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Hello ladies, gents,<br><br>
I'm the editor of ForeskinRestorationChat.info and just joined to keep an eye out for new perspectives. Hope you don't mind me lurking! Want to thank the person who posted here complimenting my site. I'm a PI and by no means much of a webmaster so please pardon the rough look to the site But the information is pretty good I think! FRC has just launched its FRC-Restore-Buddy System - whereby our system matches restoring men with other restoring men - LOCAL to each other. Contact with your buddy can be as little or as muc as you like, either emails, phone calls to motivate, sharing the emotionally trying times during a non-surgical restoration, maybe even meeting when/if you become comfortable with your buddy!<br><br>
FRC ALSO AIMS TO ASSIST circumcised men's partners, and provide support to those ladies and men with circumcised partners. We have experienced men and professionals who are able to assist couples to discuss this delicate issue.<br><br>
In the previous post I see a number of something in the order of 70,000 men expressing interest in, currently undergoing, or explored the option of - restoring their foreskins. Could anyone please corroborate these numbers, or provide me with the source of this estimation? It could be an invaluable piece of information I'd like to research.<br><br>
Additionally, I'd like to welcome all - mothers, fathers, siblings, expecting moms, and of course - circumcised men (!!!) to FRC and explore our new look. I would graciously welcome mothering.com forum members to cross post to the FRC Forums when your matter is of a restoration or circumcision related matter. We've recently begun a restoration photo gallery section for restoring men to have their own photo diary page.... very useful and motivatial tool for restoring men.<br><br>
As a man I of course rarely have visited many mothering-type sites, but would like to express my kudos to the webmaster and site owner of mothering.com - great site!!! I'll be checking the rest of the site out now<br><br>
In the mean-time, take care friends, be well, and safe holidays.<br>
From Toronto, Canada,<br>
-Steve /frc-admin<br><a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info</a>
 

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I'll pass this link along to my DH, who is highly interested in restoring. Thank you!
 

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Been playing with my site (and for all who've been there, you can tell I'm no web designer hehe) and have added lots of little new features and info, INCLUDING something I think is *very important* - a Forums section for Wives and Partner's of men who are restoring - or want to restore. Being "mothering.com" - I figured posting this here would be of most interest to visistors here...<br><br>
We restoring men have all kinds of great lists, groups, and sites for support through this, with very limited areas where partners and wives of restoring men in particular, can go and share their stories, thoughts and feelings - and I know from personal experience that restoration brings up a lot of interesting relationship issues - not all being 'negative'.<br><br>
IF any of you restorers can convince your significant others to drop by the FRC Forums (linked from main page) to the "for wives and partners..." section, and share their feelings and stories about when they found out about your restoration efforts, how they reacted, did they understand why you were doing it.. whatever - it would be a tremendous source of information and might help provide ideas about broaching the "R" word with partners/wives/husbands.<br><br>
If you are a wife or partner of a restorer, your input is highly sought after!<br><br>
This would be an invaluable discussion to get going and follow up with... rarely do we hear from the 'other' partner and how they feel about our foreskin restoring! It's not easy for we restorers - but it sure doesn't appear all that easy on our partners either....<br><br>
Hope y'all participate and can get some of your wives and partners to post at the 'wives and partners' forum section at FRC....<br><br>
You other restoring guys as interested in reading these stories as I am? I'm very curious how other couples have dealt/deal with one partner restoring!<br><br>
Kind regards from Toronto,<br>
-Steve <a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info</a>
 

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Hi, Steve! Welcome A-Board!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:<br><br>
Ps. What is the youngest restorer you know of? How old is the oldest?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/signcirc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sign circ"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/nocirc.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nocirc">
 

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Thanks for welcome! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Age of restorers..... such a range!<br><br>
Youngest I know of who visits the FRC chatroom for support now and then is 17, the oldest who writes and goes to our chatroom - that I know of - is 81 years young <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> There is a 16 year old on a non-FRC managed restoration mailing list... and as far as I've heard, that's the youngest actively restoring.<br><br>
Take care! Drop by the site anytime<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
Regards from Toronto,<br><br>
-Steve / <a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info</a>
 

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-Steve / <a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info</a></div>
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Just wanted to extend another welcome to you Steve. Your site is very interesting, I think it's comming together very well <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
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Y'all are so friendly! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Thanks for the welcome! Have thanks a couple more of you who sent what I think were private messages! Wow! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> As I guess most of you who've dropped by the FRC site can see - I'm no web designer so it's not very pretty, but its very functional and easy to navigate and read <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I really appreciate the feedback! Also appreciate the poster who already posted in the 'wives and partners of restoring men' section of my site! Those posts are going to help a lot of restoring men deal with talking about restoration with their life-long partners. That single person who posted sparked a discuss in the FRC chatroom not moments ago as a matter of fact <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Half a dozen restoring guys all expressed a hope to see 'more of those kinds of posts'!<br><br>
Thanks again to the mothering.com site owner - for letting me talk so openly aout my site in regards to this thread of discussion - if there is anything FRC or I can do for your site, please say the word! Restoration is *absolutely* not only a male/father thing as I know most of you know, so many women are knowingly - or unknowingly adversely affected sexually (along with their circumcised partner) due to "aggressive" and "radical" circumcisions...restoration almost invariably improves a couple's sex life - sometimes even after only a few months of restoring!<br><br>
Anyway, pardon the digression! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Thanks again to all of you for the warm welcome. Enjoying the various thread!<br>
Regards from Toronto,<br>
-Steve / foreskinrestorationchat.info
 

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I know of two who were 14 years old when they started their restorations. I also know of a 19 year old who chose to be electively circumcised and first inquired about restoration 19 days later. He had already realized that he had made a grave mistake. Of all of the men I have come across, I probably feel the most compassion for him. He was clearly upset!<br><br>
One of the 14 year olds was very upset as he learned about what circumcision had done to him. However, his parents were very unsupportive and denied that any harm had come to him or that he had any rights in the decision. It tore their family apart. All three were at war with each other. Definitely not the correct way for a parent to handle a dissatisfied and angry son!<br><br><br><br><br>
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I personally know of a 16, almost 17 y/o who started restoring when he was 15 at the latest (possibly 14).<br><br>
His parents don't know, and he is currently taking a break from his efforts for many different reasons.<br><br><br><br><br>
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Long story short, my dh wanted the boys circ'd, he's circ'd. I didn't want this done to my dear boys, but didn't have enough info to support myself and I wasn't the internet junky I am now. I wasn't even the one to sign the papers, I wouldn't do it.<br><br>
That being said, at what age can one start restoring their forskin? Could I start restoring my 2 1/2 yr old? I think it would be too awkward for my 6 yr old.<br><br>
I would think that if it were possible to restore a 2 yr old that the result would be very good. The glans are less damaged than those of a teen or adult man, from my limited understanding.<br><br>
Thoughts...<br><br>
And how do you get your dh to realize what he is missing? B/C it would be weird for me to start restoring forskin and dh to realize it.
 

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OMH- that is exactly what I wondered about a year ago!! I never got an answer, except more than one person suggested it might be a little awkward, and "the authorities" might have serious issues with my taping my 2 y/o penis up or strapping devices to him!?
 

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A young man could start as early as his early teens and possibly earlier than that. However, most are not going to have the motivation until they reach puberty and many not until they have begun sexual activity. This is a very personal thing and it requires a great deal of dedication, more than most very young men have. It can be very frustrating.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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No, it just isn't workable. First, you would have to essentially invent a device that would suit the needs of a toddler and that would be almost impossible. The vast majority of the devices require taping the penis with surgical tape and that tape has to be undone to urinate. That would be impossible with a toddler. They also usually require some type of elastic or weight that a toddler would not tolerate. It must be comfortable and not pull too hard or pinch and there is no way someone could apply one of the devices to someone else so that it would be comfortable every time. A toddler would very quickly rip it off and would be constantly fiddling and pulling at it.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Well, maybe but probably not significantly more. The naked glans hardens up fairly quickly in self defense. However, on restoration, it also fairly quickly softens and becomes more tender and more sensitive. However, on the other hand, a child's skin is more maleable than an adults and the sooner restoration is started, it would seem that it would be completed sooner. For adult males, the time from start to completion is usually about 3 years. For a child still growing, it could be considerably shorter as it could be considerably longer for a middle aged man. No one really knows though.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yes, it would be weird. I don't think you even want to go there. There could be quite a misunderstanding. The thing you have to realize is that your husband has been denying his body since he learned what circumcision is. He has been denying that there is anything missing or that he could have been more than he is. He's been denying that his parents had anything to do with the final form and shape of his penis. He has been denying that they made a decision that changed his entire sexual life. A man's being and self image is somewhat centered around his penis. It's his connection to you, your children and future generations. It's his maleness and manliness. Some men readily realize that there is just something inherently wrong with circumcision. Some fight it all the way to the ground. All you can do is to expose him to some of the information and see what happens from there. He may readily accept the uselessness of it and he may pass it off as a bunch of internet crazies. He may be somewhere in the middle and if he is, you may be able to influence him. If he is confident that he suffered no harm from circumcision, you may never be able to get him to realize he is missing something he would have valued.<br><br><br><br><br>
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Thank you Frank for answering my questions, I've noted your expertise in the area and I'm very appreciative of your insight. I took a look around some sites after I posted and realized it probably wasn't practical to do for a toddler.<br><br>
I will just have to at some point explain to my boys what happened and explain there are options if they are unhappy. I feel really badly that my oldest boy's circ is terribly done, really awful scarring. My ds2 has a nice looking circ. Any future boys will not be circ'd period which should help facilitate a discussion with my older boys as some point. And when that time comes I'll be back here looking for help I'm sure.<br><br>
As for my dh, he is in denial all the way. And he believes there is nothing wrong with circing. I will be fighting him on not circing any future sons we have, my big advantage is homebirthing them. When that times comes I'll have my collection of info to share with him, I have not to this day said anything to him. I'm afraid I'll do it in a manner that would injure his manliness or offend him in some other hurtful manner.<br><br>
I also need to have a deeper discussion about the matter with my father. He is intact and suffered embarrassment beyond belief as a young teen for a retraction problem. My father was happy that we circ'd the boys and he is intact. So, I need to ask some hard questions to my father about why he thinks this way. My uncle is circ'd -- strange family, my grandfather was intact. I don't look forward to this discussion, it's sort of a red face topic in my conservative family, but I need to know what his perspective is.<br><br>
Thanks again. I know now that I can do nothing and that's better than wondering what if I could.
 

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Hi Electra:<br>
I've not been around the mothering.com site for a while so have missed out on some interesting discussion going on.<br><br>
Your post, quoted below, is now a hot topic on the FRC (ForeskinRestorationChat.info) website's forums... the main page link to the FRC site is: <a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info</a><br>
and a direct link to a forum posting from a mother wanting to restore her two young boys, and a reply (among many others) from a Minister advising the mother. It may be of interest to you.<br><a href="http://foreskinrestorationchat.info/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=70" target="_blank">http://foreskinrestorationchat.info/...topic.php?t=70</a><br><br>
Often mom's who ended up having their boys circumcised have feelings of guilt and want to try all they can to try to correct or somehow 'help' their little boy. But don't rush it. It's been suggested even talking to them about it when they are 14, 15 , 16 or so - so long as they indicate curiosity as to why they may look 'different' to some of their intact friends, for example. It's not a good idea (and there's a general concensus on this) to bring up the subject yourself unless your boys start indicating circumcision curiosity.<br><br>
Take care Electra, maybe we'll see you dropping in to FRC once in a while <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
Thanks again, also, to mothering.com<br><br>
-Steve<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Long story short, my dh wanted the boys circ'd, he's circ'd. I didn't want this done to my dear boys, but didn't have enough info to support myself and I wasn't the internet junky I am now. I wasn't even the one to sign the papers, I wouldn't do it.<br><br>
That being said, at what age can one start restoring their forskin? Could I start restoring my 2 1/2 yr old? I think it would be too awkward for my 6 yr old.<br><br>
I would think that if it were possible to restore a 2 yr old that the result would be very good. The glans are less damaged than those of a teen or adult man, from my limited understanding.<br><br>
Thoughts...<br><br>
And how do you get your dh to realize what he is missing? B/C it would be weird for me to start restoring forskin and dh to realize it.</div>
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