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Hi, i don't think i've posted on this board before. My dd has always been a dream nurser, so i never really have problems. I'm planning on child led weaning, but the night times are getting hard. She's 17 months old (bday is april 22) and she wakes up at least 2-3 times a night to nurse most nights. As best I can remember anyway. We have her crib set up as a sidecar to our bed so that she can have her own space and still nurse at will. I'm fine with letting her cosleep even after she's weaned because we're in a 2 bedroom apartment and there's not really much other place for the crib. My 3yr's room is packed full with his bed and toys.<br>
Part of the problem is that my supply seems to be going down a little. Since my supply first regulated itself in the first few weeks, i've felt slightly full when it was time to nurse, never engorged unless i had a clogged duct or was away from her for a few hours. Which I know is normal. but now I NEVER feel full. She also never fully emptied a breast, but now she almost always does. I've increased her solids some thinking maybe she just needed more calories than what i was giving her, and she's still totally emptying me on a regular basis. LIke to the point that to nurse is annoying (you know when they get empty and any more sucking almost hurts). So at night, I don't mind nursing her to sleep, but usually she'll nurse for 5 mintues then get down and play. then come back and nurse again and then go play. this is as she's getting tired. Sometimes, just before bed time she'll totally empty me and then be ready to nurse to sleep, and i can't do it because she's already nursed so much! Once i finally do get her to sleep, I can put her down and she'll stay asleep. Then her night waking - I've been trying to decrease her total nursing time at night so that i can get more sleep. I've always slept or at least dozed off while she nursed, but that's getting harder to do and i'm tired all the time now. So I've been letting her nurse when she wakes up, but then lay her back on her side of the bed to let her drift back off to sleep on her own. This has resulted in her waking MORE often, which totally defeats the purpose.<br>
What should I do? i know its normal for toddlers to still night nurse, its just getting frustrating for me. I can't nap during the day because my 3 yo doesn't nap (or rarely does) and she does nap, but she wakes to nurse in the middle of her naps too! My dh works full time, goes to class 2 nights a week (8 hrs total) and works a saturday job too. And I'm about to start watching a 2 yr old and a 4 yr old and will have to get up a little earlier than i'm used to. So I've GOT to get my rest.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> my dd went through a phase like that at about the same age. i couldn't get her to sleep at ALL! i was so burnt out and frazzled. i was lost when nursing to sleep didn't work because it's always been the only thing that worked. the only relief i got that month was when she skipped her nap and then was very tired by bedtime and fell asleep fairly quickly (for us about 20 is pretty quick <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> ) i know you mentioned your dh is really busy, but if it's possible for him to get up with the children in the morning just once every other week for 1 hour (or more if you're really lucky :LOL) it might be a real refresher for you. or if he can help you squeeze in a short nap (alone!) whenever. or if you could find a friend/relative/anyone else you trust to keep an eye on them while you get a little nap. my dd tends to want to nurse more just because i'm there and doesn't miss it as much when i'm not physically around her. i hope she eases up on you soon!
 

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LOL - Dh is in the Army, so he's up before 6 every AM, goes in for PT and then comes home to change and then leave for work again. For lunch, he's home just enough to eat lunch, and on Monday and wednesday evenings, he's not in until around 9. Saturdays, he's gone most of the day. That leaves Sundays, which is church day and I actually have to get up earlier than usual. We usually don't get up until 8-9 am, so its not a matter of sleeping in, its a matter of getting more sleep during the night. I am usually in bed by 10 or so.
 

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I'd suggest taking a look at your diet, you need the best possible nutrition to keep up milk supply and keep up you energy levels under stress. drink lots water, avoid refined sugars and cheap carbs, add good-fat foods like avacados, nuts, flax seed oil, lots of whole grains and protiens.<br><br>
now if i can only follow this advice myself....
 

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Hi Kelly! Your dd is the exact same age as mine, minus three days. She does the same thing at night to go to sleep; nurse, go play, nurse some more, go play again, nurse... If this goes on for a long time, it is so hard to let her nurse to sleep because it really does hurt. I am thinking of instituting a bedtime routine, or at least turning the lights off in the bedroom so it's completely dark. Ha, we'll see!<br><br>
Have you considered night weaning? There is an article by Dr. Jay Gordon about how to do it. I don't have the link right in front of me, but it is on the nighttime parenting board. Basically, you continue to co-sleep but do not nurse. We started this last night, and boy was Abby mad! Dh went up the first two times she woke, then the rest of the night she kept trying to pull up my shirt. The theory is that once they realize they won't be nursing during the night, they won't bother to wake up anymore. We'll see. I'll let you know how it goes.<br><br>
And I second the diet idea for you. You may also want to consider drinking some herbal teas to increase your supply. Getting enough sleep will help with that too.<br><br>
I feel for ya! I've been on the verge of cutting my breasts right off some days!<br><br><br>
Kim
 

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KIM! Good grief, how many preg.org people am i going to run across here today? LOL. Just ran across 2 others this weekend.<br>
Anyway, I actually found a TON of info at kellymom.com, including Dr Gordon's plan. She's just gotten a cold, so i'm just barely trying to night wean right now, but not pushing it at all until she's better. I like Dr Gordon's ideas a lot though. And you know, I'm a big Sears fan myself, but I like that Gordon is a lot more flexible. I like how he said that at some point, baby has to learn that its not a dictatorship, its a democracy, and the family has voted and they want more sleep! LOL. So I'm going to start his night weaning plan and see how that goes. I'm also going to try to increase her solids some. I think it was at kellymom.com where i read the other day that at 18 months, abut 50% of a nursing toddlers intake should be food, and i know she's not up to that yet. Its not that she won't eat, nursing is just easier to do, but its getting old, and i don't want to wean. yeah, my diet leaves a lot to be desired. I have always been a crappy eater. i'm actually thinking of hypnotherapy to deal with it. I hate veggies. I want to eat better, but i'm so darn picky. Thanks for all the tips ladies!
 
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