I think it's better to feed them if they want to be fed. DD still needed a nighttime feeding (we do whole milk or rice milk, depending on what's in the house at the time) up to about 15-16 months...and occasionally now she still needs it. Sometimes a drink of water will do, other times it has to be milk. Babies listen to their bodies, so I believe you have to listen to your baby, despite what friends, family or peds say. Just my $.02. PLus it's a lot better than letting them cry...which just makes 'em hungrier!