noticed people aren't really happy for us?

Is your family, doesn't what the others think about the situation, enjoy your pregnancy, is a bless if you are pregnant.......and I am happy with your pregnancy. :

I'm sorry. I'm due with #4 in July and haven't really experienced this much. I think at this point, people just aren't that surprised anymore! I wouldn't explain anything to them. It doesn't matter if it was planned or unplanned. A baby is a blessing. Do you think maybe you might be reading too much into it? Your own emotions about an unplanned pregnancy could cloud your perceptions on how people are actually reacting.

Our #3 was slightly unplanned. I was not thrilled with the idea of being pregnant. I didn't tell people for several months because I just wasn't up for hearing the "CONGRATS!!" and mirroring the excitement. I waited until I was in that place to tell people.

Aww, mama I am so sorry! I agree with the other posters, there's no reason for you to explain ANYTHING to ANYONE. YOU and your family are excited about this new little life! So when you break to news to people, do it with a BIG smile on your face and don't even give them the chance to be negative about it

What a bummer

We haven't run into that reaction with #3 on the way. Everyone has been thrilled so far, but we haven't told tons of people yet- so there's still time

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Exactly what I was going to say!! I'm so sorry about the reaction you got. Every child is a blessing.

Yup, unfortunately. Totally the norm. We got it from four on up. Although I have been pleasantly surprised this time. It has been better this time. Not great, but better. Maybe because they are quite certain we are crazy.

As for the stupid breeder bit. Google "demographic winter" & "population myth". That junk is based on the incorrect theory of Thomas Malthus (You can also look up "Malthusian economics". That was popularized by a book in the mid 60's that Al Gore is/was a huge fan of. Unfortunately Mr Gore and others who have read the book did not do their homework to learn that it is based on faulty and non-factual premises.

And as for me I am thrilled to hear you are pregnant! Remember it is a surprise, because a surprise is something wonderful that you didn't know you wanted. An accident is something bad that you wouldn't want to happen. Language is powerful!!!

And when I am asked "Do you know what causes it?" My answer is "Whipped cream and sleeping kids!" DH who works in a prison, usually answers "Whipped cream and handcuffs!" Usually stops the rude comments in their tracks. Either it makes them laugh or it makes them embarrased. But either way, they realize that they probably shouldn't be asking about my sex life!

Just stumbled upon this thread in new posts- but wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS! Each and every pregnancy/ new baby is exciting and should be treated as such. I'm sorry you're not getting that vibe from other people in your life, but try to focus on the miracle within

Yes-- I have noticed this and I've barely told anyone. It was not this way with #3, so #4 must be crossing some invisible line.

Here's a thread that may make you feel better:

Just to clarify, no, I'm not stupid

what about the opposite? For a number of reasons I won't go into right now, I'm not happy about this pregnancy (it's my 11th/I have 3 kids so far) and people expect me to be all happy shiny about it. Even when I do explain, they try to get me to perk up. These are good friends and family, they know I'm not a perky person and more importantly, they know what I go through pregnant. it's very annoying. :

(I'll get to that happy place, I'm sure, but right now I'm not)

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i think so, too. most people seem genuinely happy, but there is a look of horror on some people's faces, lol! even though this baby was definitely planned (albeit for a few months later), even dh is a little stunned. he just keeps saying "wow, four is ... so many." lol!

People are crazy. Not to get all political in a DDC, but who exactly do they think is going to pay for their social security if we all stop having kids or have fewer kids, ya know?

The heck with them. I've been told and I really believe that you never regret the kids you have, only the ones you didn't. Congratulations on the new little one coming to your family.