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So we had our loss back in June (at 22.5wks), but as these holidays approach I just kinda dread them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Maybe it is just the fact that I had anticipated them totally being different since we were suppose to have two little ones with us this yr and they sure are different than what they were "suppose" to be or what I had dreamed them to be. So is it just me or do holidays kinda reminder you of what should have been?
 

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Definitely. I was due Dec. 18th, and since I went over with my last pregnancy, I was sure I'd have a brand new babe come Christmas day. It's very saddening, and I am not sure how many people IRL get that. It's been on my mind a lot lately.<br>
I am so sorry that you don't get to celebrate your boys' first holidays this year <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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A lot of my pregnancy thoughts were around the holidays. Oh, I might have a thanksgiving baby, but I'll definitely have a baby by christmas - wonder if I'll feel upto going to family on Xmas...<br>
And here I am, not even pregnant on Thanksgiving, let alone waiting for labor with a big belly and kicky baby. No baby in sight for us.<br><br>
I'm sorry for the loss of your boys.
 

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I would have been due right around Christmas with the baby I lost to ectopic pregnancy, so that's definitely on my mind.
 

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*HUGS* to all you mamas.<br><br>
I'm feeling the same way. I had visions of my being six weeks from my due date on Christmas Day, swollen and happy, unwrapping presents with my family. It's not going to be that way now and I definitely struggle with that.<br><br>
I'm feeling extra guilt - we're moving in a few weeks, just before Christmas and I'm grateful for the distraction. I'm trying really hard to make sure this Christmas is wonderful for my family despite my grief.<br><br>
Ladies, we'll make it thru it, we really will. But yeah, it's going to be hard. I'll be thinking of all of you.
 

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Thanks all for your responses! Even though I wish none of you were in the same boat as I am, I'm glad to not be alone dreading the up coming holiday and the what was suppose to "be" of the season. Mickiswing said it right... "we'll make it thru it".
 

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Travel, do something different or scale back. No need to make yourself more upset/anxious than you already are missing your little one. My hubby and traveled at xmas for several years after we lost our son and I'm so glad we did. We called it "the great escape".
 

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I had planned on announcing my pregnancy at Christmas when our families would be here. Instead I had to announce my miscarriage on Thanksgiving.<br>
I always thought it would be better to wait to announce pregnancy but next time I am announcing after a positive blood test. Because it was really hard to tell everyone that I was pregnant but already losing the baby and sorry that I slept most of Thanksgiving.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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The holidays will be really hard for me too. I found it too overwhelming to plan to be at the usual family Christmas, so this year it's just going to be DH and I. We may or may not do anything on the day. We were supposed to have our first child with us too, for his first Christmas. It's so hard. I'm not in the mood for anything Christmasy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I told DH I wanted the kids to spend Christmas at home for the kids. Really, it is just for me. I want to limit my time around my pg SIL. She is due same time I would have been had I not lost the baby. Its awful to admit but true.
 
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