[tinaruger]

Hi! my name is Tina. I am 27 years old and just celebrated my 7th wedding anniversary on June 7th to my husband shawn. we have 3 children. kayla who is 14 (my dsd) my DS shawn Michael who is 5 and my DD Victiroa rose who is 7. Our son was circumcised but after research I have regretted the decision. We waited until he was 2 years of age so he was put to sleep for the surgery and was able to go trick or treating the next night. I can share the rest of my story if you would like to hear it. have a great day!

tina

 

[A&A]

Glad to have you here. Yes, I'm curious.......was it a case of the doctors told you that you "had" to have him circumcised at 2, or did you just want to?

 

[tinaruger]

When i became pregnant and found out that i was having a boy, I was dead set against it. I did not know anything about it. My husband wanted it done and I heard from men that the boy would suffer from premature ejaculation, he would stink, he would be made fun of in school. I was still against it but i agreed to have it done. well when he was born, I was lucky enough to have an OB who did not perform circumcisions and a pediatrician who did not believe in them either so i was able to get away with it. Well. as time went by, my husband became even more impatient. I told him that if he found someone who could give a good reason for it, that i would allow it to be done. We made a consultation appointment with a Urologist. He said that it was the best thing for him because of infections that he would get and that he could get cancer and all sorts of "misinformation' so I agreed to it. My little one was scheduled for october 30th. we brought him trick or treating to my family the night before because i figured he would be extremely sore. The day of surgery came and i felt sick to my stomach because my perfect boy had to go in for this. they brought us in to a room where he had his gown put on and was able to play for a while. they came in and gave him a sedative. He became sleepy. They put him in a wagon and pulled him to the OR where they put gas on him to make him fall asleep. once they put him to sleep, they put an IV in and gave him more medicine to put him in a deep sleep. as soon as he woke up, they had me go in the room with him and rock him. Hw was sore so they gave him benedryl, toradol and demerol in his IV. he went back to sleep. he was in recovery for an hour and a half before we could bring him home. the Urologist gave us a perscription for codeine. I immediately had it filled. we get home and my son was literally jumping on the couch. he was alright. I gave him the meds because i did not want him in pain but I only gave him one or two doses. the next day was the worst. I had to take the guaze off and it was stuck to his penis. he was crying and I was crying. I called the doctor and he told me to wet the gauze with water so it would unstick itself. I did it but he started to bleed. I loaded him down with triple antibiotic ointment. He was fine after that. he did not like to have his diaper changed for quite some time after that. Then, i started going to forums at first pro circumcision but then after all of the research that i did on the subject and after reading research that others did, I am totally against RIC. if someone is going to circumcise their son, i think that they should wait until they are old enough to get proper pain relief before during and after the procedure. If I were to ever have another boy, he will remain intact until he is old enough to decide for himself.

Tina

Edited to add thanks for the welcome!

 

[TigerTail]

thank you for sharing your story.

btw: 'I told him that if he found someone who could give a good reason for it, that i would allow it to be done. We made a consultation appointment with a Urologist. He said that it was the best thing for him because of infections that he would get and that he could get cancer.'

y'all who use this tactic... SEE? i'm still of the 'nope, no way, no how, don't care how good your arguments are, it won't be done' honest & upfront school. this shouldn't be won by who has better technique convincing the undecided or unsure. there will always be (under present conditions; i certainly hope things change) a urologist or neighbor or grandma who can give convincing 'reasons'. just not even giving baby-mutilation as an option under any circumstance is still my best advice.

sorry to have used you as an example, tina; i've had this discussion before :LOL and thank you again for sharing your story.

suse

 

[Frankly Speaking]

Hi Tina and welcome! I recognize you from the other place. I think you're going to like it here! Much better!

Frank

 

[kimkabob5]

Hey Tina! Nice to see you here!

 

[tinaruger]

thanks for the welcome everyone!

I am glad to see some familiar faces here too. hopefully we will be able to get our points acrossed and help these babies!

Tina

 

[calngavinsmom]

Hiya Tina!

Tara

 

[A&A]

Dear Tina,
If this question is too personal, feel free to ignore me!

But, if you don't mind me asking, what is your relationship like with your husband now, with you having more information about circumcision? Do you resent him for insisting on the circumcision? You also may find it therapeutic to post on the "If you circumcised and regret it" thread, which is at the top of this forum.

 

[AmandaBL]

Welcome Tina! You'll find lots of good info here for any future boys you may have & hopefully info to help better educate your husband.

 

[Super Pickle]

Hi, Tina. Welcome!

I find it absolutely mind-boggling how when a child is two years old, he will be given all appropriate pain relief measures for circumcision, yet the newborns have to suffer through it without a DROP of medication and the parents are told, "It only hurts for a second."

Off topic, I handed some pregnant friends a packet of circ info today so I'm feeling optimistc.

 

[tinaruger]

Quote:

Originally Posted by A&A Dear Tina, If this question is too personal, feel free to ignore me! But, if you don't mind me asking, what is your relationship like with your husband now, with you having more information about circumcision? Do you resent him for insisting on the circumcision? You also may find it therapeutic to post on the "If you circumcised and regret it" thread, which is at the top of this forum.

it actually has not changed our relationship in anyway. he was just as misinformed as i was. Now he feels pretty much the same way i do. I will also check out the other thread you mentioned!

tina

 

[tinaruger]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Super Pickle Hi, Tina. Welcome! I find it absolutely mind-boggling how when a child is two years old, he will be given all appropriate pain relief measures for circumcision, yet the newborns have to suffer through it without a DROP of medication and the parents are told, "It only hurts for a second." Off topic, I handed some pregnant friends a packet of circ info today so I'm feeling optimistc.

Its funny you mention this. We were told by the hospital that when a baby is born he has no feeling in his foreskin because the nerve endings aren't developed. So when parents here this, of course they will trust the medical personell not realizing how wrong they are!

Tina

 

[Acksiom]

Hey Tina!

 

[Paddington]