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I went for a routine ultrasound (early, due to my age - 35). They did an internal us, measured the fetus, etc, then told me there was no hearbeat and that the baby had stopped developing at 7.5 weeks. I'm 9 weeks tomorrow.<br><br>
I'm just stunned. I never expected this to happen. I've been feeling lots of nausea, sore boobs, etc and thought those were good signs. I had a VERY realy mc the last time I was pg, last March, and just figured it was a fluke.<br><br>
I'm going back on Monday for another us, just to be 1000% sure, but the Dr. had no doubt. Anyone who's had multiple mc's, then got pg, I'd like to hear from you. I keep thinking, "What's wrong? Why am I having multiple mc's?" Even though I know the odds are the same every time. Dr. says 1 in 3 pgs end in mc. That's so many!<br><br>
Anyway, I'm going to wait it out and let my body take care of the situation. I never thought I'd be posting this. It's been so sad to read all the other posts from people dropping out. Sorry to have to add to it, guys. Hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies!<br><br>
- Alice
 

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I'm so sorry to hear things aren't looking good for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> You're in my thoughts. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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DO NOT GIVE UP! With my 7 month old I couldn't see ANYTHING, no fetal pole, no sac, no HB - NOTHING - until 13 weeks, I thought it was a blighted ovum, but she was there!!!!! Do not let them do anything, I am glad you are going to wait it out, PLEASE PLEASE don't give up yet! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Will be thinking of you, please update this!!!!!
 

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I'm so sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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rmzbm - Did you have an internal u/s done? The thing is, I could see everything... the head, body, even what looked like an umbilical cord. I watched them measure everything. I seems unlikely that with such a clear view they would miss a beating heart. As I said, I watched the whole thing and never saw a heartbeat or any movement.<br><br>
Not trying to be a pessimist, I just don't want to get my hopes up. In any case, that's why I'm going back Monday for another look. I will definitely update. Thanks for your support!
 

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very sorry to hear your news alice...<br>
it has been hard to see so many people go.<br>
take care of yourself and don't give up<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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Hugs to you mama, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">.
 

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I had 2 m/c's before having DS. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My first one was very early (6w2d) and the second was late and traumatic - 11w5d. The second one was confirmed by an u/s at 6 weeks....and then at an appt with my midwife at 11 weeks, she couldn't find the hb with doppler. She sent me in for an u/s to ease my mind.....and it was painfully clear why she couldn't find the hb. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> The baby had actually passed at about 8 weeks and just hadn't passed through me yet. I needed to have a d&c. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
Throughout this, I had food aversions, very mild nausea, sore back, sore bb's, etc. I had not one drop of spotting or cramping or ANY indication that anything was wrong.<br><br>
After that, I was afraid to get pg again because I didn't want another loss. A few months later, DH and I decided to get back on the horse (as it were), and DS was conceived 2 months later. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My pg with DS was VERY different from those first 2 from the very beginning. I only thought I had nausea and food aversions with the 2nd pg.....until I was going to bed at 7pm the 3rd time with only a glass of milk because the thought of eating anything else made me want to puke. And the heartburn - OY!!! It was like night and day. I was very confident with my pg with DS because I felt incredibly pg every day of it and I KNEW there was a perfect baby growing strong inside. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Hang in there. If this isn't the one, the next one could very well be it and when your next one is ready they will come and stick and it will all work as it should and be perfect. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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i am so sad for you, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> this must to so hard to be going through again. I guess even when we know that 1/3 don't make it, it does not make the reality of dealing with it any easier
 

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I am so sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Oh sweetie, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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so so sorry you are going through this again! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I'm so sorry Alice, keep us posted.
 

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Well, we went for another ultrasound yesterday and there is no change. The baby stopped developing at 7.5 weeks and there's no heartbeat. So now, I wait. We're sad and disappointed, of course, but as more time passes, we're dealing with it. I just want to move on and start trying again. Although, going through early pg symptoms for weeks at a time, over and over, is not that appealing<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Anyway, I'll say goodbye now and hopefully I'll be back with another DDC soon. Thanks for all your support!<br><br>
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I'm so sorry for your loss <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'll keep you in my thoughts and send some healing vibes your way. I hope you end up in another DDC soon too, please let us know if you do.
 

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Aw, Alice. I'm so sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Oh, man. I'm sorry you had to learn such bad news.<br><br>
I'm currently about 11 wks pregnant after suffering through 2 miscarriages in the past year.<br><br>
There was never any explanation...actually, my doctor didn't even begin any testing because they don't even begin to think there is a problem with miscarriage until there have been at least 3 in a row.<br><br>
Yeah, excuse me, but I have plenty big problems with one miscarriage, let alone two, ya know?<br><br>
I'm sentenced to bed-rest right now...at least for the next two weeks...due to some spotting that started (and stopped) yesterday. But we don't want to take any chances.<br><br>
I'm really sorry for your loss. I live in fear that I'm going to get similar news and I can't imagine how I would cope.
 

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I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. It's good to wait a bit though, give your body a chance to figure it out and just in case you're one of those women whose babies don't show themselves until later... xo
 
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