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Ok, I am 35 wks pg and we do not know if we are having a boy or a girl. I just found out that our ped will most likely not be coming to see our baby in the hospital unless something is wrong. So, the baby will be seen by someone we don't know. Would any dr in their right mind try to retract a newborn? I will of course be right there while the dr checks the baby, but I have heard how they can do it before you even have a chance to say anything. I would just say "don't retract", but before I do that I want to know whether or not they would even try (yk, I don't want to look like a total freak telling them to do something that no dr would try to do). Please bear with me if this is a stupid question...if we have a boy this will be our first experience with an intact penis. We only have 1 girl and any baby boy I have ever had any contact with was circed.<br><br>
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<i>Before</i> the doctor begins the newborn exam, say, "We are not circumcising, so you don't need to mess with his penis. Please don't retract his foreskin at all."
 

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We knew we were having a girl this time but I made out a little card for a boy anyway just in case. Just make out a little index card type thing saying that I'm not circumsising and do not retract or something like that. I made out one for DD saying that we're breastfeeding so no bottles or pacifiers and they stuck it right on the baby bed. Good luck!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Unfortunately yes. They also will tell you that you need to frequently retract your son. It has been my experience that many doctors are horribly misinformed about how to care for an intact penis (leave it alone!)<br><br>
Don't feel silly telling the doctor beforehand at all. I wish I would have before I trusted a doctor and he tried to retract my son.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><i>Before</i> the doctor begins the newborn exam, say, "We are not circumcising, so you don't need to mess with his penis. Please don't retract his foreskin at all."</div>
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Yep, tell anyone who walks in the room to back away from the foreskin!
 

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I would actually say to not touch the penis at all, because the definition of retraction is not the same to all. If the ped wants to check the testicles, I would allow maybe 3 seconds of the dipe being open, then close it. I'm so paranoid, I might even put my hand over his penis while the diaper is open.
 

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Yes, drs will want to retract your son's foreskin. I have no idea why but they can't seem to help themselves. Maybe they're looking for a pot of gold under there, I dunno, but they can't seem to resist <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:.<br><br>
Make it easy on yourself... tell the dr that you'd prefer that he/she didn't touch DS's penis <b>at all</b>. Many drs. seem to have a different definition of "retract" than Webster's dictionary and they think that pulling it back "<i>just a little</i>" isn't the same thing as retraction.<br><br>
If the dr starts spouting some crap like "I have to visualize the urethra to see if there's any hypospadias" tell them that as long as DS is urinating normally there's no reason to see the urethra and any hypospadias severe enough to warrant immediate attention would probably be evident without retraction and so any mild hypospadias present is cosmetic and therefore not worth worrying about so there's no reason to even take a peek.<br><br>
If you absolve them of the resposibility of telling you that DS might have some mild hypospadias then you take away the possibility that you'll sue them down the road for not telling you about it- which is probably all they're worried about anyway- then they should be fine not looking under there.<br><br>
Who cares if you look like a total freak. Get that worry out of your head. You're not a freak, you're a mom protecting her son from the ignorant american medical establishment. GL!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: and congtats <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">
 

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Thanks for all of the responses. I will definitely speak up. I really wish my ped would be there as I don't have to worry about him. But we are giving birth a ways from home and he won't be able to come down. I am freaking out a little about what these unknown peds might do as I also have a two vessel cord and I don't want them whisking my baby away for tests and such. Thanks again!! I will make sure that DH is prepared to speak up as well. I already gave him the low down about not messing with the penis if we have a boy. He is totally on board but he had to laugh as I was really lecturing him about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Even though he hasn't read as much as I have about circ he was the one who stepped up with the last pregnancy and said definitely no circ if we have a boy. I was a little on the fence (mostly because I never knew anyone who kept their son intact <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ), so I showed DH some stuff on the internet that I was reading and he said no way!!! What a great guy! I am blessed that he is totally logical and so the "you want your son to look like you" argument didn't fly with him. To him, cosmetics was not a reason to do the wrong thing. Ok, I am going to stop bragging about my dh now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, drs will want to retract your son's foreskin. I have no idea why but they can't seem to help themselves. Maybe they're looking for a pot of gold under there, I dunno, but they can't seem to resist <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:.<br><br>
Make it easy on yourself... tell the dr that you'd prefer that he/she didn't touch DS's penis <b>at all</b>. Many drs. seem to have a different definition of "retract" than Webster's dictionary and they think that pulling it back "<i>just a little</i>" isn't the same thing as retraction.<br><br>
If the dr starts spouting some crap like "I have to visualize the urethra to see if there's any hypospadias" tell them that as long as DS is urinating normally there's no reason to see the urethra and any hypospadias severe enough to warrant immediate attention would probably be evident without retraction and so any mild hypospadias present is cosmetic and therefore not worth worrying about so there's no reason to even take a peek.<br><br>
If you absolve them of the resposibility of telling you that DS might have some mild hypospadias then you take away the possibility that you'll sue them down the road for not telling you about it- which is probably all they're worried about anyway- then they should be fine not looking under there.<br><br>
Who cares if you look like a total freak. Get that worry out of your head. You're not a freak, you're a mom protecting her son from the ignorant american medical establishment. GL!</div>
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I was just running a search for hypospadias because my 1 month old has a mild case. We've been to a urologist who said there's no point to doing anything. It's super obvious because it looks like he's pseudo circed and what he has for foreskin retracts freely with simple wiping. If you look closely the opening is not exactly in the usual place. I imagine that if a boy would need to be manually retracted to see if there was hypospadias, it would be EVEN MILDER than our case and therefore absolutely unnecessary.
 

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What makes you think the Dr will be in their right mind?
 

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Beth, what I would do is put a little sign in the babys bassinet saying you're not circ'ing and DO NOT RETRACT! I put a sign in DDs bassinet saying we were bf'ing so no bottle or pacifiers and the staff was very good about it. If we have another boy, I'll be watching him like a hawk! Congrats BTW! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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