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Not sure what to feel

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My oldest nursling will be 4 in about 2 weeks. Lately, I've had to grit my teeth whenever she wants to nurse because I can't really stand it anymore
. I can nurse her younger sister (just turned 2) with no problems at all. I would like my older nursling to wean when she's ready, with little or no interference, but not sure how much longer I can take it!! She's nursing only a couple times a day, morning & night, but I just get so irritated with her I don't know what to do!!

Any advice for me??
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Can you gently limit her nursing time? Like say you can nurse now, but only for a count of 10 or 20 or whatever? DUring those times when I can't stand nursing, this helps us.

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad about this.

Do you know "why"? Is it a physical sensation, is it mental, has she changed her latch, is she moving around too much, etc...?
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I think it's more of a mental thing. She has a god latch, & doesn't move around a lot. I limit her time a bit now, and I don't want to decrease it even more. It's hard to explain I guess.

She has a raging fever right now, and I've been letting her nurse every couple of hours. Hasn't bothered me as much as usual though.

yes I have felt this too

this is what I do........
when I begin to feel irritable, I intentionally think how wonderful it is that my son nurses and how lucky I am to be the one who nurses him

if this doesn't work then I find a way I can negotiate a rest from nursing

my DS almost 5 now, will work with my limitations this way
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I feel for you. It was the same for me also. It reminded me of when my cat was weaning her kittens. She'd just get up and walk away. A the time I thought it was mean, but when I started to get the "this is enough!" feeling with my DS, I finally sympathized with her.

There was just something about the 'fit' of nursing that didn't feel right anymore.

No suggestions, just wanted you to know you're not alone
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