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Here is our birth story. it is long but i felt i couldnt shorten it. it all seems so important. its not edited and i will probably go over it and add more at a later time, but now all i want to do is snuggle my sweet baby ngaio.<br><br>
Love, fern<br><br>
I woke up with the autumn sun shining in my window. i love how the leaves<br>
have all fallen and now its so bright in there..all summer it was like a haven from the sun now its a sun haven.<br>
i drank a big glass of orange juice with lemon verbena oil mixed in.. not the nicest thing to wake up to, but i had been waiting so long for ngaio and i wanted to help her along. 2 weeks past my due date of Nov.13th seemed like too long!<br>
i climbed back into bed and slept in the warm sunshine for a while<br>
then talked myself into getting up and taking the labour coctail..<br>
(more verbena and castor oil mixed in icecream) it was the 3rd time i tried it and it wasn't very nice..but the thought of holding my baby made it okay. i made elwynn french toast and he played quietly most of the morning. i started to have mild contractions a few hours later and they continued all day but didnt really gather in strength.. i wasn't sure if i was really in labour or just feeling the affects of the castor oil. but just in case i did some nesting.. i cleaned house and helped my sister make yummy food...<br>
we roasted a chicken that my dad brought from his farm and made a big pot of mashed potatos and roasted veggies. i took another coctail about 6 hours after the first and my contractions really picked up.<br>
my midwife susie came over to check up on me and did a quick sweep and i was a good 4 Cm dialated.. soon afterthe sweep my contractions were<br>
intense enuff that i had to breathe through them. they were coming pretty close together as well, but i still wasnt sure if this was really it.. it seemed so surreal to finally be in labour..its like my mind couldn't quite accept it.<br>
dinner was ready and smelled SO good! our friend Meg came over to share with us and susie stayed as well..it felt nice to be surrounded by woman . susie was my midwife when i was pregnant with elwynn and is so wonderful.i feel really close with her so i was so excited that she was there with me again for the birth of my second child. the food was wonderful but i couldn't eat very much. my body felt high and my insides were still a bit raw from the castor oil. susie had to leave to go pick up her daughter but she decided to check me again before she left and i was easily 5 cm dialated..so she decided just to go to the clinic to get a few things and come back.<br>
timothy came over and cora my doula showed up at around 9:00 and i decided that i wanted to go for a walk so we bundled up and walked up and down our chesnut tree lined street.<br>
it was a clear beautiful night and the stars were so bright in the sky.<br>
i felt so at peace and one with my body and ngaio. The big old trees were spaced perfectly for my labour.. my contractions were 1 or 2 trees apart and i held the trees while cora and timothy rubbed my back. breathing the cold air and feeling the rush of my body working so hard was so<br>
beautiful. susie and elizabeth, my other midwife showed up while we were walking and when we came in the house was warm and cozy ..all set up for the birth. we had set up the pool after dinner so we<br>
started to fill it up and soon i was in the warm water. it felt so amazing to be surrounded by warmth and my body felt really supported.<br>
i was a bit worried that my contractions would slow down having heard that sometimes water can do that but they only intensified. i dialted very fast after that. susie didnt check me again but i knew my body was working quickly. at some point early in the water the student midwife allison came in quietly. i remember looking up after a contraction and seeing her face and then looking around and everyone there was so beautiful and together. it was truly a community gathering. i felt so safe and supported and able to just follow my body into the trance of childbirth.<br>
my water broke with an expolsion that made me jump. it was like a gun going off. elwynn had just woken up from a 9 hour nap and kyla and he were in the kitchen having a snack. as soon as my water broke my contractions were one on top of the other and so intense that i almost lost it for a second. i guess that was transition but it all happened so fast that i didnt throw up or cry or anything like i did with elwynn.. i had the urge to push within minutes and it felt so good and hurt so much that i really had to vocalise. elwynn sat on the couch in from of me and just watched so intently. i told him i loved him in a calm moment and he just smiled at me. it felt so right to have him there with me to witness his sisters birth. pushing happened really fast and i felt her body slide through me with such force all i could do was breathe and make primal noises. her head felt really big and when it crowned it was a whole handful and more. i was sure i was going to tear in half. i pushed and breathed to stop from pushing more but my body didnt want to slow down. it was all happening so fast. her head came out and i pushed a few more times but her body didn't want to follow.. at one point i lifted my bum up and her head came above the water then went back in and at that moment my midwife asked me to get out of the tub. i heard urgency in her voice so i jumped up as fast as i could and was on my hand and knees. i pushed with all of my might and she still wouldn't come and then there were 6 hands pushing and pulling and then she was out. it was a bit scary for a moment. she had shoulder distocia, which is why she didnt just slide out of me.<br>
her cord was pretty short and stretched tight between my legs and her body. and she was really big. she took a deep breath and made some crying and mewing noises. she was a girl! i really had no doubt but when i looked down and saw my heart fluttered. i had my daughter. i was complete.<br>
she had quite a lot of vernix on her considering being 2 weeks overdue but her size confirmed to me that i wasn't wrong about my dates. she nursed right away but i started to bleed quite a lot and i still hadn't birthed the placenta so cora cut the cord after it stopped pulsing and susie gave me a shot of oxytocin. i really wanted to use the placenta to stop the bleeding but i also didnt want to bleed to death. as soon as i birthed the placenta i ate a piece. it wasn't at all what i expected it to be. it was warm and chewy but tasted more like a vegetable than meat. it was salty and not unpleasant at all.. my bleeding slowed down and i just sat with my baby in my arms surrounded by my family of birth supporters and felt in awe. only 4 hours had gone by since cora arrived at 9:00. Ngaio was born at 3 minutes to 1 on monday the 28th of november. a night owl as always.. we all guessed at how much she would weigh and we all though it between 8 1/2 and 9 1/2 lbs. she surprised us all by being 10 lbs 5 oz. i was shocked. i hadnt torn at all.. wow. we all just looked amazed for a moment and susie said that she was the biggest baby she had ever attended at home or at hospital.<br>
my body is incredible.<br>
sleep didn't come easily and it was well past 5 in the morning before i bundled us all into bed. our first few days are already a blur.. we did lots of loving and snuggling. she looks deeply into my eyes when she is awake and nurses so beautifully. she is a very calm contented baby..we are all so in love!<br>
(written dec.1st 2005)
 

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Wow, fern.. that sure was fast wasn't it. And she's definately a BIG girl! I'm sending you, and my new neice, Ngaio tonnes of love for your post-partum period. You rock, fern!
 

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So I'm not the only one who had to get out of the water with the head already out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Strange sensation isn't it? Guess that's what happens with those 10 + pounders.<br><br>
I also didn't have vomiting or shaking in transition this time around. I thought sure I would and didn't believe I was in transition b/c those things weren't happening.<br><br>
Thanks for sharing your story.<br><br>
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Hooray, I was looking forward to reading your birth story. Isn't it bizarre that there are folks out there that believe one can't even *birth* a 10lb baby vaginally, & here you are birthing one joyfully and not even *tearing* ?! I was on Tribe.com the other day where there was a conversation going on about that very subject. Girls were shocked that it ever happened that women attempted to vaginally birth 10+ lb babies. Silly!!<br><br>
Congratulations again MamaFern, now you have TWO gorgeous children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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Oh, I'm crying (OK, snuffling.) That's such a beautiful birth story.
 

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Beautiful Fern. I can totally sympathyize with the 10+ pound birth, it's so surreal. It sounds like you had so much earth energy there with you! I'm so jelous!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Thanks for sharing your story, Fern. So...do you think you and Ngaio were waiting until Susie could be at the birth? It sounds like you had a great team there for such a beautiful birth of your big girl!!
 

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What a beautiful birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I am so happy for all of you.
 

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I finally made my way over here to check out your story Fern. Congratulations to you, and your new family. You are truly blessed. Ngaio is just beautiful! And of course, Elwynn is as cute as ever. Take it easy and enjoy your babymoon, you deserve it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust">
 

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Today's the first day I've been online long enough to post anything! Congratulations on your gorgeous girl and your sensational birth. Our bodies are magnificent, you ought to be very proud!<br><br>
Congrats and blessings upon your family! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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