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I've gotten to the point where I feel I cannot nurse my daughter at night anymore. She'll be 2 in a couple weeks; we coslept with her from birth and a few months ago I introduced a toddler bed. She does not go to sleep without nursing if I am home, so most nights I rock and nurse her to sleep, then put her in her bed (the toddler bed is in our room). She sleeps well in her toddler bed, in fact I think she wakes up to nurse less in her bed than she does in ours. At best she wakes up once a night (rare) and at worst she wakes up every two hours. Around 2am (give or take an hour or two), she wakes up and no matter how long I nurse her, she will not go back to sleep in her toddler bed- she HAS to be next to me in ours. I'm exhausted and it's interfering with my already rocky marriage because if my husband touches me at all while I'm nursing DD in bed at night, I feel over-touched, if you know what I mean, and I want to scream and rip all my hair out. I have to do something about this! This is like a nightweaning emergency.<br><br>
She is NO where near ready to wean, she still asks to nurse very often during the day and I feel like I would enjoy nursing her during the day if I didn't feel so tied down at night. I just don't know where to start. Most of my close friends who have recently nightweaned their toddlers seemed to have such an easy time and I feel like it's never going to happen for me. If anyone has experience nightweaning in a situation like this, please, I need all the tips I can get! I read a lot too, so book suggestions would be great.<br><br>
(I want to add that I started reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley when DD was around six months old and I didn't have good results, obviously haha.)
 

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Have you thought about trying to nurse her when she wakes up, but then have daddy lay down next to her to get her to sleep? You might have to leave the room to get that to work, but it could be worth a try to give you a bit of a break with nobody touching you for a bit, and help them find a way to work things out together. I know with us, when dad would go lay down with DS when he would wake up at that age, sometimes he could even get him to go back to sleep w/o nursing or even if he nursed a bit, he would then stay asleep longer before waking up again. DS was in a different room by then, but would just walk right down the hall to our room when he woke up. I hope you can work things out soon!
 

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There's another nightweaning thread currently active on this forum with some success stories using Jay Gordon's nightweaning method. Maybe it'd be helpful, or someone else can offer other ideas <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> There's NO need to completely wean to get a break at night - plenty of other alternatives! Hope you find a solution that works for your family!<br><br>
ETA: Welcome to MDC!
 

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I used the 'just say no' method. I just said no. I nursed him the first time he woke up and then not again until morning. In my head I kept reminding myself that he was almost 2. Old enough to go 6 hours without nursing.<br><br>
Not everyone here will agree with me or my approach. I had read jay gordon but I thought it was too drawn out.<br><br>
So I nursed him one time a night for a week and then said no for the first waking, too. I did offer water but he never took it. He did cry but the longest time was 20 minutes I think on night 3. The other 2 nights he woke a ton but cried only briefly.<br><br>
I was VERY determined (pregnant.. weaning.. hating nursing all round) and I think that helped. We cuddled a lot and he still sleeps with us. So I can't help you with the clingy part of things. we're about to move him to a toddler bed now but I'm not sure he's ready and I'm in no hurry.<br><br>
Just focus on the prize!<br><br>
eta:by the time I nightweaned we had day weaned. So he was used to hearing and accepting 'no'. I think if the first time he had been refused was at night it would have been very difficult. that's why I day-weaned first. Because I wanted both of us to have clear heads during the initial transition. Not to imply that you have to do that - I'm just giving you the context of my experience.
 

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I found Dr. Jay Gordon's nightweaning plan from that thread and we're starting tonight. I'm a little skeptical, but am a fan of Gordon so I'll give this a try.<br><br>
Thanks everyone, for your replies!<br>
*crosses fingers*
 
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