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Hello Moms- need some advice. I have a huge heart for adoption, and want to adopt several children from overseas as well as domestically. All through highschool and jr. high, I would proudly proclaim that I wanted 25 kids, I would have as many as God wanted to give me, and adopt the rest. Well, I am still very young and have lots of time to make decisions, but after the first two babies I decided I didn't think I could honestly handle 25 (yes I was serious!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Anyways, at my 6 week checkup after having my second baby, I decided to go with the non-hormone 10 year IUD, feeling this was the safest way to prevent anymore pregnancies so that I could adopt the rest of my children. Lately, I have been feeling like I want another of my own. I haven't yet started menstrating as I am still breastfeeding my 11 month old, but have felt like my body is getting ready to again. My real question, is are there any families out there that don't use any birth control- allowing God to give them as many kids as he chooses<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> ? Is the Non-Hormonal IUD safe? Does anyone feel preventing life is wrong? (no arguing please, just asking for opinions). I believe that if God wants me to adopt he will work everything out, but I am nervous as I tend to get pregnant easily and still have about 5 years before I meet international adoption age requirement. At that rate I could have 2 more babies bring my number up to 4 babies, which would already disqualify me from Korea- my biggest calling. What would you do?
 

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Hi there! You should check out the family planning or fertility board! I posted a thread similar to this months ago...we do the same thing as you...no BC (won't EVER do that again...biggest mistake of my life!), and just letting God open and close the womb (I don't take that phrase lightly, either).
 

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OP - the term you are looking for is "quiverfull", and there is a thread in "Finding Your Tribe" with that title. (actually, I think it is "quiverfull mamas and papas", or something like that)<br><br>
Also, for some, the IUD is problematic because it doesn't necessarily prevent conception, just implantation. I'm of the opinion that hormonal birth control is bad, bad, bad for women's bodies. You could also check out the fertility awareness method of birth control. It doesn't totally jive with the catholic faith, but the info is something that all women should have, I think.<br><br>
Best,<br>
Katia
 

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I don't use BC, but then again, haven't been blessed with great fertility. I firmly believe that God knows when and how many children to send to me and leave the timing in his hands.
 

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We don't use birth control, either. God knows what he is doing!<br><br>
Have you thought of Natural Family Planning (charting and abstaining when your fertile)?
 

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Have you thought of Natural Family Planning (charting and abstaining when your fertile)?[/QUOTE]<br><br>
My aunt recently loaned me a book from the 60's or 70's that teaches all the how to's of natural family planning, I haven't read it yet, but know it is an option.
 

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Here's a link to the Quiverfull Tribe, they can probably help you with your struggle to decide what to do.<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?p=7681969#post7681969" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...69#post7681969</a>
 

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We have entrusted our fertility to God, in the same way we endeavor to put *all* of our lives into his hand.<br><br>
One of the most common misconceptions is that, if you do this, you will end up with...25 kids! However, there is no way to predict what God will do in your life. By saying you are pretty fertile and get pg easily, you are basing this opinion on biology alone. You may find that once you put this in God's hands, his plan for you is far different from what you expected or could have predicted. I speak from personal experience.<br><br>
Either way, prepare to be stretched. Anytime you yield something else to him, he will use it to bring you closer to him.<br><br>
Btw, I have found that no longer concerning ourselves with bc has brought us *FREEDOM* rather than the oft-expected bondage.
 

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if youre really interested in charting and all that, theres a book called "taking charge of your fertility" that is really good.... and i can only imagine how much has been learned since the 60's, lol
 

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Thanks, I will keep this title in mind.
 
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