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No I will not regret this!!!! (Rant)
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I went to a BDay party yesterday and low and behold someone just had to comment on my wearing/carrying Aly
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: My aunt starts harping on me about how I'm going to regret allowing Aly to become "attached at the hip." Now I know she's wrong but what irked me is that she said it like she just couldn't wait until she could rub it in my face and say "I told you so." Why are people like that sometimes?? I'm guessing its because I'm doing things differently than she did and to admit I might be doing the right thing would be like admitting she did the wrong thing??? I hate having to deal with other people's baggage
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Apparently she failed to notice all the time that Aly spent on the ground happily playing with her toys. Goodness could it be that our strong bond gives Aly the confidence to develop and become independent without me forcing it on her prematurely
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Sorry to be such a ranter today but this really drives me nuts!!!
Sorry to be such a ranter today but this really drives me nuts!!!
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People are so concerned about "spoiling" their babies or making them too dependant by carrying them to much, nursing them long or co-sleeping - I find it so sad
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Babies of AP parents grow to be very independent and confident children... Besides - they grow so fast!!! I want to carry my babies close to me as much as I can while they are small
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I am sorry your aunt gave you a hard time about it. Keep up the good work - you are being a GREAT mama for your baby
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I am sorry your aunt gave you a hard time about it. Keep up the good work - you are being a GREAT mama for your baby
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And to your aunt
People can be really short-sighted. Sure, it seems to take energy when your child is young and "attached at the hip" to you, but there are so many short- and long-term benefits. Our culture encourages people to look for inconvenience and disregard benefits, though.
People like that make me want to say, "You're right, I'm *so crazy* for wanting to promote a secure attachment between my child and myself. What am I thinking? Ignoring my child's needs makes so much more sense. Thank you ever so much for bringing me to my senses."
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People like that make me want to say, "You're right, I'm *so crazy* for wanting to promote a secure attachment between my child and myself. What am I thinking? Ignoring my child's needs makes so much more sense. Thank you ever so much for bringing me to my senses."
I just give them a polite (forced, but polite) smile and say "This is what works for my family."
If you put an emphasis on the "my", then it also has the added benefit of reminding the person that, even if they are extended family, they are not part of the family unit under discussion.
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If you put an emphasis on the "my", then it also has the added benefit of reminding the person that, even if they are extended family, they are not part of the family unit under discussion.
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I think this is the best way to go in situations like this.
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mama. Some people just like to make drama.
Originally Posted by LadyBug & BabyBug I just give them a polite (forced, but polite) smile and say "This is what works for my family." |
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Just smile and nod. and remember you are doing the ery best for your baby.
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Idiocy does have the loudest voice.
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I've found that I can only smile politely and let them think what they want. Tho it does get hard to suck it up time after time.
Just remember you're doing the best thing for your family, and that's the most responsible thing anyone can do.
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I've found that I can only smile politely and let them think what they want. Tho it does get hard to suck it up time after time.
Just remember you're doing the best thing for your family, and that's the most responsible thing anyone can do.
Funny- our babes our about a week apart and he is always on me in public situations. No one says anything negative, only positives, but maybe it is because I'm chasing the other two around and it would be downright dangerous to have him wandering about with the playdate kids flying around.
I wish I had a good comeback for you that would capture the safety of keeping him up
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I wish I had a good comeback for you that would capture the safety of keeping him up
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