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hi, my boy is 16 months today, and I was just wondering if anyone else out there has a kid who doesn't cuddle with you?? He has never let me rock him to sleep and doesn't like to be hugged much or anything like that. He used to like to be carried around before he learned to walk, but if I didn't breastfeed him, he wouldn't come near me all day!!! anyone else have a kid that has always been super super independent??
 

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My dd was like that. She's 3 now and is pretty cuddly, but when she was that age she just wouldn't slow down long enough to be held much. Her brother on the other hand is very cuddly.
 

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Our dd is the same way. She's never been a cuddler. We're just getting to the point where she'll sit on our laps for a story...or half a story! She doesn't even cuddle when I nurse her. It's all buisness for her. She is affectionate in other ways- giving hugs and kisses, or brushing hair etc.<br><br>
I think some kids are just like that.
 

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DS1 was just like that - from infancy up until maybe 18 or 20 months. Then he slowly started accepting more contact, and even occasionally initiating it. Now he's 32 months, and always looks for a morning hug, will give hugs if requested, and thinks games like the kissing monster are hilarious.<br><br>
We savor the contact, and every time he is wrapped up in my arms in the morning, I think "how long will he let me do this?" thinking in both minutes and years.
 

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nak<br><br>
our son was never much of a cuddler. i was devastated when he self weaned at 14.5 months old because nursing was the only time i got to really snuggle with him.<br><br>
wouldn't you know that after he weaned he became much more cuddley?! it was like he sensed that loss of snuggle time and made up for it. now, he still an extremely active little boy, but he does like to snuggle with us, but i'm sure it isn't as much as other toddlers snuggle. he does love to give hugs and kisses. we get them as he is running by us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
i think it is just dependent on the personality of the child. we can already tell that our daughter is going to be snuggler.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I just went through this with DD last week. I work full-time and nursing was the ONLY time DD would snuggle with me. Although, I have to admit that it wasn't much snuggling as DD was ALL business. Just suddenly one day as I put her in my lap to nurse DD latched on, immediately popped off and looked up at me like "I'm done Mamma" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. I tried for four more nights and finally by the fourth night DD was actually shaking her head "No"! At least DD will settle with me singing to her and will even (gasp) lay her head on my shoulder! DD will not do this at any other time.<br><br>
DD doesn't even give DH and I kisses. She'll let us kiss her but she just gets this little smirk on her face like "Ok....just to make YOU happy." DH and I occassionally get hugs but it's rare. Like the OP DD never ever let me rock her to sleep. She would actually cry until I finally put her down then she'd stop and go to sleep. I think DD is just a VERY independent little one. My mom said I was the same way, though.<br><br>
I cherish anytime DD shows any sign of affection because I'm lucky when I get it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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wow, now I don't feel so alone!!!! thanks everyone!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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Ditto here. I have a 19 mo who has never been a cuddle-bug or a good sleeper. I used to be sad about it, but that's just the way he is!
 

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my toddler also got a lot more cuddly after weaning.
 
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