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Last Sunday, our family went out to eat. Just as we were beginning our meal, a father and toddler began arguing loudly about where to sit and what to eat... you name it, they fought over it in very loud voices. The mother tried hard to please everyone but the scene ended with the little boy throwing himself into a major tantrum, stomping and wailing - you get the picture. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
The parents seemed to be unaware that others were present. Neither of them attempted to remove the child until the crisis had resided. They just ate their dinner as if things were just hunky dory !!<br><br>
What would you have done if you were the parents of the tantrum boy? What if you were an innocent bystander? Would you say/do anything? Just curious.
 

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that's ashame. i used to work at a fine dining restaurant, and i know the food's not cheap. if i were the parent, i would have removed my child from the restaurant until he/she calmed down. if the child was unable to politely rejoin the table, i'd make a request that the food be boxed to-go. what they did was selfish and rude.
 

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I wouldn't have argued with my child. Eating out is a treat for the whole family and we'd have tried to find a happy situation for everyone. If a meltdown came anyway, I'd walk her around until we were calm again.
 

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I would have done my best to help my child become calm, and if it didn't work pretty quickly we'd have probably gone to the restroom or outside. We'd make an effort to get back to happy and back to the table, but if that wasn't possible we'd just leave. (Taking our food if necessary.)<br><br>
Forcing an unhappy/overwhelmed/frustrated toddler to stay at a restaurant when you can leave just wouldn't work for me. It's not respectful to other diners and it's certainly not respectful to the toddler.
 

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With my almost-three-year-old, if he gets loud in a restaurant, he and I go stand outside until he calms down, then we go back inside. With my one year old, I give her the boob and she's usually happy again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> (That sometimes works with my son, too, but he gets himself REALLY worked up sometimes.)
 

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Takes a real man to argue with a toddler. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">:<br><br>
Ooh just last week it was that this was heatedly debated as a segue...
 

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I would say that unless there is something you can do to help - I wouldn't have done anything at all.<br><br>
Parents of toddlers deserve to <i>try</i> to go out and eat sometimes. Believe me it was harder on them than it was on you. And I seriously doubt they will try to go out and eat in a restaurant again anytime soon.<br><br>
And of course once the toddler settled down they all sat and ate like everything was ok - it was ok.
 
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