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For the past few weeks, dd (29 mo) has been waking up between 1 and 3 in the morning every night. She isn't fully awake, usually just tossing and turning and whining with a little bit of crying - until last night. She woke me up around 1:30 screaming like she was being hurt. Dh and I soothed her back to sleep, rubbing her back, talking softly and she went right back to sleep - not that she was really awake. Is this the normal night terror stage or could it be something else? She is at home with me all day long, just the two of us until big sister gets home from school around 3. I've been paying close attention to what happens during her day and I can't see anything that might cause nightmares. It is starting to really wear on me - I'm in my seventh month of pregnancy and sleep is elusive anyway so waking every night is really making it difficult to function during the day. Is there anything I can do to help her sleep better at night or is this just a phase I'm going to have to help her get through? BTW, she sleeps with us right now, I've been thinking about trying to get her to sleep in her own bed, but haven't made the switch yet, don't want to do anything that may further upset her. Anyone else dealing or dealt with this?
 

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It sounds like it may have just been a regular nightmare - I hope for your sake that's what it was. DS has night terrors, and it is really trying sometimes. With night terrors the child is in a deep sleep and will not recognize the parents when they try to comfort him - he's basically inconsolable until the episode is over, which thankfully doesn't last long. Another characteristic of night terrors is that the child will not remember the episode the next day. My pediatrician has assured me that this does not mean my son is psychologically distressed, and will have no long term effects from them. She said they generally outgrow them by school age.<br><br>
Anyway, as far as your DD is concerned, maybe try something soothing at bedtime so she is really calm and relaxed - like a lavendar bath or cup of chamomile tea? Then maybe she will sleep better?<br><br>
Good luck to you! I can definitely sympathize, because when I was pregnant with DD I was having to get up 1-2 times a night with DS. Not fun.
 

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I wanted to expand a little on what the previous poster replied. I apologize for being so late on replying to you as I did see your post a day or so ago but have been extremely busy with classes this sememster(full-time student).<br>
My daughter has been having nightterrors since 6 months old. I have researched pretty extensively on them. They are hereditary(i started at 6months and went until 15 years old) and MOST children do outgrow them or they lessen substantially by the time they are about 4 or 5 years old, though some people are afflicted their entire lives. They do not stem from anything in daily life, it's unknown what causes them though it has been shown that they are exascerbated by stressful situations or developmental milestones. They occur in, I believe, the 4th level of sleep. This is your light sleep, before you REALLY hit your dreaming sleep. Typically for my daughter it is 1hour 15minutes or 1hour 30minutes after she falls asleep. It's like clockwork, you can set your watch to it. She used to have them a few times a week and is now down to once a month or so thankfully. Potty learning, though it was her choice, perked them up again for a month or so and she was having one every night for 6 weeks. Typically she will all of a sudden sit up, open her eyes, and start screaming like someone is killing her. She is hysterical and unable to calm down. She is still asleep but if you try to comfort her, she will kick, bite, slap, etc. She doesn't want to be held but I can't sit by hearing my daughter scream and not do anything, though I know that she doesn't know I'm there. She will have her eyes open but they don't focus on anything and she seems to be lookign right through me. It usually lasts about 20minutes for my daughter, though I've read it can last from 2 or 3 minutes up to an hour. (i pity those parents!!) Nothing I've changed in her diet or her lifestyle helps. She doesn't remember it in the morning nor does it seem to affect her sleep. They do cluster so when she has one, I expect at least one more within the week. she has gone for 6 months without oen and all of a sudden she has them for a week straight. It's just emotionally draining watching your baby struggle and scream like she is in excruciating pain and not being able to help her. It seems to exhaust her and she sleeps through the night each tiem she has a terror.<br>
From your post, I would conclude that it was NOT a terror and just a nightmare. The timign doesn't seem right to me unless she went to bed around midnight or so. I'm sure you could discuss this with your pediatrician, though I doubt he/she would give you anymore information that I've given. I asked mine about it when Madyson was about 6 months(after she had her first one) and she had no advice for me. She said she didn't know about them since her children had never had one. That seemed odd to me but I dn't hold much faith in my pedi anyway. I wish you the best of luck. If you would like more information or want to chat about it, feel free to email me at:<br><a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a><br><br>
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