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hey all,
im sure this is going to stir things up from the women, but this IS the dads section and im curious about something.
does your wife mind you viewing porn? ive been talking to some married friends and their wives seriously DO mind. most of which say " its demeaning towards women". jessica hahn did pretty well didnt she? sure she wasnt doing porn as in intercourse, but she did bare plenty in playboy. anna nicole smith (r.i.p.) did pretty well for herself. i think for some women it can be a power trip. sure, there might be some of those unfortunate younger women who get trapped in such a thing, but im sure its very minimal number.
women typically use their imaginations to "get off". a lot of men need visual.
so..... your wife isnt in the mood, and went to bed.. what do you do? your libido levels are skyrocketiing, and not a soul in sight. i find its better than cheating on your wife right?
here's another one... "someone's" wife was pregnant for teh first time, and NOBODY told you that some women go into "mom mode" where theyre touched all day by the baby and are not looking forward to MORE touching. man did "that person" feel unwanted. well "that person" was going on the internet to get release. now when he was intimate with his wife, it was love, not the release he gets from internet.. just to set things straight.
his wife knows he goes on the 'net, and is understanding of his dilemma. this is what's so amazing to his friends. as long as he does this struff when everyones asleep, or out of the house, whats the harm? how can women expect men to think or act like them? sure we have similarities, but does that mean that we have to be henpecked?
anyway.... i got off course

simple question is.. does your wife mind you watching porn?
 

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Hi dad's,

I'm going to go ahead and approve this because I think it's a valid topic. However, i want to caution everyone about discussing specific sex acts and such.

I would also like to ask our women posters to be respectful of the dad's as they work through this topic.

Gently,

Jacque
 

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um, woman's view here....I do not mind, but I would be mad to pay for it and I would be creeped out by anything illegal, such as anything involving underaged people. I would also be mad if it were to become a habit. A once in a while thing would be fine. It's important for women, especially new mothers, to feel attractive, so no comparisons and the interest in actual physical touch/sexual relations must remain intact.

anyway, that's my take on it.
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I don't care if my hubby watches porn. I'm not a big fan of it tho...
He and my dad go to a strip club once in a blue moon as well... doesn't bother me a bit.
I love my husband, and I know he loves me. And we trust each other.
 

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Another woman here. I don't mind of my husband looks at porn and sometimes I join him. He's even taken me to strip clubs a couple of times. As long as he's still interested in me for the most part, it doesn't bother me if he wants to look at (but not touch) other girls sometimes. Lately we've been having an issue with interest, but I know deep down that it's more about tiredness and my own insecurities than anything, so it's ok (and because the tiredness is his, he hasn't been looking at porn much either).

I think that, barring something like a porn addiction, most women object out of feelings of insecurity and/or low self esteem. They think that their hudband/SO is making comparisons or wishing that they looked more like the girls in the porn movies. I know from experience that this is not the case (again, for most men)!
I don't see it as being an different than me thinking about Sean Bean (mmm...Sean Bean
) during..uh..special moments. I don't love or want my husband any less because of it.
 

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The other prudes just don't want to answer so I will, I mind. It kinda makes me jealous and I'm not really into watching porn with my DH. I don't like him looking at other women naked etc. just as he would totally hate if I was doing the same without him. We did come to a compromise though because I am totally not in the mood anywhere near as often as he is. He reads racy stories on the internet instead of watching it. It makes me feel a little better about it and he gets what he needs.
 

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I don't mind it at all, but I have a family member who does mind when her partner does look at it, and their relationship doesn't include children. She claims a lot of the arguments mentioned in the OP. The partner may have an addiction, so my question is what constitutes an unhealthy habit?
 

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Thankfully I have a dh that thinks porn is gross lol

We both do not look at porn.

And I find the whole "I'm only a man, and men have these needs" argument kinda boring and so not true. Not all men have the impulse to get release when they want it. Or when dw is in a unloving mood.

I think people that like porn should have there fill don't get me wrong. Im not anti porn. I just don't see the attraction, neither does dh.

He caught my brother watching porn on his computer (dh's) once and freaked out that it was on his computer. my brother learned that its fine.. but keep it on your computer.. not dh's lol
 

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Nonjudgemental voice of dissent here! I don't expect my husband to think and act like me. I do expect him to abide by his vow to "keep thyself only to her, as long as you both shall live" which in my view means no porn, no strip clubs, no other women on the side, etc. But, we accomodate each other- dh has figured out that being a mama is taxing, and that good things happen to men who hold babies so mamas can shower alone without crying children trying to climb in the tub. I don't think "giving a little to get a little" makes a man henpecked.
 

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But, we accomodate each other- dh has figured out that being a mama is taxing, and that good things happen to men who hold babies so mamas can shower alone without crying children trying to climb in the tub. I don't think "giving a little to get a little" makes a man henpecked.
That's a great point! Sometimes there's nothing that you can do about a mom being "touched out" but sometimes you can. You can run a bath and take the baby for awhile....and no knocking at the door when you think her time is up! You can send her to the store alone or send her out for a dinner with one her friends. Paint her toenails for her while she feeds the baby. Straighten the living room, don't complain about what doesn't get done...etc

So, if you're trying to get her some time to actually feel like a woman again, that's different than....well, honey, you're all touched out again, I'll be on the computer tonight...have fun with that crying baby.

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Hmm. I've been on both sides of this. Early in my marriage I didnt mind at all. Then again I was in the midst of my own erotica addiction so it was pretty much tit for tat. Having conquered that vice (thank God) and into a very peaceful time as a christian I no longer look at any kind of porn/erotica.

My DH does and for the most part it still doesnt bother me. I do hope and pray that he will come to a point in his christian walk where he will want to do what is pleasing to God (based on traditional christian values) but it's not for me to impose my morals on his very private choices. I do draw the line at the super kinky where there is obvious, not implied, degredation, violence, illegality, etc. If our personal sex life were suffering i might think again or if it was an addiction.
 
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