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I have a 6-month-old ds who is nursing to sleep which is fine with me. However, lately his nightwakings have been of the "where is my boob?" variety, that is, he won't go back to sleep without nursing. Also he's waking up more often. But I wonder if he's going through a growth spurt and is genuinely hungry.<br>
My question is, if you stopped nursing your dc to sleep, did it make a difference in their nightwakings? About three months ago, I read the NCSS and I had been making sure ds was awake but drowsy after his bedtime feeding when I moved him from his bed to the sidecarred crib. Then I stayed with him and soothed him to sleep by patting and talking to him in a quiet voice. But I stopped doing this because at the time, it seemed like he slept well even after nursing to sleep. Just wondering if I should try this again. It takes a lot more time and effort, and I'm already an exhausted working mama!<br><br>
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I don't nurse to sleep anymore and while he sleeps longer for his first 'stint'.. the total amount of nightwaking has remained the same.
 

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I think wanting to nurse to sleep at this very young age is very normal. It could be for any number of reasons, a growth spurt, teething, hunger, THIRST (I get thirsty at night!) etc. etc. etc.<br><br>
For me the advice to put a baby to sleep "drowsy but awake" was a joke. The NCSS was not a book I found helpful. Nursing to sleep is normal and not a bad habit in my opinion.<br><br>
If I'm hearing you right, nursing to sleep is easier for you, is that right? I'd just ignore those voices that tell you it's a bad habit if that's the case. They are young for such a short time.
 

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Surely I can't have the only baby who prefers to kick out instead of nurse to sleep? It happened about 3 months.
 

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My DD stopped nursing to sleep at bedtime around 7 months. What I mean is, she would not nurse in order to go to sleep for the night. When she woke up during the night, yes, she would nurse back to sleep.<br><br>
Anyway, ever since she stopped nursing to sleep, bedtime has been much, much more challenging. And she has had far more frequent nightwakings, too. I never tried to make her stop nursing to sleep - she just decided she would rather crawl all over the bed once she had a full tummy, rather than nod off. I really miss her nursing to sleep and still wish she would go back to it. Mamas whose babies nurse to sleep at bedtime - you don't know how good you have it! I envy you!
 

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I guess when I say 'not nursing to sleep' I mean that I would still give ds a complete feeding right at bedtime, but make sure that he is aware that I am putting him in his crib. I guess I will not mess with our routine. My ds is really active so I can see him crawling all over the bed even with a full tummy, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I guess when I say 'not nursing to sleep' I mean that I would still give ds a complete feeding right at bedtime, but make sure that he is aware that I am putting him in his crib.</div>
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I do not agree with that approach.<br><br>
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I quit nursing my son to sleep at about 6 months. He was waking every night about 45 minutes after we put him down, and thus would begin 1-2 hours of rocking/nursing/shushing/consoling to get him back to sleep. It was very frustrating. Once I moved his final nursing of the day to immediately before his bathtime, he quit waking at that 45-minute mark.<br><br>
Our bedtime routine now (he's 10 months) is - nurse, then DH bathes him, they read bedtime stories, then DH rocks him and puts him to bed. They have their daddy/baby time, and it's nice knowing I'm not the only one who can put DS to sleep.
 

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Follow your babe cue. At about 6 months my DD had stop night waking up all together. However after 2 months old she would bf at about 10p and sleep until 5a then go back to sleep until about 9a. After two months she started to BF a ton during the day. She has always loved to sleep at night. 6 months is still very very young to think about night weaning. I just don’t know how you would know if your babe was really hungry or not. I have read BF babies really need to self regulate there food.<br><br>
I strongly believe that we all have very unique little humans and they are all going to have there very own needs and it is our very hard job as the mamas to figure them out. As to say my babe slept the night at 6 months doesn’t mean your little one is ready for that. That was a long explanation for follow your babe! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do not agree with that approach.<br><br>
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I do if it's what your babe wants I say GO FOR IT MAMA!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do if it's what your babe wants I say GO FOR IT MAMA!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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Sure. If that's what your baby does naturally- go with the flow. I just disagree with TRYING to make a baby go to sleep without nursing.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I am a working mama too. I also disagree with TRYING to make your baby, especially one as young as yours, go to sleep (or back to sleep) without nursing. If he does it on his own, then wonderful!<br><br>
Some babies can go longer periods at night without nursing. Some babies need to eat frequently, even at night.
 

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My ds doesn't go to sleep without nursing, so I can't answer the original question.<br>
But, it might be worthwhile to keep this in mind: ime, its easy to put my nursing-to-sleep toddler to bed. He tells me when he's tired, and has no problem going up to go to bed. And he's asleep in minutes most of the time. I'm sure there are toddlers who nurse to sleep who don't go to bed so easily, but I'm pretty sure that if we had stopped nursing to sleep, bedtime now would be much harder!<br>
(and he doesn't wake up at night to nurse much anymore. the nights that I remind him that I'd prefer to sleep all night, he generally doesn't wake to nurse at all)
 

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Just a reminder...let's keep this thread nice and friendly.<br><br>
MDC is a fierce advocate of the family bed and child led weaning as well as discouraging sleep training in any form. When you post condoning these things, the opposing viewpoint *will* be offered. This is usually not meant as critisism, but education in alternate ways of doing things. I understand that some of you may react to the posting style of others, just know that there are good intentions behind most of the opinions offered.<br><br>
Let's keep this thread open and help the OP <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Oh, I realize that this thread is based on a question about nursing to sleep, I have to add my opinion...6 months is definately too young to expect them to go to sleep without nursing, and I wouldn't <b>try</b> to make that happen, I also agree that you should follow the cues of your baby and always be available for nursing. When he is older, it will be different...they are young for such a short time, and babies wake alot at night (which is why the family bed works so well for so many of us)<br><br>
I've gtg, but I could go on.<br><br><br>
basically, let's play nice (please?)
 

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To the OP:<br><br>
You indicated that you are OK with nursing to sleep but are concerned about his increase in nightwakings. I would venture to say that at 6 mo, there is likely no correlation. 6 mo is prime growth spurt time, then there is teething, etc... I think that after a year or two, trying to encourage your baby to find other ways to go to sleep might be useful, and every baby is so different that you may find he changes things up on his own.<br><br>
My ds doesn't nurse to sleep for either nap or bedtime, and hasn't since he was itty bitty. I echo a PP that boy, do I wish he did! We've had to spend so much time and energy bouncing, rocking, singing, shushing, letting him roll around on the bed, etc. Bedtime still takes about an hour, and naptime at least 30 minutes. So, i would say if it is working for you at bedtime, go with it. The frequent wakings can be awful (at least they were for me), but I think that the support here is wonderful for trying to make it thru them. We tried cutting out a couple of feedings at 21 mos in hopes that ds would sleep longer (he would wake 6-8 times during his 10-12 hours of sleep at night). It is only somewhat successful in that he still wakes at least once before 4 or 5 am (when I'm OK with nursing him again), but accepts water and cuddles from DH. He was not ready for this before we did it at 21 mos.<br><br>
So, I think you'll find that if you follow your babe's needs, you'll all be better for it. It is so individual, so you may find in a couple of months the night wakings decrease on their own, then increase again with new milestones.<br><br>
As they say, this too shall pass.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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At six monthes E was still nuring to sleep strong, IMPOSSIABLE without it! He has been a nightmare of a sleeper and now (18 monthes) is still waking up 2-6 times a night. It was not until the past few monthes that he will go to sleep without nursing. We lay down and nurse but before he falls asleep he rolls over and then goes to sleep, with lots of cuddles.<br><br>
At 6 monthes is when teething started hardcore and growth spurts, but I think alot of the frantic boob searching came from during the day he was discovering new independneces ( crawling, new awarness of what is around them, ect....) I think it is also a time when they have a 'brain' growth spurt and the nursing at night is a comfort and a reminder of mom is still always ther, a reason why I LOVED cosleeping a that stage ( still do) I think it is very benifical for the child to have the knowledge of reassurence.<br>
I know of alot of moms who swear by the NCSS, and I am sure it worked great for them but it DID NOT for us. I am not saying it won't / didn't for you, but that was our experince. I think it is best to try alot of things and find what works for you.<br>
Hang in there, all babes sleep different, I know you know that, but follow her cues, as hard an pain the rear as it is, it really is easier in a way and soooo worth it all, at least to me it was. I admire you for your patience in working through it as a working mama. Can DH help at all. Once you nurse her could he do the soothing and roockin and walking or what ever it takes? Give you a break and him some valuable daddy time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">6 months is WAY too young to try to make a baby go to sleep without nursing.<br><br>
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uh...yeah. Mine was like....18-20 months and that was only after a car right put him out on the way home<br><br><br>
ETA: It seems like you are maybe getting a lot of information that most first time mothers get from a mainstream ped saying get your babe to sleep at alll costs.<br><br>
Mothers have instincts for a reason, nursing is a strong one. I never minded nursing at night, I actually enjoyed it, it was a very good relaxation time. Just try to think of it as that, and don't worry about what it is you have to get up for. There will be plenty of time for that when they are grown <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sure. If that's what your baby does naturally- go with the flow. I just disagree with TRYING to make a baby go to sleep without nursing.<br><br>
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Exactly!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
(Or other types of sucking if they are not a bf baby)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It is so individual, so you may find in a couple of months the night wakings decrease on their own, then increase again with new milestones.</div>
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This bears repeating. The biggest myth that causes the most stress for moms IMO is the idea that you have to make a baby sleep through the night and that they will <i>then do it every night forever.</i><br><br>
I agree about the slowing down, then increasing, then slowing down, then increasing. My dd seemed to increase and then slow back down....down to frequent instead of constant that is! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> which is normal too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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