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I think baby is waiting till December... I DID ask for him to wait until my mom leaves (on Saturday), but then I reconsidered when I found out our midwife will want me to get a bpp next week. Ugh. I just don't want anymore drama and stress.<br><br>
Dd2's birthday is on Sunday...but, I honestly don't care about them sharing the date. Honestly.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
There has been some drama and tension with my parents... Typical stuff, nothing earth-shattering except for the revelation of some dishonesty about the timing of their trip. Hurtful, but nothing I'm not used to... My dad left yesterday, as planned. I'm sad that it will be months before he gets to meet the baby.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> They are good grandparents...just clueless and emotionally ill-equipped to have a healthy adult relationship with me. They will do just about anything to avoid any kind of conflict...including lying...and it just hurts and drives me nuts.<br><br>
I went to see our ND, today. She worked some points on my feet and hands and gave me a homeopathic remedy that I'm taking every 30 minutes. I really want to have this baby, but I'm worried that I just can't get into a place of peace and emotional safety to truly let go and give birth. It may not happen until my mom leaves...<br><br>
The good thing, though, is that because of my mom's dishonesty, I'm not feeling worried or guilty about hurting her feelings if I DO go into labor while she's here. Dh and the midwives have free rein to do and say whatever they have to to keep her out of my space.<br><br>
I'm just soo emotionally drained...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I think my baby is waiting until December, too. (original dd was nov 17th) I bet you go into labor as soon as your mom leaves, if she is a huge source of stress. It sucks your dad won't see your baby for months. I knew my mother was coming to visit today, and I belive that is why I am not in labor yet. I love her, she means well, but she causes me so much stress.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think my baby is waiting until December, too. (original dd was nov 17th) I bet you go into labor as soon as your mom leaves, if she is a huge source of stress. It sucks your dad won't see your baby for months. I knew my mother was coming to visit today, and I belive that is why I am not in labor yet. I love her, she means well, but she causes me so much stress.</div>
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my edd with ds1 was nov 17th and he was born dec 1st!!<br><br>
big hugs for momsin waiting... BTDT
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s, mama<br><br>
i'm thinking of you! the bright side is maybe you'll have that 10lber we were both (jokingly) hoping we'd have so we could brag about our homebirths to the naysayers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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ha, i'm asking my baby to come out way in advance of my parents' visit because i don't want them here for the birth (or too soon after).<br><br>
i agree with everyone else that your whole body will probably relax as soon as she's gone and that will give the baby the go-ahead to show up.<br><br>
i hope you get some down time sooner than later, dear.
 

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I'll bet labor will start as soon as she's gone. My midwife was saying the other day that most of labor starts in the mind...I believe that! I kinda think I'm still pregnant because I have emotional issues regarding childbirth and handling a newborn with three kids. Am I trying to hold the baby in because I'm scared? I don't know...its quite possible. I have a different feeling for every minute of the day... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I hope things go well for you regardless if your mom is there or not. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">
 

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I think the mental thing may have been a catalyst in going into labor the night before mom came to town. That and the placenta being somewhat worn out. Who knows?! I'm thinking about you every day and hoping for the best timing for you.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I kinda think I'm still pregnant because I have emotional issues regarding childbirth and handling a newborn with three kids. Am I trying to hold the baby in because I'm scared? I don't know...its quite possible. I have a different feeling for every minute of the day...</div>
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Mine are 12, 9 and 6 and I've had my share of anxiety too. So far, so good, but I have help. Early Dec. my help disappears, so we'll be in it together!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Mine are 12, 9 and 6 and I've had my share of anxiety too. So far, so good, but I have help. Early Dec. my help disappears, so we'll be in it together!</div>
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I'll be glad to know I'm not alone...hubby only gets a week off, then its life as usual. With CHRISTMAS to worry about no less! AACK!<br><br>
I'm glad to know things are going well for you with new baby Lachlan. I am just worried, worried, worried about everything.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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(((HUGS))) wwisdomskr. You have all rights to be emotionally drained! I hope you get to recoup a little before baby comes.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">My midwife was saying the other day that most of labor starts in the mind...I believe that! I kinda think I'm still pregnant because I have emotional issues regarding childbirth and handling a newborn with three kids. Am I trying to hold the baby in because I'm scared? I don't know...its quite possible. I have a different feeling for every minute of the day... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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See, I keep thinking about this, and wondering if it can really be true? Am I in some way holding my baby in? I have believed it to be true in the past, until now. Now, it just doesn't seem fair to put the blame on us that we are not going into labor...<br><br>
Perhaps in my present state, it is just one more so-called explanation that I am being oversensitive about.
 

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Mine was due the 8th, but I'm about ready to bet good money they don't come out until after the 1st.....I'm not sure whether I should just laugh hysterically at that notion, or bawl my eyes out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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