Not allowed to scream???!!!

I yelled too... a lot!!! My friends said they could hear me from the elevator... My doctor never said that I couldn't or wasn't allowed to scream.

I gave birth in an ABC hospital (alternative baby care), and I was encouraged to do what was right for me.
Strange, because when my eldest son was born, I didn't make a sound, but the second time I gave birth, I'm sure I waked up the entire hotel (ABC is in a hotel). I was very surprised that I yelled so much, I thought I'd have the same control the second time. But it felt really good to scream it all out, even though it was animal-like and - in a "normal" situation - an embarrassing thing to do.

Luckily, nothing's embarrassing as we have babies.

(Oh my... my English is rusty. You have no idea how long it took me to write this )

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Nonsense, you would have been much more sensible and shouted "it's about d**ned time you talked sense!"

Karen-Ida,

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I agree with this completely (save the rusty English part )
I had my second at home and after a pit induced hospital birth with a 4th deg tear in which I was silent, I was sure that the whole neighborhood heard me moaning and screaming in labor w/ #2. I was as loud as a pack of wolves howling at the full moon! Apparently no one did, not even the two year old upstairs

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Yup, me too! I gave birth in a birth center both times, and my first I went through a very difficult transition with my daughter being stuck for a period of time and you bet I screamed! I think that sometimes screaming can release tension and some mothers benefit from it, but overall I think it's better to moan and ride the wave of the ctrx. But I think it's very unprofessional to tell a laboring mother not to make noise. Birth is noisy. It's kind of sad though, when I went to see my friend at the hospital after she'd given birth, the whole L&D floor was quiet .

I actually saw an episode of Baby Story a few years back where a nurse was actually putting her hand over mom's mouth, and telling her to be silent during pushing. The nurse then asked the husband to cover her mouth - and he oblidged. BTW, she certainly didn't even seem to be screaming, just loud moaning, not that it would have mattered anyway, I don't care if the entire floor could hear.

Watching that made me cry for the woman for the what I considered assult by her so called medical providers. It's sick.

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I'd have bit the living hell out of her hand!

Then again, were I told not to scream, I'd have let out a few Earth-shattering ones, just because.

I did not scream, but I moaned and hollered pretty loud while pushing with Esther, & looking back I feel kind of bad about it, because the older two were there and I scared them. Of course, if I'd had my wits about me enough to squat and push instead of staying in the lithomy position like they wanted, I doubt I'd have been in as much pain (I was seriously too out of it by then to move, though).

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THAT is horrible!! :

If that were me I would have 1) bitten the nurse's hand and probably called her some unladylike word; 2) bitten DH's hand and he would have been in the dog house for sooooooo long afterwards. My DH would never do that. He knows better!

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Ya mean like how my midwives chastised me for yelling (roaring? ) while they "forced" me into squatting ( I *hate* squatting, it's painful for me). They told me it's ineffective for pushing... well excuse the outta me!

Or how as soon as my dd was born my dh and I began sobbing and they told us to be quiet because we would scare my dd (who, btw was completely calm).

: Like those stories?

My husband actually asked our neighbors if they heard me...I was sooo loud. No one did though It was very primal and felt amazing!