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My son is 10 days old and I'm wondering how often is common to nurse. He's been nursing practically every moment he's been awake today and is usually like this, more so lately. We had some problems that we got fixed (tongue tie) that left me in excrutiating pain. Today and last night have been better, but now that he's constantly nursing, its starting to hurt all over again. I hate to say this, but I'm not enjoying nursing like I thought I would. I'd never do formula, but if this is how it always is going to be, I can honestly say I'm not looking forward to the next year+ of this.<br><br>
He's gained his birth weight back already plus a few extra oz.<br><br>
Could he be feeding more efficiently or what? I can sometimes hear the milk swish and him swallow after each suck, other times though, he'll just keep sucking, but I hear nothing. Is he getting anything at these feeds?<br><br>
Is this just how it is to bf? I usually find it hard to even get a drink or get something to eat kwim?
 

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Newborns nurse all the time. It is hard to do anything but nurse for the first few weeks. It will get easier, and less frequent, soon. Congrats on your little one!
 

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It won't last forever, but at 10 days old it is totally normal for a baby to nurse all. the. time. In the coming months, your baby will likely go through periods of more frequent nursing (to build up your supply) and then establish a less frequent pattern. It doesn't really even itself out until your baby is a little older... and even then if they're sick, tired etc.<br><br>
Do you have good support? People who can make food for you, hold the baby while you shower, etc. That's totally important. You are your baby's world right now, try to enjoy it while it lasts.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Yes, it is very normal for a newborn to nurse all the time. It's nature's way of making sure you will have enough milk, as your milk supply is being established in the early weeks. Also there are many growth spurts, one of them is around 10 days.<br><br>
It is not uncommon for babies with tongue tie to have a painful latch, are your nipples still sore from that? Do you have cracks, and are you treating them?<br><br>
Can you get a good look at your latch? Is he latched on deeply? If you do an asymmetrical latch, with your nipple aimed toward the roof of his mouth or his nose with a wide open mouth, and both lips flipped out like fish lips, that will help you get your breast in the right position as to not hurt you.<br><br>
I am guessing he is probably finding it so much easier to nurse now that you had his tongue tie clipped, so that might be part of it, also new babies really need that close comfort from their mothers as they get used to life outside the womb.<br><br>
The early weeks can be difficult and it's ok to not really enjoy it, especially if it hurts, but it will get better and easier! All mom/baby pairs are different but it sounds like you are really good at reading his cues and following his lead!<br><br>
Do you have someone from LLL or a lactation consultant who can help you with your latch if you need it?
 

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Yes, it's very common for newborns to nurse every hour ~ I know my ds did for maybe the first four weeks? I can't remember. Anyway, I know I was plenty sore even though he was my second baby and the first nursed for two years. My ds was only 6 lbs., 4 ozs. and I think he nursed so frequently in order to gain. My sister's kids are all 8 pounders and don't nurse nearly as frequently (as newborns). As long as your baby seems content/satied after feeding, he is getting plenty. If you need convincing, read up on proper attachment to make sure he can nurse optimally. And, please try to get proper nourishment and water intake for yourself! Your baby is depending on you!!! CONGRATS! on your new baby!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/baby.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="baby">
 

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Totally normal. It's great that the tongue tie was taken care of. You will notice a big dif. Good luck. In a few months you'll wonder where all of the time went.
 

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It is very demanding, but it won't last forever. I don't know if this will encourage or depress you, but many mamas find it gets significantly easier around 4 weeks.<br><br>
Do you have a pump? Have you considered pumping a few bottles to give your poor boobs a rest? Another thing you might try is to send DP to the store for food you don't have to cook/assemble. Apples, cut-up cheese, yogurt, pre-made salad, hummus and pita chips - stuff like that. Because as you well know, it is very difficult to make a grilled cheese sandwich while nursing a 10-day-old infant. Surely someone has given you a casserole, lol.<br><br>
Sending you healing vibes - I remember how painful it used to be to nurse DS, who had a short frenulum on his upper lip. I expect it will get much better very soon, since you had his tongue tie clipped.
 

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Normal normal normal normal, but I swear it gets easier. Ten days, although they have completely changed everything about your world, are actually not that many days at all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> You're still learning, and so is your baby. You guys will get the hang of it, and it will get vastly easier. Hang in there. You're doing a wonderful job of a very hard thing. I promise there will be payoff. It just takes a little time to get the hang of it all.
 

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Just another voice adding on to the "it's normal" choir. It really does get better. I promise. Four weeks was about the time it started getting easier with each of mine. They all nursed pretty much non-stop for the first three or four weeks, and then again at growth spurts. It's completely normal.
 

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EXACTLY. It will get better very soon. You should hang in there. It's worth it! You'll be pain free and a pro in no time!
 

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Normal. Won't last. Totally sounds like a growth spurt. IME, the enjoyable phase of nursing didn't kick in for a few weeks -- but the payoff was enormous.<br><br>
Do stay on top of your latch, do take all the household help you can get, and do give yourself a high five. That's awesome that you got the tongue tie taken care of so early!
 

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thank you all!! I think part of the soreness is still from the tongue tie, we just got it clipped yesterday afternoon. I might go see a LC a second time, but think we're doing pretty well overall. Thanks for the encouragement and support, its what I needed to hear. And yes, dh and others have been good about keeping quick food on hand for me. I can see the fridge from where I nurse, now if only I can get to it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Oh, the second part to the post~ if I don't hear the milk swooshing and him swallowing (gulping) loudly, is he still getting a decent amunt of milk? Do the sounds mean anything? There were feeds in the past week that were very loud and he was chuggin' along and seemed satisfied very quickly (10-15min). Lately he can linger for 30-50 min.<br><br>
Do babies just change up their style/speed of nursing from feed to feed?
 

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Your baby will feed in two stages, foremilk and hind milk.... both are important to thier growth and development. There is the initial sucking stage where they are initiating letdown and are getting mostly foremilk, then a slower sucking, but still very regular where they are getting more hindmilk. THEN there is the comfort nursing where it feels like thier sucking is more fluttery. They are all important, but by all means, when you get to the fluttery sucking and you feel like you're about to go out of your mind, pop the baby off for a while. Don't do it every time because it is an important paart of establishing your supply, but don't let yourself go crazy either! It'll only last a couple more weeks and then you'll forget that it was even difficult to begin with. We're at 3.5 months here and things are cruising along nicely but I sure do remember 16 weeks ago when I felt the exact same way that you do. Hang in there, you can do it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
You might want to seek a lactation consultant as well. If the gulping is really loud he may be getting a lot of air in which means his latch is incorrect, which will cause you pain still. Worth the check if you ask me!
 

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The one thing that saved me when dd was 24-7 nursing--the football hold. I nursed that kid all over town those first few weeks. Built up the biceps and got some errands done. Too bad my biceps didn't keep up with her though. I can't carry her like that too long anymore. A sling also helped with getting around while nursing. After a while, that rocking chair felt like it was eating my butt! If you can master side-laying nursing while you get some sleep, that helps a lot too. There were nights that I thought, huh, I think the babe ate again. I never really felt sleep deprived, even though she was eating all night.<br><br>
During those early weeks, I never could figure out how long she'd nurse from feeding to feeding, or if one would just roll to the next. I just let her at the boob for as long as she wanted, and then suddenly she'd pull away with a big sigh. This "rolling with it" philosophy really paid off, as she's now finishing up within a half hour as opposed to the two-hour long spells in the early days. The milk flow and whooshing and "ca"-ing always changed--never could predict what was going on. I'd de-latch her and then find out she really wanted to be re-connected. If she messed around, like on again off again, it usually meant a burp needed to happen. During the last trip to the breastfeeding clinic, she took in 2 ounces in the first half hour, and then 5 ounces in the next 5 minutes. You just never can tell.
 

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Very normal, both the pain and the constant nursing and the not enjoying it as much as you thought you would. It all gets better, I promise. I almost gave up on day 6 or 7 but stuck with it, mostly because of this board, and I am so glad I did. My DS will be 6 weeks old on Monday, and all our problems with BFing feel like ancient history! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you, mama. You can do this!
 

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Netflix and Tivo were my best friends around that time. I think it was the three week growth spurt (which happened at two weeks because he was born at 41 weeks) that I basically sat on the couch and nursed the baby for three days straight. It gets much, much better.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My son is 10 days old and I'm wondering how often is common to nurse. He's been nursing practically every moment he's been awake today and is usually like this, more so lately. We had some problems that we got fixed (tongue tie) that left me in excrutiating pain. Today and last night have been better, but now that he's constantly nursing, its starting to hurt all over again. I hate to say this, but I'm not enjoying nursing like I thought I would. I'd never do formula, but if this is how it always is going to be, I can honestly say I'm not looking forward to the next year+ of this.<br><br>
He's gained his birth weight back already plus a few extra oz.<br><br>
Could he be feeding more efficiently or what? I can sometimes hear the milk swish and him swallow after each suck, other times though, he'll just keep sucking, but I hear nothing. Is he getting anything at these feeds?<br><br>
Is this just how it is to bf? I usually find it hard to even get a drink or get something to eat kwim?</div>
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I am commiserating with you. Mine is 17 days old.<br><br>
That sounds exactly like me except the pain. I was lucky that when he had the tongue tie he was still getting his mouth on in the right place. His was tied very far back.<br><br>
Today he was up from 7 am to 2 pm, and I kept trying to get his belly full so he would sleep so I could go back to sleep, since I didn't get enough in the night. He did a couple of long bursts in the night too.<br><br>
As long as I was anxious for him to get sleepy, I was stressing myself out. When I just finally accepted that things were going to happen on his schedule, I felt much better.<br><br>
I finally got a nap with him from 2 to almost 3pm.<br><br>
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P.S. I don't hear any sounds when he eats. Just the swallows. Sometimes every one or 2 sucks, sometimes (when it is just fluttery and not serious sucks) every 20 or so.<br><br>
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There is NOTHING to watch on TV while nursing. I am so bored already. So much of the day, all the networks just have news. They all repeat the same 5 stories again and again. I just want something with plot!
 

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First off, congrats (we're in the same ddc)!<br>
You got the tongue tie clipped as well? We did on Thursday and things are going much better. I felt so bad during it though. I don't regret doing it, but it wasn't as 'painless' as some people seem to make it sound. He cried more than any other time since birth.<br><br>
He's so strong for being 12 days old now, he's able to pick up his head and push off my body with his hands (ouch, I learned he could do this while he was latched on).<br><br>
I think his new neck strength and better tongue situation has helped us nurse at night lying down. The past two nights have been so much better for me as far as sleep goes because we're getting the hang of lying down to nurse. He just wakes every 1.5-2 hrs. and we switch sides, then he wakes around 8am and eats like crazy (today from 8am-2pm almost non-stop) now he's been asleep from about 3-5:30, but he's starting to wake. If we can keep this schedule at least, I'll be so pleased!
 
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