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i'm writing this for advice and support and to keep myself committed to this. i think after 25 months, i'm really ready to night wean. so, i started lastnight. our usual routine is i nurse him to sleep, put him in his bed, he wakes up at some point during the night, we nurse back to sleep in my bed, cosleep and then continue nursing off and on for the rest of the night and morning. my goal is to only nurse him to sleep and then once in the night when he gets into our bed. when we feel comfortable with that, the one nursing in the night will stop too.<br>
so... yesterday, we talked about it. i told him what was going to happen. when he woke up in the night and nursed, we talked about it again. he woke up a few times after that, but put himself to sleep again. eventually, he wanted to nurse again. i told him that the nursies were resting and when it was light outside, we could nurse again. he tried to pull up my shirt, cried and cried, and after a long while, fell asleep again while i was rubbing his back and telling him that i love him. he did this at least twice. i felt really bad, but committed to it too. i felt like a better and more tolerant mother this morning, which makes me think i'm doing the right thing.<br>
if you have any advice, i would love to hear it. tia
 

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I did this at 19 months with my 1st. The first night was hard. The second was not so bad. The third she slept all night without waking up once. I would tell her that we wouldn't nurse, but we could cuddle. This irritated her the first night (that's putting it mildly) but within the first week, she wanted to cuddle to sleep. Hang in there.
 

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I don't know whether i'm in any kind of place to give advice on this or not. You should do what you think is best.<br><br>
If you nightwean in this way, I would emphasize the nursing in the morning part. Let him nurse as long as he wants in the am.
 

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last night went very well. he woke up, got into our bed and nursed. when he was nursing, i told him that the next time he nursed, the sun would be up. he went to sleep and didn't wake me up until the sun came up. wow... that was easy! of course, it might have been a fluke, as this has happened before a few times. i just thought i'd give everyone an update.<br>
btw.. thanks for your advice and support, and yes, he can nurse as much as he wants in the morning.
 

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Barbee, my DS has the same birthday as yours <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> , and I've also been thinking a lot about night weaning (though haven't started yet). We've had such rough nights for the past couple of weeks with the last two molars coming in. I think I'm too tired to start the process, and also DS will be more ready after the teeth are totally in. Sounds like you two are doing great with sleep now. Congrats!!!! Good luck, and let us know how it goes in the next few days!
 

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yeah.. one of the reasons i got motivated to do this was because his molars are in now. i'm feeling really hopeful now about finally sleeping again.
 

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I night-weaned dd when she was 23 mo. and we continued cosleeping. I couldn't believe how easy it was and how nice it was to have her sleep through the night shortly thereafter.<br><br>
At 25 months your ds is old enough to understand when you say that you won't nurse till the sun comes up. He won't <i>like</i> it, but he can understand you. I'd say just keep rubbing his back and telling him you'll nurse in the morning.<br><br>
Your last night sounded very positive. If you want my advice, I'd cut out all the nursing during the night pretty soon. It probably will be hard for him to understand that he can nurse at night sometimes when he wakes up, but not other times.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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We're night weaning too. My nipples are just ravaged right now(long story) and I tell him, I'm sorry,nursies are sore, momma hurts right now. He gets mad and tries to pull up my shirt, but I tell him momma can hold you, and I start kissing him. It's actually harder to say no during the day becaus he loves DH and I don't have him around in the daytime to hand off to.<br><br>
Keep going, you're doing great!
 

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he sttn!!! he didn't even wake up to get into our bed until the sun was coming up. for the past two nights, however, he's been falling asleep late. i think it was 11 lastnight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: i don't know if there's a connection to night weaning. if there is, it's a good enough trade off. the real test is going to be when we're at my sis's because he has to sleep with us all night. the reason he's in a separate bed, which is in our room, is because he sleeps much better without me right there. we're not leaving until the 18th though, so maybe he'll be totally night weaned by then.<br>
thank you for your suggestions and support. i really appreciate all of it.
 

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YAY!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap">
 

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wow!! that's great! I have been toying around with possibly nightweaning my 25 month old too! Your story is giving me inspiration! Maybe I'll try after the holidays (we will be out of town for a couple of weeks for Christmas).<br><br>
Question: Are you super engorged in the morning? Going from nursing a zillion times a night down to 1-2 or even 0 has me worried!<br><br>
Thanks<br><br>
Laura
 

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Barbee,<br><br>
Please keep letting us know how it's going. My DD is only 7 mos but I'm already gathering info for when the time is right. Good luck at your sis's.
 

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no, i haven't been engorged at all. i don't think i produce much anymore though anyway. i've only been able to nurse on one side since he was 5 weeks, and i've noticed that i'm not so freakishly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> lopsided anymore.
 

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This is all pretty encouraging to me!! (see my post about the marathon nursing to get her to sleep.. ugh)<br>
I plan on starting next week with my dd. She will understand. She won't like it, as you said, but will understand I think.<br>
My only reservation is that I feel like I will be setting us up for failure--- we are only temporarily living where we are and we move in Feb... So I am guessing she will regress and want to nurse all night all over again then?!! but I could be wrong?!<br>
Also, how do you not "cave" and just nurse? My dd will throw I high holy fit I am sure...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is all pretty encouraging to me!! (see my post about the marathon nursing to get her to sleep.. ugh)<br>
I plan on starting next week with my dd. She will understand. She won't like it, as you said, but will understand I think.<br>
My only reservation is that I feel like I will be setting us up for failure--- we are only temporarily living where we are and we move in Feb... So I am guessing she will regress and want to nurse all night all over again then?!! but I could be wrong?!<br>
Also, how do you not "cave" and just nurse? My dd will throw I high holy fit I am sure...</div>
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I night-weaned my dd two months before we moved and she didn't regress to wanting to night nurse after we moved. Moving required an adjustment in general, but she didn't need to nurse at night.<br><br>
As far as "caving" goes- Just tell yourself that the night-weaning process will go so much faster if you don't give in and nurse just to get her to sleep quickly in the moment. I think you'll probably just have a couple of difficult nights and it will get much easier.<br><br>
Ds just turned one and I am desperately craving more sleep, but I feel like he's too young to night-wean. I'm thinking maybe at 18 mo. Maybe even earlier. I don't think I can wait till 23 mo. like I did with dd.
 

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ds woke up three times and was mad that he couldn't nurse. so, i guess it's going to take a little longer. he wasn't as angry as he was before and he went to sleep quicker. so, i guess that's progress. the only difference was that last night he went to sleep earlier. i think i'm going to continue to try to get him to sleep earlier in the hopes that night weaning encourages more sleep.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is all pretty encouraging to me!! (see my post about the marathon nursing to get her to sleep.. ugh)<br>
I plan on starting next week with my dd. She will understand. She won't like it, as you said, but will understand I think.<br>
My only reservation is that I feel like I will be setting us up for failure--- we are only temporarily living where we are and we move in Feb... So I am guessing she will regress and want to nurse all night all over again then?!! but I could be wrong?!<br>
Also, how do you not "cave" and just nurse? My dd will throw I high holy fit I am sure...</div>
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i hope my last post doesn't discourage you. i've had this plan since he was about 18 months old and i've always caved. this time, i'm committed to not caving. i think i really feel ready, partly because his molars are in, where as before, i wasn't. maybe that's the difference.
 

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I'm gaining encouragement and momentum from this thread! I'm going to be trying to NW my 22mo DD over the Christmas holiday and am a little nervous about it. I'll keep checking in for updates--sorry last night didn't go better for you, but I guess it'll probably have its ups and downs until the process is finished.
 

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I do 'cave' because it's the difference some nights between getting him to sleep at all, and maybe even having some time alonewith DH.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I haven't noticed any engorgement either. I take it as a sign that my body agrees wholeheartedly with my sleep deprived brain!
 
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