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Our son is 12 mos. old, and I am not yet ready to have another. AF returned last month. I looked into the mini pill (I am still breastfeeding and don't want to risk estrogen containing pills since they might make my supply drop). So, I suppose the only other options are condoms (which dh refuses to use) or NFP.<br><br>
Can you experienced mamas give me some good suggestions on where to start, and what I might need (thermometer, charts, etc...)?<br><br>
Thank you so much. This all makes me feel <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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My DH refused condoms too and that's how we got pregnant with DD. Then a couple months ago I got pregnant again but I was trying to do NFP and apparently my DH has long living sperm<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I ended up miscarrying and now DH is using condoms to "make sure" we don't get pregnant. He said that they aren't as bad as he remembered them being..huh
 

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<span style="text-decoration:underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FTaking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary%2Fdp%2F0060881909%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%2F002-0280750-2879263%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1177446279%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">Taking Charge of Your Fertility</a></span> is a great place to start - tons of information. There is a primer <a href="http://www.ovusoft.com/library/primer002.asp" target="_blank">here</a>.<br><br><br>
A basal thermometer, digital is easiest. I really like <a href="http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=40512&catid=109001&trx=PLST-0-SEARCH&trxp1=109001&trxp2=40512&trxp3=1&trxp4=0&btrx=BUY-PLST-0-SEARCH" target="_blank">BD Basal</a>.<br><br>
There are some excellent sample charts in the book, and on that primer site.<br><br><br>
You might also want to try taking a class. The Couple to Couple league lists teachers, and classes are usually offered through local Catholic Dioceses. Or you might be able to locate a more secular FAM (fertility awareness method) class through google.
 

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I'm a nurse in a family planning clinic. First let me clarify that there are other options for BF moms in the birth control dept. The minipill probably won't be effective enough at this point since I'm assuming you've introduced solids. Minipill is only dependable when the baby is exclusively BF. Other options are depo (pregesterone shot every 12 wks - personally I'm not a fan of depo at all) and an IUD (Mirena is good for 5 years, has low doses of progesterone to help you have lighter less painful periods, 99% effective, safe for BF. The copper IUD is good for 10 years but has no hormones and usually causes heavier, more painful periods.)<br><br>
In the NFP department...I wouldn't depend on NFP until you've had a few cycles to dertmine that you're body is back on a regular rhythm. Even though you just got AF back, you might not be reliably ovulating at regular intervals yet. I second the suggestion for reading <i>Taking Charge of Your Fertility</i>. The book is very well written without a bunch of complicated medical jargon.<br><br>
There's an even easier way to do NFP than taking daily temps, monitoring cervical mucous, etc. CycleBeads are a super easy way to track when you're fertile and when you aren't. You have to have a regular period to depend on them (and any other method of NFP for that matter). As long as you get your period every 26 to 32 days, you're considered a candidate for CycleBeads. They're very cheap, usually around $14. You can buy them on the company's website <a href="http://www.cyclebeads.com" target="_blank">http://www.cyclebeads.com</a>or search for local retailers. In the Seattle area, some of our natural health food stores carry them and we also sell them at my clinic (the local health department). If you're interested, keep reading. It's hard to explain when I don't have them in front of me to show you but I'll do my best. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Visit the website for more info but the basic premise is you can have all the unprotected sex you want during the brown beads but must abstain, use condoms, or otherwise avoid sperm exposure during the white beads. There's a little black ring that you move each day. You start on the first red bead which represents the first day of your period. Move the black ring forward one bead each day. In the picture on the web, you'll see a darker brown bead on the 26th bead. This represents day 26 of your cycle. If you start your period before reaching this bead more than one time per year, your cycles are too short and you can't depend on CycleBeads. The black bead represents day 33. If you get to the black bead before starting your period more than one time per year, your cycles are too long. Ideally, you will start you period sometime between the two. When you do, you just skip whatever brown beads are left and go right onto the red bead again. Remember, the brown beads = very low pg risk and the white beads = high pg risk.<br><br>
I hope this made at least a little sense!
 
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