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Hello,<br>
I'm guessing you don't have many males come on here to talk about this, but I've got a few questions and comments.<br><br>
First of all, at 5 years old I was circed due to the foreskin not "retracting" at an early age and my mother wasn't educated on the matter and it happened. I hate it to this day. I want to sue my doctor and seriously hurt the pedi who did it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I'm not sure what to do about this. I had no problems with this up until I had a girlfriend who loves me dearly and we make love quite a bit. We've been dating for 10 months now and I have never been able to have an orgasm as I am not sensitive enough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I'm guessing this is because of being circed as we have taken other things into account. My doctor said there's nothing I can do about the insensitivity and I'm really angry.<br><br>
On the bright side, because of this, my girlfriend and I have come to a conclusion that if we do have children, they're never being circumcised. It's wrong in my opinion. I am curious about one thing though, how come the foreskin is attached to the glands, and what are the dangers of premature retraction?<br><br>
I kind of want to sue my doctor over this because it's her fault I'm having these problems. It's sick really...<br>
Anyways, any insite on this would be appreciated. Thanx!
 

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Please do look into sueing your Dr it is the only thing that seems to influence them. Foreskin restoration might help with your current problems it's not exactly the same as being intact but I hear it helps. In the Penn & Teller BS episode on circumcision there is a young man who did sue the Dr and restore his foreskin.
 

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First, welcome to MDC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greet.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greet"><br><br>
There is a poster here, Dave2GA, who is an attorney. PM (private message) him - he may be able to point you in the right direction for suing the doctor. I'd definitely pursue that!<br><br>
Foreskin restoration may help you regain some or even most of the sensitivity you lost in the circ. Here is a link to the foreskin restoration sticky thread:<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=410284" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=410284</a><br><br>
I understand it is a long process, taking years, but that the increase in sensitivity can be apparent relatively soon in the process. We have several posters here that have undertaken foreskin restoration themselves, or their partner has done so. I'm sure one of them will post soon.<br><br>
In infants (and children until it separates) the foreskin is attached to the glans as a protective mechanism. It's like kittens' eyelids are fused shut for the first week of life to protect their eyes from their litter mates' claws. The foreskin is attached to protect the glans from wear and tear and poop and pee.<br><br>
The risks of premature retraction include wounds on the inner surface of the foreskin and the glans where the fused areas are ripped apart (like pulling your fingernails from their beds would leave wounds), tears in the tissue at the opening of the foreskin where the muscle that keeps the tip of the foreskin closed is forced open, scar tissue that develops in any of these areas (especially if the retraction is repeated), and recurrent infection often brought on by repeated too-diligent cleaning (forcing the foreskin back and washing with soap). If scar tissue develops, it can make the foreskin difficult or impossible to retract, but even this can be solved by less drastic means than circumcision.<br><br>
The only true medical reasons for a circ are cancer of the foreskin, gangrene or frostbite. The "had to get circ'ed" rates in countries where circ is not routine are TINY - very very few males "have" to get circed. There's just a lot of cut-happy doctors in the USA.<br><br>
I am sorry for what happened to you. I'm sorry for ALL the men and boys it has happened to, including my husband.
 

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As Anne-Marita said you can restore. I am in the process, and it in the first few months there was a noticeable increase in good feelings for both my wife and myself.<br><br>
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thanks a lot for the information on this. also, my mom some how brought it up and she found out how I felt about it and said she's sorry (even though that doesn't really help).<br>
About suing, I would do it, but I'm poor so that doesn't help at all plus I'm just an 18 year old guy. I doubt I could do that to a rich doctor. Also, wouldn't it be the university or the schools fault for having her not taught correctly?<br>
Also, the info on premature retraction is interesting. I did not know it could do so much damage. I've seen doctors do that and think it was done on me, but I can't remember so I'm not sure.<br>
Thanx!
 

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Definately go for foreskin restoration. I'm doing it myself, although it's not been long so there's been no real difference just yet. It takes a lot of dedication though, so you really have to stick with it if you want things to improve. Good luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">thanks a lot for the information on this. also, my mom some how brought it up and she found out how I felt about it and said she's sorry (even though that doesn't really help).<br>
About suing, I would do it, but I'm poor so that doesn't help at all plus I'm just an 18 year old guy. I doubt I could do that to a rich doctor. Also, wouldn't it be the university or the schools fault for having her not taught correctly?<br>
Also, the info on premature retraction is interesting. I did not know it could do so much damage. I've seen doctors do that and think it was done on me, but I can't remember so I'm not sure.<br>
Thanx!</div>
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Well, maybe a lawyer would take it on a contingency basis. I would pm the attorney mentioned in the previous post Dave2GA.<br><br>
I am really sorry that you were circumcised against your will, and what sounds like for no medical reason other than a doctor's ignorance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I've met plenty of guys who weren't retractable until puberty...that's all normal.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">About suing, I would do it, but I'm poor so that doesn't help at all plus I'm just an 18 year old guy. I doubt I could do that to a rich doctor. Also, wouldn't it be the university or the schools fault for having her not taught correctly?</div>
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From what I understand you need to sue fairly soon after you turn 18. If you put it off till you have more money to hire a lawyer you may miss your window of opportunity. If a lawyer thinks you have a case they will likely take you on a contingency basis like Phatcristy says.<br><br>
It would be nice if the medical schools taught medicine better, but since circumcision <i>"for medical reasons"</i> is a billable procedure Doctors won't stop doing this to other little boys till they realize it may not payoff in the long run.
 

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Kallin there are a couple of men on here.<br><br>
I'm a man but I'm intact so I can't really relate to your problem, but I empathize with you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Did your mom say why she did it?
 

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Welcome to the forum, Kalin! I'm another guy who is angry about my circumcision, and angry that it's still be done to boys. I've found this forum to be very supportive and a safe haven, so to speak, where I can express my real thoughts about circumcision without fear of backlash (because everyone here agrees that it's terrible).<br><br>
I feel angry for what happened to you as well. You have my deepest support and sympathy. What has happened to you is horrific. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk to another guy (and if not, that's cool too).<br><br>
I agree with others that you should definitely pursue legal action--if that's still an option. Look into it very, very soon because (if I recall correctly) there's a legal time limit after you turn 18 for when you can sue over things like this.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Foreskin restoration may help you regain some or even most of the sensitivity you lost in the circ.</div>
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That's a bit misleading. Some, yes. Most, no. Circumcised men <a href="http://www.nocirc.org/touch-test/touchtest.php" target="_blank">simply lack the most sensitive anatomy of the penis</a>, and no amount of tissue expansion can bring it back.<br><br>
Restoration is still worth pursuing, of course, since it can potentially restore a lot of sensitivity. But that "a lot" still isn't most, unfortunately. If it were, then my biggest gripe with circumcision (the loss of specially sensitive anatomy) would be gone, because guys could always get it back later if they really wanted.
 

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OMG, you're soooooooo lucky to be 18. I'm deeply sorry you were circumcised due to misinformation. Myself, I'm a 31-year-old intact guy and LOVE my foreskin! You actually can't pay me enough money to part with my foreskin, and that's a fact! The reason why I say you're lucky is because you have age on your side for suing the doctor. While I don't know the number of circ'd males who have successfully sued their doctors, I <b><span style="font-size:large;">do</span></b> know there's a statue of limitation on time. It starts at 18. I'd seriously look into it. My doctor before I was born was one of a few reasons why I was left intact. I wanted to thank him a couple years ago when he was about to retire. He died 6 months after.
 

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Welcome! I was re-circ'd when I was six due to problems caused by the initial circ. as an infant. It's the same way with me; trust me, the lack of sensation will only continue to go downhill. I didn't question anything about it until well past 18. If I understood things then as well as I do now, I would've sued the living daylights out of both doctors. Besides the fact that you deserve compensation for what they did to you, hitting these jokers in the wallet may be the ONLY thing that <i>may</i> get their attention to end this stupidity.
 

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Welcome and thank you for sharing you story. I think you should look into a lawsuit, primarily for yourself. Secondary though, you are in such a great position to help people understand why circumcision is so wrong. Don't be shy or embarassed to speak out! You will be helping countless boys in the future if you do.<br><br>
I wish you the absolute best of luck and I hope you keep coming here! If nothing else, keep us posted and accept our support with this problem.
 

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I would sue the doctor. The only way doctors will stop performing such a lucrative procedure is to make it not so lucrative for them. Hit them in the pocketbook. I'm sure there are lawyers who would take the case for a percentage of however much you got out of the lawsuit.<br><br>
Definitely at least consider restoration. It won't bring back all that you lost, but it should help you quite a bit. I'm sorry that you have to deal with the results of the ignorant ped and your mom's decision (I'm sure she meant well and didn't know any better).<br><br>
There are quite a few men around the board here. Some circumcised, some intact, some restored <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> The more I learn about circumcision and hear stories like yours, the more grateful I am to my MIL for learning about circumcision before giving birth to my dh. I wish I had been able to thank her before she passed away for the gift she gave to him of leaving his body whole.<br><br>
If your lawsuit (by convincing doctors to stop offering circumcision) or your story (by convincing parents that the procedure is not without serious consequences) can help save just one baby boy from being circumcised then I believe your suffering has not been in vain <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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wow, thanks a lot guys. I think I will look into suing for this. I could use the money and want to hit that doctor where it hurts (the wallet). She's not even sensitive to peoples feelings either.<br>
Where would I start for looking in to this, and since I have a time limit I need to know soon.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Where would I start for looking in to this, and since I have a time limit I need to know soon.</div>
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Contact either the poster mentioned here or go ; <a href="http://www.arclaw.org/#activities" target="_blank">http://www.arclaw.org/#activities</a>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">From what I understand you need to sue fairly soon after you turn 18. If you put it off till you have more money to hire a lawyer you may miss your window of opportunity. If a lawyer thinks you have a case they will likely take you on a contingency basis like Phatcristy says.<br><br>
It would be nice if the medical schools taught medicine better, but since circumcision <i>"for medical reasons"</i> is a billable procedure Doctors won't stop doing this to other little boys till they realize it may not payoff in the long run.</div>
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