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I am not technically a single parent but I sort of am logistically. I am happily married but my DH is out of town for a LONG time. He has been gone since Mar. 2nd and wont be home until Sept. So now, 2 1/2 months into him being away I feel like I am at the end of my rope. I work full time, have a WAHM business and an 18 month old. Most days I dont know which end is up.<br><br>
How do you all do this? I feel lucky that I can talk to DH 3 or 4 times a day and have his emotional support but just getting through each day alone is tough.<br><br>
So I have been sort of keeping this all in and not really dealing with it and now I guess I am wondering if this is the place to talk about it and get some perspective. I need to do something because I just cant see myself getting through the next 3 1/2 months with the way things are going.
 

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The only answer I can think of to this question is that it just.....gets done, somehow. You'll be exhausted and sleep-deprived, and often not at your best, but we all do what we need to do in a tough situation. I think at some point most of us fall into a rhythm (though it can be a very difficult and off-beat rhythm).<br><br>
Do you have friends/family that can offer you emotional support and an ear?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Unfortunately I dont have any family here where we live (AZ) they are all in N. Cal and DH's family are all in NJ and the Dominican Republic. I have one friend here who has a 10 month old DS and her husband is gone until Sept also so we spend every weekend together -- she spends the night every Fri and sometimes Sat. night. But we both work full time so its hard to get together on the week days.<br><br>
I talk to my parents a lot and a couple of my close friends which helps but its hard just not having anyone actually here you know?<br><br>
I guess you are right you just get through it an eventually it must get easier right? I hope?
 

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Sorry it's tough for you now, but you have a light at the end of the tunnel! ONLY 3.5 more months! You can do it. Mocha is right, you just need to find your multi-tasking rhythm. It is the little things that count. Like cooking a huge meal enough to last you a few days, so you don't have to spend a lot of time cooking each day. Prioritizing the things that will drive you crazy if you don't do them each day! Like for me, if I don't shower for a couple of days, it isn't going to keep me up at night... same with not having a super clean house.<br><br>
You'll get through it... and you can certainly vent here, as we all know just what you're going through.<br><br>
Good Luck,<br>
Karen
 

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I'm now a single mom, but my husband traveled 3-4 days a week before we separated and when this travel started I thought I wasn't going to make it. But, just like you're exhausted when you start a new job, in a few months it's old hat. You develop strategies, contingency plans etc. The truth is even though I'm single my stbx takes Maddy 3 days and 2 nights a week so I actually get more free time than I used to. What you might not know is that 18months is a particularly challenging age, there's a lot going on and a lot of frustration. Breathe deeply, take care of yourself,and really make fun a priority. My house is not clean, but I'm a lot happier if my dd and I have great adventures (thank heavens for summer!!!) All the best,<br><br>
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Take things a day at a time and keep things as simple as possible.<br><br>
Focus on this moment or this day instead of looking forward to when he's back. I actually find it easier to be on my own knowing I don't get a "break" than the days when I stared at the clock waiting for my husband to get home and give me a "break".
 

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I agree, My ex used to work out of town too and I would go crazy waiting for him to come home. I think the only real difference between now and then is that now I know that noone is going to walk thru the door and help me with the kids so that I can clean or whatever. (And I have two more kids now than I did then :LOL )<br><br>
Lately when I have been feeling like I can not handle another second of it I have been loading every one in the car...we have explored the malls and the beach, the harbor, a couple really great parks, the library....I think kids need to get out just as much as we do!!
 
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