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I don't think there is anything bad about giving your six months old solid foods BUT as far as I know you are only supposed to feed them one meal a day at that point and gradually increase the solids while you decrease the fomula/breastmilk. I also wouldn't give him yoghurt just yet. I don't know if you have a say-so in that relationship and if you can talk to his mom or dad to maybe give him the bottle more often instead of giving him so many 'meals'. Maybe some more experienced mom here can give you better advise. Good luck.
 

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Where are they getting that info? I'd ask them if it was there ped who told them to do that, and if not, then they should talk to them. If it was the ped (ask for a note stating this is what should be done), I'd look into what the AAP has to say about feeding and report them to the state medical board.<br><br>
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he;sw going to really miss sucking on that bottle. that's what much of the fussines will come from. kids that age NEED to suck on things.
 

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maybe remind them that under 12 months there main nutrition should come from formula or breastmilk. also that they have a strong sucking need at 6 months
 

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"No daytime bottles" wouldn't be a problem if the baby is breastfeeding during the day, or if the baby is getting ebm (expressed breast milk) or formula in something other than a bottle- such as a sippy cup.<br><br>
I would ask the parents to clarify their position, and then ask them where they got this idea. I'm not sure what you should do if they actually mean not to give the baby any kind of milk at all during the day- do you go against the parents' wishes when you think it's neglect?
 

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My first thought is by itself this doesn't sound *bad*. My DD was a reverse cycler and refused bottles of EBM while I was at work. She nursed at my lunch and when I got home. She usually went about 5 hours at a stretch with no food. This was her choice DH offered her bottles until she was about 6 months old and then we stopped offering them. I went back to work at 3 months. She didn't eat solid food until she was over a year old. So on the surface no it doesn't sound neglectful as long as they are making up for the lack of milk when they have the baby with them.
 

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I don't remember how much my babies were eating at 6 months, but that doesn't sound right to me. I hope that you have the kind of relationship where you can discuss that sort of thing with them. Until babies are 12 months, solid foods are pretty much still a novelty & not a full food source. 2 bottles a day is not enough food for a 6 month old.
 

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What everyone else said! I really hope you are able to talk to the parents; hopefully it's just a misunderstanding. And if baby is pushing food back out of his mouth, that means he still has "tongue thrust reflex" and isn't ready for food -- most any ped. will tell you that!
 

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As a formula feeder, I have to pipe in and say NO, a bottle in the morning and a bottle at bedtime is definitely not enough to nourish a 6 month old that is not being fed at night, especially since you say that he is not very interested in solids.<br><br>
DS is 8.5 months old, gets solids at breakfast and supper (maybe 4-5oz of solids in a day), and STILL takes an average of 28-32oz of formula a day. Which he gets around the clock, because I do feed him at night. But even if I didn't, I wouldn't be able to get that much formula into him in two bottles, and he WANTS it all throughout the day. I feed DS on demand.<br><br>
Really, breastmilk or formula needs to be that baby's primary source of nutrition for the first year of life. Hopefully someone here at MDC will be able to provide you with some helpful links with that information that you could then show to the parents. Maybe they just don't know?
 

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Id probably shoot some info their way saying that you just want them to know every option they have, yadda yadda yadda, etc. etc.. and then if they still want you to starve this baby from bottles, then Id probably have to resign I dont think I could handle having to watch this baby be sooo hungry for a bottle and not be allowed to have it and then cry his little heart out wanting a bottle.. I just couldnt do it
 

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My son is about 6 months, and although I breastfeed, I certainly could not imagine limiting him to twice a day for bm/formula. He really isn't ready for solid food yet, but he is hungry all of the time.<br><br>
I'm a little surprised that this child goes back to sleep in the middle of the night if they don't feed him.<br><br>
I hope this is a misunderstanding, otherwise I feel really bad your this baby.
 

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Yeah, he hasn't been sleeping well lately. Lately he wakes up every 30 minutes starting at about 5 am. He used to sleep great but would wake up once to eat.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, he hasn't been sleeping well lately. Most days I show up to work to hear what a rough night they've had. Lately he wakes up every 30 minutes starting at about 5 am. He used to sleep great but would wake up once to eat. They think this will help him sleep through the night better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"></div>
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Urg... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Or they could just learn that this is what babies do. They DON'T sleep through the night, generally. Their best bet at increasing night sleeping would be plenty of naps (sleep begets sleep, generally) and getting hi nice and "tanked up" on lots of food/formula just before bed.<br><br>
Maybe you could mention that around 6 months babies hit a lot of milestones (sitting up, crawling, teeth, more/different vocal sounds, growth spurt...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes">) and nightwaking is probably the number one indicator/side effect of this. It should settle back down into a once a night thing in a month or so (usually...I make no promises! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) And if it's really that terrible of a thing, within a couple months he'll probably be able to hold his own bottle, so they could just toss one in the crib at 5 am & go back to bed...
 

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I wanted to add: you are awesome for doing this; I don't think I could handle taking care of a baby (& becoming attached) and having to follow rules from someone else that seemed wrong/counter-intuitive to me.
 

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I sure hope they mean sippy cups with formula because anything else is neglect and you should report them. I have been a nanny, a childcare worker and a director of a daycare center and if any of the parents had told me this I would have reported them immediately to social services. Even the most mainstream of parents would still give their kids bottles of formula and solids. You should document all of your conversations on this situation, like a note with the date and time and what you talked about. It makes it easier to file a report.
 

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Thanks everyone!
 
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