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I think DS is totally weaned at almost 2y4m. There hasn't been milk for 3-4 weeks now (I'm 15 weeks pregnant), and the feedings have slowly dropped until he's really not showing interest at all. He seems fine with it. I thought I would feel fine with it...but it's been really hard on me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy"><br><br>
I feel like it's just so final...a part of his childhood that is permanently over (the first experience for me, sure not to be the last). I just feel so sad that we won't have those special moments anymore. And as I pointed out to DH, for the first time in over 3 years, there is no physical connection between his body and mine. Now, of course, I'm wondering if I should have offered it more and just let him keep dry nursing as long as he wanted. The only time I have said "no" was last night, and even then I said "milk is empty, remember? There's no milk left." He wanted to see that the milk was empty and was content.<br><br>
I know that no one can tell me if I did the right or wrong thing for my child and situation, but are these feelings normal? If so, was there anything that helped you "grieve," so to speak, or get through the feelings? Would you have done things differently?<br><br>
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I think they are normal feelings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
What was helpful for me was to help our son into a comforting substitute that worked for him, and lay down and snuggle with him, rub his back, and allow him as much physical contact as he wanted.
 

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Oh, I can relate to how you are feeling. Even though I've initiated and concluded weaning my 32 month old son, I am sad at times. I know it is the best for all of us. I know I would probably be much sadder if he initiated it. I agree closeness and snuggling are great. Unfortunately, mine also hits and kicks sometimes when he can't have it anymore. I am also pregnant (14 weeks!) so emotions are probably higher too. Be gentle with yourself and your and your son's processes. Trust. I'm sure I'm writing these things trying to reinforce them to myself too.....<br><br>
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Thank you for the kind words! I am feeling better now. I offered it again and he really wasn't interested. That helped me let go of the feelings that I had pushed this on him. I cried every night for 3 or 4 nights, but not since. The hardest time was when I wondered where he would be today if I hadn't gotten pregnant.<br><br>
So I have made peace with myself, and he seems at peace (though his behavior is less calm). I still can't bring myself to tell others that he has weaned yet. I'll get there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My 3y7m DD just weaned 3 weeks ago. We both were ready. She's proven she was much more ready than I gave her credit for. She only asked twice. I think Mama has had a harder time with it. She's so grown.<br><br>
What I have found to help is to have our own special cuddle time. And she's actually been more physically affectionate since weaning. I love our special time together alone. I had been tandem nursing for over 2 yrs. We were always a triad. Now it's just the two of us hugging, playing and talking.<br><br>
Maybe having more Mommy and me time will help you both.<br><br>
Oh I also bought a piece of jewelry for myself to commemorate 3.5 yrs of our nursing relationship.
 
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