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First of all, I think of anyone who trivializes the death camps by using the phrase "Nipple Nazi" this way as a loser and incredibly insensitive to, oh, Jewish nursing moms for starters, and how about any intelligent human being while I'm at it?

I know, you want me to tell you what I REALLY think...


Whether we breast-feed for over a year or for two weeks or not at all, we're constantly on the defensive


But I now feel some solace with the realization that the longer a woman nurses, the harder it becomes to stop....Fear, rather than self-sacrifice, prompts many nursing mothers to just keep on unbuttoning that shirt.


Lots of misinformation here. Apparently she believes that all babies should magically wean at their first birthday. Little alarms start ringing in their bellies on their 365th day of life.

Fear kept me nursing? Oh no. Commitment kept me nursing. Joy kept me nursing. Love kept me nursing.

Oh the horror of warm snuggles on winter mornings! Oh the horror of having a toddler go from screaming tantrum to blissed out, eyes-rolling-up, sleeping angel in nanoseconds! How DID I ever put up with those milky grins?

I had bottle fed my first child, and I cannot remember every relating to a single word in that essay. When nursing didn't work out the first time, I only wanted to try harder the next time, not turn on nursing moms with venom and scorn like this.
 

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your words are much more eloquent than the ones i was gonna write


i just feel sorry for any children she raises.
 

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Yeah, weird, I read that article awhile back. Is it being republished? The date on that website said September 19, 2003. Oh, but maybe that was a search date. In any event, I think there was a discussion on it here.
 

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OK since I vented and got my anger out (thanks for calling me eloquent mom to tig!)

Now I can step back and say...

she's obviously in pain. Her jealousy, her hostility, her ONLY taking notice of the negatives around her (other moms being tired or negative in her perception) make me think of

DEPRESSION

So I guess her article is part insensitivity, part guilt, and part PPD in my opinion. After I vented I calmed down I really do feel sorry for her; she sounds so unhappy.


Mommy brain, I can't even remember if I posted on the other thread...I"m gonna go look!
 

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She has to wear button-down or loose-fitting, unfashionable nursing shirts.
Not me! I have never owned any nursing clothes; I wear tank tops, belly shirts, sweaters, and just about anything else and have never had a problem NIP because of it.

I was shocked to see this was written by Leora Tanenbaum! She has written some pretty progressive stuff before, stuff that really reaches out to women.
 

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man, i feel sorry for that gal.

and you notice how she called her first childs bf experience an "experiment"? I don't want to be all mean and just diss on her or anything, but it sounds like from the beginning she was ok with breastfeeding "not working" for her. "Oh well, that experiment proved fruitless, on to other things!"

Like I said. I feel sorry for her. She missed out on alot.
 

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And I didn't find pumping to be inconvenient at all! Of course, I didn't pump anywhere but at home, but still...it doesn't take as long as nursing, the way she said. In fact, I could pump while I was typing, but could not nurse while typing, reaading, doing homework, etc. until dd could support her own body.

I used to get up early in the morning before dd woke and pump 4 to 8 oz, and it took less than 10 minutes. Then she would get up and nurse, and it took almost an hour.

If for some reason I found it too painful to breastfeed, I would pump. Even if I "couldn't pump enough" and had to use formula too, some breastmilk is better than none!

She could have benefitted from seeing a LC or going to LLL, but it seems she was just looking for an excuse to quit.

I really don't think women ebf to "one up" each other. Like, "Oh, there have been women on MDC nursing 6-and-7-year-olds; now I have to nurse until age 8 just to be better than them!" No, the best thing I can do is nurse until dd is ready to stop. I really doubt that 3-month-old babies just decide not to nurse anymore.
 

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The "teeth-rattling pain and inconvenience" ? Well, apparently she was doing it wrong. Maybe she should have gotten help from a LC and then she wouldn't be so defensive and bitter. Wow, there wasn't much in the article that didn't make me mad.
 
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