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I'm almost 36 wks. pregnant with my girl/boy twins and can't quite wrap my mind around how to breastfeed both of the them at night AND get any sleep myself. We co-slept with my daughter and I fed her on demand. We certainly plan to do the same with these babies. I'm curious what worked for you veteran twin moms during those early months.
 

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I used to sleep with one twin between me and DH, and one twin in a sidecarred crib, or in our bed beside me with the sidecar to keep her from falling out. Then as each twin woke during the night, I'd roll one way or the other and nurse side-lying. That worked well most of the time, because I could roll quick enough to keep the awake twin from crying out and thus waking the other. It didn't work so well on the nights when both woke at once, but luckily that was rare. When it DID happen, I would have to sit up and nurse both at once with pillows, or have DH soothe one in a sling while I nursed the other down and then we'd switch. THAT made for some pretty sad scenes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> for the twin that had to wait, but sometimes it was unavoidable because DS had trouble falling asleep with me sitting up, because he'd wake when I put him down.<br><br>
Some mamas with boobs in a shape and size that make it possible have had success with side-lying nursing with both babies at once, but mine are small and widely spaced and it was impossible for me to figure out.
 

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I'm so glad to read this Llrya. What you did is my plan exactly. I'm hoping to actually keep them on DIFFERENT schedules instead of the same so I can sling and nurse one twin at a time and still have my hands free during the day. Yes, it's less down time for me, but I have four other small children so down time isn't likely anyway! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm hoping that will bleed over to night so I can nurse one at a time. I can sleep while nursing pretty darn well! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I did pretty much the same. I nursed one at a time throughout the night. Sometimes I really started to feel suffocated being sandwiched between the two of them. My arms would fall asleep and stuff since I didn't dare move too much for fear of waking one or both. When that happened, dh would snuggle with one of them, so that I could get a little breathing space on one side.
 

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We've always co-slept. In the very early days (maybe weeks - I honestly can't remember) I'd have the boys situated side-by-side, swaddled and with sleep positioners (<a href="http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/latejen/misc/cosleeping.jpg" target="_blank">here's a pic</a> to demonstrate) with me on one side & dh on the other. When they'd wake I'd sit up and have dh help me get all setup with the EZ-2-Nurse pillow and I'd nurse them both (I think they'd both wake around the same time back then - soooo hard to remember this!). Anyway, I'm not sure how long that lasted but soon enough it got to the point where I was able to nurse them while lying down (side lying position) one at a time. So as long as only one of them woke at a time (and I think they took shifts in waking from pretty early on) then I'd just nurse whoever woke up, switching sides with dh as needed. It went on like this until they were about 9 months old, at which point swaddling blankets no longer worked (they were a lifesaver up until then) and I started sleeping between them. By that point they were big enough that I could nurse them simultaneously in that position (cradling one in each arm while I'd lie on my back - more or less <a href="http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y283/jdunhamphotography/npt/nursing/IMG_3687.jpg" target="_blank">like this</a>). This is how we still do it today (they'll be 2 this month).
 

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I much prefer doing one at a time in the night, but I keep the nursin gpillow handy so if I Have to tandem I can. Min seem to usually wake at different times. One eats more at each feeding less often and the other just nurses a bit but more frequently <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Good Luck! You can do it! Mine are almost 3 months and while I am tired a lot, it's not as bad as I had imagined (but last night was one of our worst nights so far, every night is different).
 

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Hmmm. So co-sleeping (in the bed) never worked for us because our bed is too small (it's whatever is between twin and queen.) We kept my son in a cradle next to the bed... and bring him in to bed to nurse never worked because side lying nursing never worked for me (boobs too small or something) and he pooped every time he ate so had to have a diaper change anyway - so when he woke I'd take him to his room, nurse in the glider, change the diaper, and back to bed. Worked for us.<br><br>
I figured with the twins they'd both be in the crib next to our bed (planning to take one side off) and when they woke to nurse I'd go to the living room with my easy 2 nurse pillow and nurse... (my son is in the room across the hall and the glider is in there) ... I figured when one woke I'd wake the other... I figured it would be a little different but pretty similar. Am I daft to think this will work out?
 

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Runnerduck I don't think you're daft, I just thinking getting up and leaving the bed to nurse will be hard on you with two. If they aren't nursing together you'll be getting up twice as much. Hopefully they will wake up together for you.
 

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Yeah but trying to nurse in bed with my tiny boobies is hard, too. When I tried to make it work with my son it's like i would lay there thinking hurry up, hurry up, hurry up... getting up and going to the glider I'd be all bleary eyed but as least I could lean back and relax and not care how long he took.<br><br>
Plus like I said our bed is small and DH is a bed hog... I frequently have to kick him to get him to give me more than 1/4 of the mattress. Sometimes I just climb over him to the bigger side although we have a running joke about sleeping on the wrong side of the bed causing mastitis. He made me sleep on his side once when I was nursing our son and I woke up with mastitis and have blamed sleeping on his side ever since. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I fed them together on the pillow for the first 2 months. There was just no other way at night. I slept sitting up in bed a lot.<br><br>
Once they were big enough for side-lying we did that. One baby goes between me and the bedrail. The other goes between me and DH. If both happen to wake up at the same time at night (which is rare) I side-ly with one and drape the other one over me like a little monkey! Not easy but both are happy. And yeah, I sleep in a very contorted way so neither wake up.
 

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I have definately found it easier for me to feed them at the same time. For the first month, I slept in a chaise and spent most of my nights sleeping with two babies latched on to me. Eventually, I started sleeping in my own bed again, but would sit up and feed the babies for their hour feedings when need be (and I learned to sleep sitting up pretty easily!!) I do the same now, except now most nights, they sleep completely through the night and don't wake up to eat until 6-7 am!!
 

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we had the girls in a co-sleeper attached to the bed. we had lots of feeding struggles for the first few weeks. it took up to an hour and a half sometimes to get them to eat tiny amounts of food. (we had baby scales and had to weigh them before and after nursing to make sure they were actually eating.) they were jaundiced, a bit early and super sleepy. so we had to schedule feedings or they would have slept all the time. i tandem nursed.<br><br>
once they were able to demand feedings, i would offer to the one who didn't wake up & she'd often nurse in her sleep.<br><br>
when i stopped doing that, i just nursed laying on my side & popped them back and forth into the co-sleeper.<br><br>
i never knew where anyone was. i'd wake up with a baby next to me and have no recollection of her having woken or me nursing her.<br><br>
it seems like with everything, it's daunting until you try it and figure out what works for you and your babies. i remember being freaked out at various points in time how i would feed solids to two babies, bathe two babies, get to the car with two babies, but you find your way.
 

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OMG that happened to me all the time. I remember one night DH trying to give me DD to feed her (she'd been sleeping next to him) and I got all huffy with him swearing up and down that I'd JUST finished feeding her and who the heck was this baby right next to me if it wasn't DD, and it turned out he'd put a pink blanket on poor DS because it was clean and handy, and I was all mixed up about which baby I was nursing.
 
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