hurt it brings out the mother bear in you (and me/any mom,) but your toddler is trying to communicate something to you. Your job is to find out what and not to overreact. You don't want to give her too much attention for bad behavior. During a calm time you might try talking to your dd about biting and how it feels. I'm sure by now she knows it hurts, but sometimes they still need reminding. Does she usually get along with db? Ask her how she likes being a big sister and what she likes about it. Ask her if there is anything she doesn't like about it. She may surprise you with her answers. Also, make sure you are giving her enough physical attention to avoid any jealousy that may be cropping up. I'm sure that's tough with two. Keep us posted. I'm sure more experienced mothers of two will have more input on the subject.
 
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