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I keep seeing posts out there where the ladies just want to see the gender during the ultrasound. I have absolutely no desire whatsoever to find out the gender of this baby. All I want to know is that the baby and everything else is fine and healthy. Anyone else feel the same?
 

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Hmmmm.... personally, I have faith that this baby is fine, so I am not worried about the real reasons for the ultrasound. I am excited to find out the sex of the baby because that is the big unknown for me. I didn't find out with my son and that was awesome too.
 

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Yup, ME!!! I have strong feelings about not knowing the sex. VERY STRONG. I would be devasted if somehow I found out. Before the technician is even putting one hand on me on Friday, I will make it very clear to watch her/his pronouns, do not mention it and do not put it in my record.<br>
I am not too worried about the baby being healthy. I am more concerned about my placenta though. I had placenta accreta with dd and have more than a 50% chance of happening again. I could even have it worse, increta or percreta.
 

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Ditto!! If I weren't finding out the sex, I don't know if I'd have had an ultrasound.<br><br>
I really respect mamas who don't want to find out. I was SO conflicted this time... half of me wanted to find out, half of me didn't. We ended up finding out because DH really wanted to, but next time I don't want to. I'd like to have at least ONE baby be a "surprise". I hate surprises so I've enjoyed knowing, but I feel like I should experience that at least once.
 

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With the first 3 I found out but with the last one I didn't (UP) and as it turns out, our 'instinct' was right and it was really cool finding out when he came out! This time we won't know until birth again and I'm ok with it. I'm curious, but it's not crushing or anything, so I'm good.
 

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We like the surprise too, and so far none of our babies have been ultrasounded.I did have one once,after a mc,so I've seen my empty uterus.I almost had an US this time-I was VERY worried all was well,but after we heard the heart, I've been fine.They have all been dopplered.
 

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I am NOT finding out, thanks for starting this thread. I was starting to feel kinda left out. All I care is that little muffin is born safely and peacefully, preferably at home. I know either way I will be absolutley inseperable from this babe.<br><br>
We're not having a u/s unless there is a suspected problem. My midwives do not advocate u/s unless it is for a medical diagnosis, and then it needs to be very quick and to the point.<br><br>
I cannot wait to hear this little one's heartbeat! It was too early at my last prenatal to hear with the fetoscope, so July 7th hopefully we will hear it finally! Muffin has been moving for about 5 weeks now, so I know shim's doing OK so no worries, but it will still be reassuring to hear the heartbeat.
 

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See, I have to have an u/s and echocardiogram done to check all the babies' heart thouroughly since I have heart conditions. I could not go in to have them and not see if we could find out. kwim I would not have been crushed at all, though, if we couldn't, and that almost happened this time around. I mainly just wanted to know everything was healthy.
 

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Im waiting for the surprise, we weren't going to have any US's but it was killing me thinking it could be twins again so I did have a quick one and there is only 1! but I kinda like waiting, Im def. curious but like the surprise in the end, everyone wants to know from grandma to the ladies at church, I think I like making people wait! Plus I am saving myself all kinds of money.....I love to shop and would be buying tons of clothes that we really don't need if I new what bambino was!
 

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I agree with ma_vie_en_rose, I found out but I wouldn't have cared if they couldn't. We also need some extra care during u/s's because my last dd was born with a heart defect, so I figure they can check for gender too.
 

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I didn't find out with ds and I really didn't care. This time, it really mattered to me. I don't really know why there was such a difference. I know what you mean about not wanting to know.<br><br>
I didn't have an ultrasound at all with ds, though, and for this one, it was a quickie 5 minute look-for-sex-organs, not a full blown anatomy scan.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ditto!! If I weren't finding out the sex, I don't know if I'd have had an ultrasound.<br><br>
I really respect mamas who don't want to find out. I was SO conflicted this time... half of me wanted to find out, half of me didn't. We ended up finding out because DH really wanted to, but next time I don't want to. I'd like to have at least ONE baby be a "surprise". I hate surprises so I've enjoyed knowing, but I feel like I should experience that at least once.</div>
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Even though this time we want to find out I have to agree 100% that the surprise is great<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We were surprised twice, and I wouldn't change it for anything, but this time I'm ready to know what it feels like to know<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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If this one ends up being a boy I got my husband's promise we won't find out with the rest of our children. We will be prepared for a boy or a girl so there is no reason to find out. However, with this one we will find out. Id rather not but he would die of anticipation and annoy me to no end if we don't. I think it would ruin his fun in the pregnancy because he will worry we aren't prepared (we dont' have boys clothes, 99.9% of the clothing we have has flowers and bows on it and its pink)
 

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We chose not to find out with DD or this pregnancy.<br><br>
With DD we did not have an US. I loved finding out the sex on her birthday.<br><br>
With this one we had an US because I was measuring so far ahead and we/midwife wanted to check for twins. We told the tech we did not want to know, but DH asked for the sex in a sealed envelope which we will not open until after the birth. It's more for "did they get it right" than anything.<br><br>
In hindsight I would not have gotten this ultrasound. It has caused far more worry than it relieved over a .5mm difference in measurement. Our interpreter/tech got into percentages and issues and scared the daylights out of us over something that really isn't remotely likely to mean anything at this point.<br><br>
If we have more children we are planning to decline the US without significant medical reason.
 

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I am not finding out. It's pretty important to me not to find out. I have no vibes either way really. I was so sure my first was a girl (and he's not!) so any vibes I did have would be untrustworthy anyway!
 

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We had our ultrasound last week and opted not to find out. I just love the element of a birth day surprise! It's our first child and we're happy with either sex.<br><br>
Also, we look at it this way: we're going to know the sex of our baby for the rest of our lives after it's born. For these 40 weeks, it's nice to regard the baby as just pure being, rather than already thinking of it and referring to it as a particular sex and gender.
 

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We have always said we would not find out, that we wanted the surprise. But then 3 months in dh one day says "Are you SURE you don't want to find out?" I had already been thinking it but didn't want to bring it up, but his question opened the discussion.<br><br>
Actually a lot of it was for names. We've had a boy's name picked for years but the arguments for girls names were constantly ending in stalemates.
 

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We're not either! I don't want to, my husband kind of does, but he doesn't feel too strongly about it. I am <i>still</i> undecided on if I want an ultrasound at all. I don't feel like we need one, but I'm 20 weeks and still haven't felt the baby moving so I guess I'd like some reassurance. I heard the heartbeat again yesterday at the midwife appt. so I know it's fine. I just want to see it in there doing something <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br>
I can also see the fun in finding out ahead of time. Maybe we'll do it next time. Right now, I honestly don't care one bit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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we aren't finding out either. we didn't want to know with the twins, but we ended up knowing anyway (due to OB and MW comments). still not sure if i will seek an US with this one, i might want to know where my placenta is, to be sure its not over my scar.<br><br>
what i love most is when people ask if we know what we're having--A BABY! duh. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> a lot of folks have asked when we are going to find out. when he or she is born, of course! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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