[DoulaClara]

Ok, ladies;

I thought I had this all figured out six or so weeks ago. Modified T sort of a position, and everyone's happy.

Now, it's comically like an elephant trying to GIO with a person. Nothing's quite working the way it was! Not to mention, things are sort of swollen and strange looking (sheesh, anyone grab a mirror out of curiosity lately?)

So anyway, keeping things within the realm of the User Agreement, of course, has anyone hit on any good ideas lately? Anything different for those of us carrying completely in the front, vs. having it sort of all over?

Clara

 

[Squirt]

You're brave for even considering sex at this point. I've just about given up on it because every time we attempt it, I can't get over how ridiculous I feel. It's funny because during my second trimester and the beginning of the third, I had that sexy pregnant feeling. Back then, it was fun working around my belly. Now my sexy feelings are pretty much gone, and I just have that I'm-hugely-pregnant feeling. We've been cuddling, which sometimes gets a little frisky, but no actual sex. Gees. I feel like a prude.

 

[IamPink]

That's all I've got to say!

 

[Panthira]

OMG sex? Seriously? LOL

Well, when it happens, I find that having DH half sit, half lay against the headboard with me straddling on top is best. I don't feel like so much of an elephant in that position.

When it happens. DH has very little interest being sick right now and I have very little interest being huge.

 

[~Demeter~]

It's not happening much here.. we were doing the tried and true spooning position for most of my pregnancy but the last time we GIO I got up on all fours. It was actually FAR more comfortable than even the spooning position and I didn't feel like there was a lot of attention brought to the tummy. DH just isn't turned on by baby belly so that was a plus. I'm really not interested much lately which is different than my previous pregnancies. I actually much prefer to masturbate.. (

) I get the job done and don't feel all icky after. (It's just so difficult to clean up after now!)

Now that I'm sure you all know way more about me than you ever wanted to know.

 

[bdavis337]

It has to be all fours, or nothing. But recently, even that's been impossible, b/c my belly is so big, and I'm just sort of rocking there on top of it, like I'm on a beach ball. So I've really given up. Tom's pretty pissed, but it's so uncomfortable and even painful, that I just can't do it.

 

[SleepyMamaBear]

oh jeez sex...

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its just NOT happening much around here lately.
its either on all fours, and not quite comfortable, but not too painful, or its spooning in a T or X shape. and thats a lil more comfortable but still not 100% painfree.
sex happens more on a solo basis around here for both of us. poor guy.
mainly the only time we DO have sex is after i have had my pain medicine and fall asleep to him rubbning on me in his sleep.

my husband, the sleep humper!

 

[becoming]

Poor DH is having to do all the work these days. We either do the T position you're describing, or rear entry with me kind of turned sideways so as not to squash the baby.

We're down to only DTD about 3x a week now, which is crazy little for us! Poor DH, I think he's as ready as I am for this pregnancy to be over.

I'm with the rest of you on feeling ridiculous even attempting these days.

 

[SleepyMamaBear]

OMG my husband would feel blessed with 3X a MONTH!!!

 

[MamaSpruce]

ONLY 3x a week? We're trying to get it in at least twice, as that man juice is so good for cervical ripening and we figuring it is going to be tough finding the time and inclination for awhile with a toddler AND a newborn. But I'm with Nic, all fours is the best position and taking care of myself is just easier.

 

[Eben'sMama]

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Originally Posted by bdavis337 It has to be all fours, or nothing.

Yeah, same here. I find if you put a pillow or two (or fold the body pillow in half) and put it under your belly and chest, it really helps to support and stabilize your torso, so you don't feel like you're going to roll over onto your head!

 

[DoulaClara]

Oh man! Well, we're shooting for 2X a week, but sometimes it happens, sometimes not. Pillows kind of help here. Oh well... I guess we'll just have to keep on doing what we're doing; doesn't sound like anyone has anything we haven't thought of! Honestly, sometimes we both die laughing because it's sort of ridiculous to try to get into a position.

Clara

 

[becoming]

I might have to show DH this thread so he'll stop feeling deprived!

We are normally of the every-single-day-without-fail tribe, so 3x a week is very different for us!

 

[~Demeter~]

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Originally Posted by becoming I might have to show DH this thread so he'll stop feeling deprived! We are normally of the every-single-day-without-fail tribe, so 3x a week is very different for us!

You lucky girl! I wish my dh was more interested in sex but after the first couple of years (read: 2 kids later) I'm surprised I got pregnant.. no not really we have a healthy, active sex life usually but sometimes I have to remind him hey dammit it's been a week already! When I'm pregnant he's just not interested hardly at all. I will say that my drive is much higher than his though.

 

[brittneyscott]

We've been only DTD about once every 1-2 weeks because it was so uncomfortable and I was feeling so bad. Now we're up to about 2-3 times a week but only because I'm reminding myself that it'll hopefully send me into labor. I'm starting to get discouraged though. I mean how much can you have sex just to try to go into labor? We use the T position everyone's talking about but it does no good for me so then I have to resort to the handle-it-yourself approach. Oh well I can't wait for the postpartum phase to be gone so we can have REAL sex back!

 

[manitobamama]

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Originally Posted by Mumof3Nic You lucky girl! I wish my dh was more interested in sex but after the first couple of years (read: 2 kids later) I'm surprised I got pregnant.. no not really we have a healthy, active sex life usually but sometimes I have to remind him hey dammit it's been a week already! When I'm pregnant he's just not interested hardly at all. I will say that my drive is much higher than his though.

Nic,
I'm right there with ya, I have a way higher sex drive than dh. I always have had a exteremly high drive. Even when we were first dating he was like whoa and then he came along with me for a while (it was easier when he lived 3 hours away and we only saw each other on weekends) Now I'm so lucky if I get it once a week! If I initate it I would get it more often but right now I"m just too big and tired to try for more.

: I thought all men wanted it all the time? OH well like someone else said it is less hassel to just do it myself at least now!
I do know that when we are both feeling great ie working out eating right etc we both have higher sex drives, just too bad I can't increase his and leave mine at the same level.

 

[sleet76]

We're still going strong. My DH is pretty needy, and I want this baby out before our move as naturally as possible. So... lots and lots of DTD here.

We can do missionary for a little while until his back hurts too much from bending backward, we can do a laying side-by-side position (I have to angle away from him quite a bit), me on hands-and-knees with a pile of pillows under me is probably the easiest for me, and if I scooch to the edge of the bed, and we can work out the right heights, he can stand and me lay on the bed.

This all works because he's desperate to DTD, and is willing to be the one to put up with difficult and painful positions!

 

[goddessjulia]

Nic, I'm so glad you 'fessed up-- I was hiding over here figuring I was the only one self-servicing these days!

it's been kinda weird, I've had a higher drive than usual, but I haven't been wanting to share it

I guess with all the stresses and irritations that's just how it's manifesting for me. it's been a couple of months now, which seems awful, but we've had so much on our plates, and now we've agreed not to until we're ready for the baby because we're both afraid it will start labor at this point!

all that said, the position that worked for us when we *did* dtd, which we figured out when I was pg with ds, was kind-of a scissors maneuver. dunno if it's the same as the T you're all talking about. I would be on my side, with dh on his knees, and my top leg would be thrown over his shoulder or arm to keep it out of the way. all fours was always too deep for me

 

[ChelseaG]

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Originally Posted by MamaSpruce But I'm with Nic, all fours is the best position and taking care of myself is just easier.

Same here - on all fours was the only way it was working (with a pillow under my chest and head) -but now I am strangely sensitive on my inside front wall and the penetration is almost painful... So it has been mostly self service here - though I expect I will give DH a little action for father's day tomorrow...

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[Emma's_Mommy]

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Originally Posted by AddysMama OMG my husband would feel blessed with 3X a MONTH!!!

my hubby would be happy with 3 times a trimester

i serously dont think we've had sex since finding out natalie was a girl

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