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DD is 10.5 mos old and most times, the only way she will go down to sleep is to nurse. I'm kind of ok with this because I LOVE BFing, but DH and I have wedding coming up to go to and I'm afraid no one else will be able to put her to sleep.<br>
Gone are they days when I used to be able to just lay her down with a pacifier and she'd happily go to sleep. I have to lay with her til she falls asleep and many times I end up sleeping, too, without getting to shower, eat dinner, or even brush my teeth!<br>
Also, she wakes up several times in the evening and pretty much the only way she'll go back down is to nurse. She used to take a pacifier, but that no longer works. Am I setting her up for bad sleeping habits later?<br><br>
By always laying with her to go to sleep am I "training" her to always have my or someone by her side to sleep? I'm not talking about "CIO" but I would like to know if you think she'll outgrow this and just sleep on her own sometime soon (I hope) .
 

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She will out grow it. Honestly.<br><br>
If it was something that kids didn't outgrow there would be plenty of adults in the world who would need mom or dad to lay down with them to get to sleep. Or who need to be nursed to sleep.<br><br>
She's 10 months old right now so what she needs most to get to sleep is to feel safe and emotionally and physically cared for. As she gets older, the way that she experiences that will change. Enjoy it now because evenutally she'll get old enough that she doesn't want you anywhere near her or her room when she goes to bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You'd be surprised what they'll do for other people that they won't do for you. I often try to push the limits of what I think is possible by doing something that seems a *little* bit more than we're used to--and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. That said, why not try having someone else put her to sleep a couple of times before the wedding, or have someone else just WITH her at bedtime. In the end, babies are responsible for their own sleep. If she tries to wait up for you, then there's not much to be done about it! But perhaps she'll just fall asleep for whomever watches her. Also, coming up with some options for the sitter for sleep--carseat (have them take a ride), sling/stroller/whatever, swing, etc. may work.
 

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She is still so young right now. She will 'outgrow' her need for parenting to sleep, but it probably won't be as soon as you would like. Most babies/children need help getting to sleep until 3 or 4.... You are lucky all you have to do is lay with her and nurse her to get her to sleep.<br><br>
She will probably go to sleep with someone else though, if they lay with her, or rock her to sleep. Are you leaving her overnight? Or just for the first part of the night?
 

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My dd is the same way with me.<br>
She falls asleep without me (babysat by other ppl) who just lay next to her,<br>
than with me next to her.<br>
Sometimes I think I make her more nervous.<br>
She is a little angel when I'm gone, I hear!<br>
She is 9 months
 

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2 of SIL's 3 kids nursed to sleep and coslept, but if I was babysitting (or just around), then I could get them back to sleep by snuggling with them for a couple of minutes. They realize "oh, you're not mom" and don't seem to need to nurse the same.<br><br>
And if I was there and in charge of getting them into bed, then I could hold them and rock them or walk or swing or whatever and they'd fall asleep that way. They always behave differently for people that aren't mom (this continues the rest of their life, too! lol)
 
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