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My 2yo DD (#2) is still nursing on demand, and during the night she really picks up -waking to nurse nearly every 2-3 hours. (My 3.5 yo DD nurses once a day and never at night.)<br><br>
Recently DH and I went away for an overnight and left the girls with their grandparents for the night. DD#2 never woke once during the night! I was astounded to hear this and began to wonder if I might be able to night wean and provide us both with a full nights' sleep?<br><br>
The last 3 nights I tried night weaning, explaining what we were doing beforehand. More than half of the times that she woke -and was "redirected" to settle back down rather than to nurse- she didn't cry and got back to sleep pretty well (I offered her a drink of water, rubbed her back, etc.). But the other times that she cried before falling back to sleep broke my heart.<br><br>
I don't know what to do because now that I've started I feel I have to follow through. I feel it's terribly confusing to send a mixed message and give-in sometimes and then not others. DH reminds me that broken sleep isn't good for any of us long-term and this will also make it easier on her if DH and I go away for an overnight again in the future.<br><br>
Any advice from those who have been through this? Maybe I just have to get through a few more difficult nights and then we'll all be sleeping through the night?! Am I terrible to have even started this in the first place?<br><br>
I know this isn't exactly CL(night-)W, but the fact that she didn't even wake when I wasn't there makes me think it's more habit now than a deeper need? Or is that just what I'm telling myself to rationalize this?<br><br>
Any advice or experience nudging along a night wean?
 

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Just jumping in to get ideas. DD will be 2 at the end of May, and I plan on night weaning her around that time. She nursing usually 4x a night right now. If I'm out of town, she will still wake once or twice but will go right back to sleep when DH shows her that I'm not home. I'm thinking about trying Jay Gordon's nightweaning techniques.
 

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We decided to night wean our then 2 yo. #2 was about 2 mo and #1 was waking every 1-2 hours. It took a few nights before it was calm, but well worth it! Now, a few months later, #2 will still whine for a few seconds when I ask her to let go, but we are all sleeping better and she and I now cuddle for the sake of cuddling at night!
 

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I'm having a tought time with this right now. DD night weaned pretty easily at about this age - but I was also 6 mths pregnant. Ds is having a hard time so I backed off a bit (plus DH's rotating schedule means a lot of night work lately<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> May have to revisit the Jay Gordon artilce - I remember reading it once upon a time but forget what it said!
 

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I night weaned my 18mth old a few weeks back and though we did have a few rough nights it really was worth. I knew that dd wasn't waking because she was hungry, just more so to get back to sleep and so we took about a week or less(I can't even remember how long) We all sleep a lot better and eventhough she still wakes up from time to time(most people do that anyway) we cuddle up and she goes back to sleep woithout another thought.<br><br>
Do what you feel is right. I agree that you don't want to send mixed messages so if you decide to let it go for now don't come back two days later and try again. You know your child best and if you think your lo is ready for the change, she probably is.<br><br>
Good luck to you!<br><br>
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I'm having trouble with htis too - almost the same as the OP. It was precipitated by her being able to go to sleep while waiting for her turn during the night (she has a new baby brother). We had a couple of great nights where I could warn, delatch and she'd roll over and go to sleep and then one awful one where she would just cry, I'd let her nurse again, then she'd cry, etc, etc.<br><br>
I just don't know what to do. Her latch is awful, I despise nursing on the bad nights, but I don't want to force her, and on the good nights it's OK.
 
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